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What happened to getting married before having children?

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  • pigpen
    pigpen Posts: 41,152 Forumite
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    I do hope you are not implying my morals are anything other than.. moral?

    Until last year I had only had 1 sexual partner.. I have now progressed to 2.. both are strange..

    It isn't my fault the one father of all my children decided to have a mental breakdown and develop alleycat tendencies... that was entirely his own choice.. coming home with crabs was the last straw though... great way to throw away 20 years of marriage.
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  • seven-day-weekend
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    Fang wrote: »
    That says so much more about you than anyone else.


    I expect you mean that as a compliment.:beer:
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  • Oldernotwiser
    Oldernotwiser Posts: 37,425 Forumite
    seven-day-weekend wrote: »
    I expect you mean that as a compliment.:beer:

    You beat me to it!
  • Oldernotwiser
    Oldernotwiser Posts: 37,425 Forumite
    pigpen wrote: »
    I do hope you are not implying my morals are anything other than.. moral?

    Not at all - just that you had a large brood.

    (Does anyone actually "choose" to have a mental breakdown?)
  • pigpen
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    Oldernotwiser wrote: »
    Not at all - just that you had a large brood.

    (Does anyone actually "choose" to have a mental breakdown?)

    Hey.. I'm good at what I do.. actually I do rather like my own brood.. apart from this week.. when i don't because they have all been vile!

    And yes it was a path he chose.. mid-life crisis type of thing.. loses several stone, takes up dancing and karaoke and decides to sleep around.. kind of a conscious decision to lose the plot.. Why he couldn't just buy a car like normal men I have no idea.
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  • pigpen
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    Spender wrote: »
    Most men who go through a mid life crisis end up buying a powerful motorbike which they end up crashing.

    that would be fine.. we had life insurance...
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  • clairibel
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    It makes me laugh all these so called ideologies..marriage first then children. Who says? some sexist male yonks ago according to the church.

    I had my son 2 years before marriage came, he came to the wedding and looked cute on the pics and i've had people say to me "i'm doing it the right way" but who says thats the right way, why live life according to someone else, i'm no less of a person or parent because my son was born before marriage, we are still together, married even, it just didn't happen in the way too many people feel it should.

    I have found though that those couples who have done it the so called right way, well at least 3 of them have had to have IVF because they waited so long, marriage, then time together, then kids :eek: One is still trying, i know whats more important to me and thats kids married or not. :T
  • Mely
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    seven-day-weekend wrote: »
    f you love and respect someone, why on earth not give them the legal status of marriage? Otherwise it's like flatmates who sleep together.

    Agree completely with the OP.
    I agree completely with the op too.:D
  • Fang_3
    Fang_3 Posts: 7,602 Forumite
    seven-day-weekend wrote: »
    I expect you mean that as a compliment.:beer:
    Seems unlikely.
  • Oldernotwiser
    Oldernotwiser Posts: 37,425 Forumite
    clairibel wrote: »
    i know whats more important to me and thats kids married or not. :T

    I'm afraid I see that attitude as the reason why there are so many broken relationships and over important children these days.
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