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stebiz

Brighton_belle wrote: »

Don't feel a frauster stebiz: I've not lost any weight (other than the same 1-2 lbs going up and down) for at least a year:D If you find the forum helpful, please continue to join in.
Good luck with the AD's. Depression can be very hard to overcome on your own, most especially if there is a chemical im balance in your brain, so it is good to get help.
If cereal and 2 ham butties was all you ate yesterday, then it isn't enough. But hopefully, once the AD's kick in, you'll have a little more energy and 'go' to think about what you eat.

Thanks. Really appreciate your kind comments.I know what you mean about it not being enough. Unfortunately I've had about the same today too, so my weight loss will probably be quite high this week. I'm not doing it on purpose I promise you, I usually love my food!!

Hopefully like you say a few more days on the AD's and I might get an appetite back.

Will stay around on here. Nice friendly bunch

victory

Stebiz please don't feel discouraged, depression is not a sprint it is a marathon, takes time, you are not a fraudster, we value your input, you value our friendliness, we are here to help and you to feel valued and supported, keep with it and us with you, it is all here:D

Well today at work never got told off once, OH said ten mins before end I should have said to the boss come on boss you have got to tell me off otherwise I feel empty:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: obviously I just did my shift, smiled, bid them a happy weekend and thought 'phew, only 4 more shift to do until my hols':j:D

victory

A beautiful life does not just happen, it is built daily by prayer, humilty, sacrifice and love. May that beautiful life be yours always

vixarooni

My friend had/has depression. This is what sometimes makes me a nasty person but i used to get so frustrated and annoyed at her because i could never understand why she was like she was. Im generally quite a happy person, and my family take the approach that life is too short to be down about things you cant change. So when my friend had depression i just couldnt understand it, i took the view of just smile and be happy because if you look glum youre going to make yourself even worse. Even now to this day i still am a bit frustrated that she isnt all happy and full of glee!! I think the reason im frustrated is that she wasnt all laughy and chatty, and that annoyed me because i wanted her to be and she just wasnt. My godmother has depresion and this is the worst bit, she was this lady who was the life and soul of a party, a person who was like an auntie to me, but now shes on antidepressants and has completely changed beyond belief. Its really sad.

So yea, thats me and my total lack of understanding of depression.

On a brighter note i fed two sets of ducklings today and baby moorhens!! Soo cute!! I want them.

stebiz

victory wrote: »

Stebiz please don't feel discouraged, depression is not a sprint it is a marathon, takes time, you are not a fraudster, we value your input, you value our friendliness, we are here to help and you to feel valued and supported, keep with it and us with you, it is all here:D

Well today at work never got told off once, OH said ten mins before end I should have said to the boss come on boss you have got to tell me off otherwise I feel empty:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: obviously I just did my shift, smiled, bid them a happy weekend and thought 'phew, only 4 more shift to do until my hols':j:D

Thanks. I just know how hard you all try to lose weight and yet with little effort, I'm losing a fair bit at the moment. I remember a few years back when depression first hit me, I lost weight very fast. However the appetite soon returned after I went on AD's for a time.

I just don't want you guys to think that I'm doing really well losing so much, and yet you are trying so hard.

vixarooni wrote: »

My friend had/has depression. This is what sometimes makes me a nasty person but i used to get so frustrated and annoyed at her because i could never understand why she was like she was. Im generally quite a happy person, and my family take the approach that life is too short to be down about things you cant change. So when my friend had depression i just couldnt understand it, i took the view of just smile and be happy because if you look glum youre going to make yourself even worse. Even now to this day i still am a bit frustrated that she isnt all happy and full of glee!! I think the reason im frustrated is that she wasnt all laughy and chatty, and that annoyed me because i wanted her to be and she just wasnt. My godmother has depresion and this is the worst bit, she was this lady who was the life and soul of a party, a person who was like an auntie to me, but now shes on antidepressants and has completely changed beyond belief. Its really sad.

So yea, thats me and my total lack of understanding of depression.

On a brighter note i fed two sets of ducklings today and baby moorhens!! Soo cute!! I want them.

Depression sucks. It sucks the life out of you. I have a lovely wife. Three superb kids. A nice house. Am self employed. But that goes into the background when this kicks in. But enough about me, Keep up the good work.

vixarooni

so what would happen if something did go bad in your life? What if you woke up dancing to really loud happy music, ate cake and played games all day? Would doing anything like that ever make a difference to your mood? and do you never have one of those "isnt like amazing moments"? Sorry for the questions, you dont have to answer them if you dont want, its just one thing i really cant imagine.

stebiz

vixarooni wrote: »

so what would happen if something did go bad in your life? What if you woke up dancing to really loud happy music, ate cake and played games all day? Would doing anything like that ever make a difference to your mood? and do you never have one of those "isnt like amazing moments"? Sorry for the questions, you dont have to answer them if you dont want, its just one thing i really cant imagine.

I was like your Auntie. Always up dancing, life and soul of the party, and then this crept in a few years back. Then one morning I had a nervous breakdown.

At Christmas I came off the tablets, determined that the new year I would start afresh, but sadly things have built up again. Over the 3 years previous, whilst on the meds, life was pretty normal.

I'm not sure why. I have seen a counsellor, and even she can't get to the bottom of it. My guess is it is a chemical imbalance, and that I will need these AD's for life. If the last few years are anything to go by, this should allow me to live a near normal life:)

stebiz

As for your question about what if something bad happens. I think I'd fall to bits to be honest. I feel quite guilty as it is. There are poor souls out there dying and with terminal illnesses. Anyway I hope the meds will improve things. I've actually signed up for a marathon next year, and plan to raise money for charity. Trying to be positive!!

vixarooni

oh well thats good!! I still cant quite imagine it though...its like me thinking of myself being old with grey hair and not having a bum anymore. Everyones lucky in some way shape or form, we often dont realise it enough.

Good luck with the marathon, and i wont ask anymore depression questions!!

Brighton_belle

stebs - try not to feel guilty about us all 'trying so hard' - its sometimes just a perception! And I tell you what - i'd rather struggle to lose weight than have depression any day. Depression is the pits. As you say, it sucks the life out of you, and if there is no 'obvious cause' like a bad life event, it wacks on guilt on top to make you feel even worse about yourself.
It's a horrible illness and you are right - very very likely in your case to be a chemical imbalance that is not in any way your 'fault'.

A few yrs ago I drastically lost weight due to medication leaving me unable to eat and I felt so fraudulent wth this lot awarding me SOTW! But honestly, every one here is lovely and they insisted regardless. And in the 3 yrs I have been on this forum, no one has every expressed any form of 'thats' unfair' towards any one's weightloss for what ever reason.
We all have various life issues, health issue. As Victory so beautifully put it, we're here to help everyone feel valued and supported.
If weightloss os a side effect of your illness, well it's about time something came out of something so horrible eh?

Vix - I think one of the troubles is that 'i feel depresssed' is an over used expression when sometmes it would be more accurate to say, 'I feel a bit fed up' or 'a bit low': that's the sort of 'depression' that you can do positively thinking out and cheer yourself up, by going out with freinds or a good night's sleep or whatever.

Real depression leaves you feeling like you will never ever be happy again and that you are a worthless waste of space, even if all the evidence is to the contrary.