Lose weight 30

bindiboo

Well I survived the party last night and managed to stay in ketosis. Plenty of water and ate only some chicken n salad and plenty of dancing too. Felt proud that I got through it fine. Another wedding this weekend,

mazza111

As Victory said Stebiz. Get as much help from your GP as possible. There is a lot more help there these days then when Victory or myself suffered. Sorry to bring your name into it Victory, but back then mental health issues were frowned upon more than they are these days. I was referred to a psychiatrist, little Asian chap. All he kept telling me to do was go home and "love your husband very much". Ahem... ok... I was no idea at the time, but it was my now x husband that was causing much of the depression. Years of this and antidepressants, and one day, I heard my x speaking to my daughter the way I had allowed him to speak to me for years, and the cloud just lifted. It was like a light being switched on in my head. I was so run down and manipulated by him, that I just couldn't see what he was doing to me. So I explained to my sister what had been going on for years (as my ex was an outside angel, and an indoor manipulator) who gave me the support to get out.


Since leaving, I haven't looked back. No more pills. No more psychiatrists. Even when I was going through the messiest bit of us splitting up, I was so up compared to what I had been for 7 years. Obviously, it was still sad that a marriage had broke down, sad times for my 2 little angels, but for the first time in years I felt alive, which in turn gave me the strength to support my kids through it.

My kids are now glad that I made that decision. And although I am alone, I'm not lonely. Cos when that wee feeling of loneliness creeps in, I can find friends online or at the end of a phone. Friends that I was never allowed to have before.

Exercise is good for raising the spirits. Music that makes you feel good. Doing something that you enjoy. Something out of the routine. I'm not saying to go to the extremes that I did. But try doing something a wee bit different and varied to your normal day.

Has there been anything that trigger this depression? Is it anything you can change? Things that are beyond our control are often harder to deal with, but maybe small changes can be made to your life to give you a more positive outlook?

I'm rambling again, but if you want to talk hon, feel free to drop me a pm. Or if you use msn on facebook, there will always be a friend at the end of the keyboard

vixarooni

I often find jason derulo helps. Google him on youtbube. Riding solo is quite a good song.

im eating so much lately....i must stop

vixarooni

just going through my friends on facebook and noticed i have someone called victory victory or whatever as awaiting friend confirmation....from way back in 1928 obviously. Is this you Victory? I have scary as a mutual friend with this person.

blink_sumday

Hello,

I'm a long time reader/ new poster at MSE and was wondering if its okay if I join in this thread as I would like to lose approximately 1lb a week up until Christmas so that I can feel nice and confident again and hopefully improve my health! I'm hoping to start doing some low impact exercise too and wondered if anyone had any suggestions? I struggle with leaving the house lately due to mobility problems and wondered whether anyone had any good tips for things that I could start to do at home in the hope of building my strength up a bit before I can hopefully join a gym

Thanks and its great to meet you

Josie x

Brighton_belle

wow mazza - that is some post (and not remotely rambling). Thanks so much for sharing for story. Amazing. And thanks too for yours Victory:T.

Blink sumday & lauraland - big welcome to our lovely forum.
Blink: I'm sure someone will be alomg soon to offer advice. My brain is switched off tonight! But do keep posting.

Good stuff bindi.

Oh, and a few days late, but thanks sary for your very kind words.

lauraland

beanielou wrote: »

Welcome lauraland to our lovely thread.

thank you! Happy to be a part of it

I am currently 17 stone (the shame!!!), and this morning i signed up to the weight watchers online plan, taking advantage of the quidco offer, very moneysaving

I'm really fed up of being obese, I have tried and lost weight in the past but it always seems to creep back on me. I'm not really a big fan of all these giant weight loss companies, but obviously my way isn't working so i need to try a different approach and hopefully WW will re-educate me in regards to my appalling eating habits.

I turn 30 next July and i really want to be a whole new person by then, Plus my biological clock is ticking that wee bit faster now and i feel my weight is stopping me from getting out there and trying to meet the father of my future children! lol

It will be nice to get to know you all and hear all about your weight loss journeys. Any questions, just ask!

L x

melvis

lauraland wrote: »

thank you! Happy to be a part of it

I am currently 17 stone (the shame!!!), and this morning i signed up to the weight watchers online plan, taking advantage of the quidco offer, very moneysaving

I'm really fed up of being obese, I have tried and lost weight in the past but it always seems to creep back on me. I'm not really a big fan of all these giant weight loss companies, but obviously my way isn't working so i need to try a different approach and hopefully WW will re-educate me in regards to my appalling eating habits.

I turn 30 next July and i really want to be a whole new person by then, Plus my biological clock is ticking that wee bit faster now and i feel my weight is stopping me from getting out there and trying to meet the father of my future children! lol

It will be nice to get to know you all and hear all about your weight loss journeys. Any questions, just ask!

L x

Hi Laura

Your story is so similar to mine!! I was 16 stone 9lbs when I started DIY SW on the beginning of July (16 stone 2lbs now ) and I'm turning 30 next June. I've already met the father of my future children but my baby oven isn't burning so well and have suffered 2 MC's so far ... hoping to create a safer baby haven by losing some weight. I had success at SW when I was 21 but have put all the weight plus more on since then, so I'm also slimming to make myself healthier and more confident. Good Luck at WW!! xx

stebiz

mazza111 wrote: »

As Victory said Stebiz. Get as much help from your GP as possible. There is a lot more help there these days then when Victory or myself suffered. Sorry to bring your name into it Victory, but back then mental health issues were frowned upon more than they are these days. I was referred to a psychiatrist, little Asian chap. All he kept telling me to do was go home and "love your husband very much". Ahem... ok... I was no idea at the time, but it was my now x husband that was causing much of the depression. Years of this and antidepressants, and one day, I heard my x speaking to my daughter the way I had allowed him to speak to me for years, and the cloud just lifted. It was like a light being switched on in my head. I was so run down and manipulated by him, that I just couldn't see what he was doing to me. So I explained to my sister what had been going on for years (as my ex was an outside angel, and an indoor manipulator) who gave me the support to get out.


Since leaving, I haven't looked back. No more pills. No more psychiatrists. Even when I was going through the messiest bit of us splitting up, I was so up compared to what I had been for 7 years. Obviously, it was still sad that a marriage had broke down, sad times for my 2 little angels, but for the first time in years I felt alive, which in turn gave me the strength to support my kids through it.

My kids are now glad that I made that decision. And although I am alone, I'm not lonely. Cos when that wee feeling of loneliness creeps in, I can find friends online or at the end of a phone. Friends that I was never allowed to have before.

Exercise is good for raising the spirits. Music that makes you feel good. Doing something that you enjoy. Something out of the routine. I'm not saying to go to the extremes that I did. But try doing something a wee bit different and varied to your normal day.

Has there been anything that trigger this depression? Is it anything you can change? Things that are beyond our control are often harder to deal with, but maybe small changes can be made to your life to give you a more positive outlook?

I'm rambling again, but if you want to talk hon, feel free to drop me a pm. Or if you use msn on facebook, there will always be a friend at the end of the keyboard

Well done. That is such an inspiring story.I'm hoping that I can find some inner strength too, and lose weight at the same time. I have been the docs and he is very supportive. Thanks for taking time to post, such a great response. See you around.

efrieze

melvis wrote: »

Hi Laura

Your story is so similar to mine!! I was 16 stone 9lbs when I started DIY SW on the beginning of July (16 stone 2lbs now ) and I'm turning 30 next June. I've already met the father of my future children but my baby oven isn't burning so well and have suffered 2 MC's so far ... hoping to create a safer baby haven by losing some weight. I had success at SW when I was 21 but have put all the weight plus more on since then, so I'm also slimming to make myself healthier and more confident. Good Luck at WW!! xx

I also did it for my 30th birthday and I was post baby no 1. I then had baby no 2 last year and here i am again - I never learn. BUt anyway, the big 3-0 was a great target to reach for so good luck both of you!