Lose weight 30

Eric_Pisch

victory wrote: »

Yes can claim U/D one year and 10 days I have been there so from the bosses point of view have now become a nightmare as I have more rights that last week, ACAS were brilliant on the phone this morning and could not have been kinder, they say yes to CAB, call back if needs be, write to the personnel department, we don't have a trade union and all the steps I need to take but ultimately I loose my job because no one would want to work with me as a trouble maker I would be marked and the atmosphere would be poison so I loose loose and they win win by getting rid of me.

No, OH refuses to go he says it is mumbo jumbo leftie rubbish, he listens to what I have been told etc but will not attend it is now called relate, they give me tasks, 1st assesment was level of mental state as the lady is associated with the hospital for suicide patients, once that is done and the level is not high as mine is not, then tasks, 1st lot was all writing, positives, negs, the good the bad what the future could be what the past was, my character, his , the kids abilities just chitter chatter delving into the family workings.

The next one is 3- 3 positives, 3 negs turn them into pos, 3 fears confront, 3 past things ideas etc that made me happy repeat, bring them back into the relationship, looking at things from a different angle, not all the time as we do about money, kids, life, paying the mortgage just coming to it from a different way.

Works, hard, intense, trying but the absolute strangest thing that has come out of all this, the most bizzare thing to happen is that even though I said I want out as the feelings are not there I feel bereft that I have lost the one thing of value- my best friend and that was always my husband.

it sounds like you are taking control of many things :beer:

victory

Eric_Pisch wrote: »

its like being an addict, you will always be an ex addict with the demon sitting on your shoulder

I am an addict, ex, addict, future addict, always going to be an addict, no cure, control yes but no cure, it is always there somewhere

Eric_Pisch

victory wrote: »

I am an addict, ex, addict, future addict, always going to be an addict, no cure, control yes but no cure, it is always there somewhere

this I am coming to realise slowly, i may have bad days and fall of the wagon but I will do my best to not give up totally

mazza111

Oh Eric hon, I didn't mean that in a bad sense at all. I don't know how to put things without offending further... Eek that wasn't my intention, you've don't need me to tell you how remarkable you're doing.. I just meant all the stats kinda scared me a bit. Or the totally natural thing scared me too. I really wish I had the £/Time to do it that way. Alas with the warped hours I work, I try to eat/feed the kids as healthily as I can on the income and time I have. I felt quite inadequate as a parent seeing what you were doing. Please don't take offence at it.

Victory - you go girl!!! Take the bull by the horns and deal with it!!! WTG you. OH's can be pretty stubborn when it comes to counseling etc, especially as many of the opposite sex don't wear their hearts on their sleeves as much as we do.


Not looking forward to work tomorrow myself, my own manager has a meeting in the city at 10ish, so I'll be stuck in office with the other one until 1pm. Doing a job atm where I have to communicate with him on a one to one basis. So hard being pleasant when all u want to do is punch him one on the chin (how ladylike but that's the least of what I would like to do to him:rotfl:)

beanielou

Victory~stay strong.
Sorry that its all come at once.

Brighton_belle

(((Hugs))) Victory.Known you a long time on here know and hate to see you suffer so.
Can't think of a single useful thing to say but i hope the counselling helps you individually. And I hate the thought of you letting go your best friend... but only you know all the ins and outs xxx

grannynise

Oh Victory - you've been through so much over the last couple of years and you've stayed so strong and positive. No wonder you're having a wobble now.

Don't ever apologise for 'trivial twaddle'. What you write isn't trivial or twaddle - it's from the heart as always.

Keep talking to us Victory if it helps in any way at all. We've been chatting on this forum for such a long time and I'm sure I'm not the only one who thinks of a you as a friend. Friends are for bad times as well as for the good bits. We'd all miss you so much.

Don't get het up about the weight - do what you need to do for your health and take whatever support is offered from counsellors, ACAS, CAB and so on. You deserve it. Love and hugs.

beanielou

Granny says it so well as always Victory

victory

You all say it so well, you all do gs been there for me and has been invaluable in my life as has sary,allis,bb,beanie,mazza,suggs, fred,mc,efrieze,neiler,puds,all the newbies all of you have been a joy, I have nothing but praise for all of you and the struggles with the weight etc this thread has been great

Sweetie_here

So I've already posted in the slimming world thread but I had my weigh in tonight after a very bad weekend and the result

-3lbs

In 4 weeks I've hit double digit weight loss and I'm delighted.