Lose weight 30

sarymclary

Hey gang,
Just a quick check in to say hi. Still incredibly busy here. I'm on day 5 or is it 6? of decorating the hall/stairs/landing. I'm so sick to death of it now I can tell you. I've got the 'ump with the other half because he's done little if nothing to help, and yesterday after he sat watching MotoGP for 6 hours, while I traipsed up/down ladders, plus doing loads of washing, etc., it occurred to me that I was being a mug. I'm decorating an average of 10 hours a day. I ran out of paint halfway though, have had to buy more paint, and it's a different batch, so having to go over all the walls again. But I'm still trying to carry on with my usual mum chores. If a bloke does some DIY, or a job, that's pretty much all they do, so why is it us women have to multi-task? So yesterday, in protest I did the kids pizza for tea, as it was easy & didn't have to be watched while cooking so I could get on with painting, and didn't do him anything (partly also because he didn't think to make my little one any lunch yesterday, but did his own & went back to watching TV, so I ended up having to come down the ladders to make him some lunch - not his fault poor mite). I think OH ended up having weetabix for his evening meal.

I was so tired yesterday, that I had a shower and fell into bed. I am aching all over, but have to get it finished.

Food has been make do and quick, so mainly toast, bananas. Today I will have half a ham salad baguette, because I got it reduced in the s/mkt for 64p. I've promised my youngest he can have the other half.

Only got until Wednesday and then the children break up for the summer holidays. Quite looking forward to not having to get up early for the usual school routine.

Tense times over the w/end with my son, but mainly because my OH is determined to be hardline with him. I feel caught in the middle. OH didn't let my son play his headline gig on Saturday, and says he can't do the others either. He is still doing the p/t job, and got 3 days work over the w/end, and says he wants to start saving up for driving lessons (turns 17 in Nov), and a car, so at least he has a focus to aim for. I'm finding the conflict hard to cope with at times, and my son was asking why I couldn't just give him the go ahead, because I'm his parent, not my OH. Hard to explain that as a family we moved into my OH's house, so he has the right to impose his house rules.

Also, add into the mix the fact that this morning I open the snottiest email from my eldest sister, complaining to me & another sister about forgetting to send a birthday card in June to her youngest grandson. It was a genuine lapse of memory for me, I always remember birthdays usually, but I don't have this date committed to memory and the family have never had any summer birthdays before, so it's not near any others to prompt a reminder. You'd think I'd committed the crime of the century judging by the tone of this email. I wouldn't mind, but I used to buy presents too for my great-nephews, but my children never got any in return (I have given thousands of pounds worth of toys, equipment & clothes over the years, without a thank you in return), I then discovered that my other sister's children were getting bought gifts, and to make it worse, my older children discovered they were too, and asked me why they didn't get anything! Did I make a huge fuss, and potentially cause a family rift.... er, no.

Let's hope this week becomes calmer.

Welcome newbies, and welcome back stebiz. I hope your meds help to even things out for you soon. Don't worry about your eating for now, just concentrate on getting better. I am sure it will all work out fine in the end, and see the weight loss as an added bonus, not a negative.

victory & mazza, thanks for sharing your stories with us. Vix depression is a very personal thing, and unless you've suffered with it, it's hard to describe. It's a bit like you trying to imagine what it's like to be pregnant, or give birth. Until you do it yourself, nothing can compare with the reality.

By the way vix, it was Victory who was Victory Victory on facebook, but it was ages and ages ago that she set up the account, hence why she doesn't remember it. I think it was when the forum was undergoing major overhaul about 18 months ago, and then in the end another member set up a Yahoo group instead of using facebook (I think it was Polkadot who did that, who is now heavily expectant with her 2nd baby... older members may remember that she suffered from CF and was trying to lose weight to conceive, and had suffered a MC, so good news there).

Right, I've got to get back up that ladder again, I've put it off for too long this morning.

Funnelly

I know I keep dipping in and out of this thread, but having read about 2 other ladies who turn 30 next year it made me think. I also turn 30 next July and I dont want to do it looking like I do so I think its time to make the big change. I think I'm scared of starting in case I fail. I also think I need to get a plan like WW or SW as if I just try and cut down on my own it really isnt going to work.

I also know that a lot of my calories come from the dreaded alcohol so I've got to think of a way of changing that as well.

bettyB_2

melvis wrote: »

Morning all we had a BBQ last nite ... I did very well and measured every shot of vodka so I knew each drink was exactly 2.5 SW Syns ... only problem is I can remember how many drinks I had :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

hehe sounds like a good night!

victory wrote: »

They say it takes the brain 20 mins to register you have eaten and are full , the other day I found myself reverting to type and just opening my mouth and shoveling stuff in it, loads of it, gulp after the other and it hit me this is not right stop, so I stopped and went and did something else for 20 mins to give myself a chance to realise I had enough or then would need more, turned out I had plenty and nothing else was needed , a great turning point and if anyone else finds themselves in that situation try it it does work.

OH and I discovered this the other day - went out and had some tapas-style food and he was saying 'I could eat that again I'm not full at all' then when we were halfway home he said 'I'm actually really full i just didnt feel it at the time!' So it's definitely a rule to bear in mind.

blink_sumday wrote: »

Hello,

I'm a long time reader/ new poster at MSE and was wondering if its okay if I join in this thread as I would like to lose approximately 1lb a week up until Christmas so that I can feel nice and confident again and hopefully improve my health! I'm hoping to start doing some low impact exercise too and wondered if anyone had any suggestions? I struggle with leaving the house lately due to mobility problems and wondered whether anyone had any good tips for things that I could start to do at home in the hope of building my strength up a bit before I can hopefully join a gym

Thanks and its great to meet you

Josie x

Hi Josie - if you are not ready to join a gym yet then there are plenty of things you can do at home, such as weight lifting with tins of beans, walking up and down the stairs a few times, or workout dvds. There are even workout vids on youtube that you can watch for free! :money:I notice you said you have had mobility problemes so obviously this might affect the kind of thing you can do, but if you have space in your living room for a few push ups/sit ups/star jumps or whatever you can manage then it's a starting point at least.


Sorry to hear everyone's stories of depression, but it is nice to hear you all offering eachother advice and to hear the happy endings you have had. I can't offer any advice from experience but I studied it as part of my psyc degree and I can understand how complicated it can be to treat. Hope things look up for you soon Stebiz, in the meantime stick around and hopefully this thread can offer you some support and at least a few smiles

I am a very very bad betty. fell off the wagon this weekend, and must have hit my head on the way down as it lasted 3 days! Nothing too bad (ie I didn't have a pint of ice cream or lager) but I did have full fat fizzy drinks and white bread and sausages at a bbq. Not very SW.:(

I kind of feel that after losing those 5 lbs (and putting on 2!) that at least i know SW works for me - so I can make a conscious decision to say right that's enough, I know I dont have any social functions coming up (I think that sabotaged me as I suddently found myself with loads of social eating and it was all too soon into me starting SW for me to know how to handle them properly) so I can do SW properly and not have to be too flexible. I know i can stick to it now and I really want to its just that every time i see my friends and family it is centred around food!!

Luckily(!) I am so skint now that even if I was asked out to dinner I probably wouldn't go. :rotfl:

Kicking myself for letting myself down 2 weeks in a row - I really wanna see good results every wed but I am never going to at this rate!

Welcome all the newbies! :wave:And well done on your loss bindiboo!

Hezzawithkids

sarymclary wrote: »

Also, add into the mix the fact that this morning I open the snottiest email from my eldest sister, complaining to me & another sister about forgetting to send a birthday card in June to her youngest grandson. It was a genuine lapse of memory for me, I always remember birthdays usually, but I don't have this date committed to memory and the family have never had any summer birthdays before, so it's not near any others to prompt a reminder. You'd think I'd committed the crime of the century judging by the tone of this email. I wouldn't mind, but I used to buy presents too for my great-nephews, but my children never got any in return (I have given thousands of pounds worth of toys, equipment & clothes over the years, without a thank you in return), I then discovered that my other sister's children were getting bought gifts, and to make it worse, my older children discovered they were too, and asked me why they didn't get anything! Did I make a huge fuss, and potentially cause a family rift.... er, no..

sary - you have my sympathy. I have a brother (not the one I was posting about earier) who is so anal & uptight it's a wonder the furniture doesn't disappear when he sits down! I had an email exchange with him earlier this year in which we had a "difference of opinion" about some money (our inheritance from a relative), and I just stopped replying in the end when it became obvious he was entranched in his view, thinking well you're entitled to your opinion. I had tried talking to him about it but he just ignored me. As far as I'm concerned we haven't fallen out but the silence from his end is now deafening - if he is p*ssed off with me that's fine, but he's now taking it out on my kids. He ignored my DS' birthday altogether and just sent a card for DD's when every year we have always look after each others kids with presents & cards cos they are all about the same age. I sent a card & present for his DDs birthday about 3 weeks ago & haven't had an acknowledgement let alone a thank you. Yet I wouldn't dream of emailing him to reprimand him for missing my kids birthdays fo the same reason as you - dont want to cause a rift in the family (there's enough of those already) but it seems he's decided that I'm out of his life now cos I didn't agree with him 6 months ago. Thank god you can choose your friends huh?

victory

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blink_sumday

Thanks bettyB for your advice I just bought a game for my sister's wii in the hope that this will provide a bit of low impact activity on a budget! I think I'm just going to have to take each day at a time and try and build up to a higher intensity over time! I'm one of those people that can't stand waiting for stuff but think I might have to just this once!

Also Sary, I remember the first time my step dad told me that I couldn't do anything being a bit shocked by it because I had never seen him as a person with authority over me because he isn't my parent. This considered, now I'm a bit older I get on really well with my step dad and respect the fact that not only he is a fantastic friend to me but anything that he has stopped me from doing has actually been for my own benefit. That said stopping him from doing something that he really wants to do such as headlining a gig which is a big thing for someone of that age could be seen as counter productive to an extent! Would you be able to negotiate something with your OH where your son might accept that he has missed one gig but might be able to play some of the others? He is showing responsibility in earning to achieve a goal and that is definitely worthy of praise! Just an idea as this was something that occured quite a lot with me through my teenage years!

vixarooni

I remember polkadott, good news she is pregnant!!

This forum is turning into a place to come and be cleansed! Its good.

Im still eating loads. Ive had a bowl of frosties, a packet of crisps, raspberries and a kit kat for dinner. And in that order. My diet is soooooo good!

bettyB_2

ugh did really badly today. it's mad how much my mood can swing from AM to PM. Started the day happy and positive and ended it feeling hopeless Feel like giving up and just accepting i'm never gonna lose more than 1/2 stone and even if I do it wont stay off..

fredsnail

blink_sumday wrote: »

Thanks bettyB for your advice I just bought a game for my sister's wii in the hope that this will provide a bit of low impact activity on a budget! I think I'm just going to have to take each day at a time and try and build up to a higher intensity over time! I'm one of those people that can't stand waiting for stuff but think I might have to just this once!

I bought some Rosemary Conley DVDs from Amazon - there is a triple pack for £4.93 at the moment - and some of the older ones are only a few pounds.

Betty you will get there - you just need to be patient - we all have bad days and good days. Start again tomorrow.

Vixstar

Just realised (IYSWIM) that I have 3 weeks off work coming up and not much planned for it, an ideal time to really focus on WW principles I feel and maybe lose a little more than 1lb a week.