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victory

I am not going to be on for a while ,gained 9lb, told OH we are over, seeing a counsellor to see if there is hope and also seeing CAB for unfair dismissal in the work place, been forced to sign a paper exhonarating boss which hopefully will not close the case, boss told me on thursday to go then changed his mind and on saturday took a witness in with him for our chat and told me to sign it 4 times otherwise I leave, I did and OH went mental, so can't be bothered with anything, gaining for the crap I eat and the high portions and the insulin is not working so well so turning me into a raving eating monster with no stop button, OH is destroyed, the counsellor is costing and soon to loose the job, all is nothing in comparison to alli so keep refraining from posting because I feel terrible for that and this is just ridiculous rubbish in comparison.

fred 9lb gain take me off the chart if you so want and the inbetweeners, thanks for everything still we be reading but not posting I mean nothing good to add so will say nothing;)

bettyB_2

oh victory sounds like you're having a tough time. But dont ever feel like your problems are not worth discussing on here, we are here for you. I'm so sorry to hear about your job, OH, etc. Seems like it's all happening at once - but remember nothing bad lasts forever you will work through it all, just remember to stay strong (we know you are!) and we are here to support you.

victory

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Eric_Pisch

victory wrote: »

It's all good,don't worry;) OH has been coming for a few years, I was bound to a gainer (17lb now back on, changed sig) because of the way I am with food, I am not cut out to be thin and the job is ongoing for a while so bad luck comes in three's got them all, all good, I know it will make me stronger, just can't be bothered with anything, seems pointless to worry when the head is spinning with worry:D

Wednesday is CAB, counsellor was last Monday and Friday,(OH will not come) the you will go from this job was thursday and saturday shifts , the insulin not working has been a couple of weeks hence the 9lb I am so hungry I am going to eat my own arm gain, I have become a moaner OH and kids complaining, should but haven't looked for another job because I just can't be bothered.

sounds like your going through hell tbh

the only thing i can say is "control the controllable's" dont stress out over the things you can not control, take control of the things you can

easier said than done but ultimately its in your hands, be strong, you owe it to yourself and at the end of the day you are only punishing yourself by binge eating, ok you have put a little back on but that does not have to continue if you do not want it to

we will be here if you want to chat

victory

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mazza111

Eric - that last post was very good advice, not always easy, but very good advice all the same. I'm afraid I got the same idea of you as Victory did... All stats... All common sense, felt like you had put yourself on a pedestal if that makes sense. I now see I was wrong and apologise if I came across biatchy. Know how u feel with those headachees, that's the way I get them hon, could literally bang my head off a brick wall to try n make it better.

Victory - What can i say, other than what Eric has already said. {{{Hugs}}} and positive vibes being sent your way hon. Have you been in your workplace for more than a year now? Thought that's when you could claim for U/D. Could be totally wrong tho. Even if I couldn't claim U/D I would make sure I complained about that tw4t to the very top!!! As for counselling with u and ure OH? Are we talking marriage guidance couselling type of thing? Try and do what's right for you hon, sometimes it's not always easy to see what's right but lists are a great thing at this kind of time.


Vix - Some sunflower spreads don't have lactose or milk in them. As well as the soya marg. Not good on toast, but ok on bread that's filled with other stuff. I'm afraid Asda's crisps used to have lactose in them years ago, or was it whey.... Either way, a milk by product. Could have changed tho since I needed to read labels closely. Ready salted crisps and some of the meaty flavoured ones used to be the ones that were more likely to be milk free.


Sary {{{hugs}}} Know the feeling well, I was like that last week, and like a bear with a sore head!!!

Eric_Pisch

victory wrote: »

Thanks eric and I owe you an apology, I think we never really set off well, I was rude to you saying I found it hard to read all your statistic posts and skimmed them because you came across as you knew it all, like an ex smoker and I resented that, I thought you were to into facts and I am sorry that we started to ignore each others posts or skim them or not bother when we should have been supporting each other whichever view point we took it is all valid ones.

I must have missed this memo, never really ignored your posts, However it is easy to talk about the science behind weight loss as its the same for everyone, the demons that haunt us are unique to each of us and way beyond generalisation

mazza111 wrote: »

Eric - that last post was very good advice, not always easy, but very good advice all the same. I'm afraid I got the same idea of you as Victory did... All stats... All common sense, felt like you had put yourself on a pedestal if that makes sense. I now see I was wrong and apologise if I came across biatchy. Know how u feel with those headachees, that's the way I get them hon, could literally bang my head off a brick wall to try n make it better.

hmm ok

thats not what was intended really, i know as well as anyone that's walked this planet what a struggle it is to getting an eating disorder under control, especially trying to do it with a plantar fasciitis, a torn forearm ligament that refuses to heal, a torn lat and a heart condition, oh and the poxy weight gaining drugs...

it is a battle but the thing that helps even after weeks like this where i too have gained weight is that its done and over, dont look back only look forward, we ultimately control our own destiny and when we think about it and look deep inside ourselves we are all an awful lot stronger than we give ourselves credit for, we dont need to take the easy option

the hardest thing for me to accept is that because of this condition I am never going to be able to eat like a normal person if I do not want to go back to obesity again

vixarooni

Victory - I thought you had gone awol for awhile. You definatly are going through the wars arent you, but i hope that doesnt mean you stop posting here. Were all here for every one in times of need. Its also good to vent out to a bunch of people who are seperate from the situation, but if you feel it will help you than do what you need to to get through it. I hope everything turns out ok for you.

Eric: What do you mean with this condition you wont be able to eat like a normal person without becoming obese again?

victory

mazza111 wrote: »

Victory - What can i say, other than what Eric has already said. {{{Hugs}}} and positive vibes being sent your way hon. Have you been in your workplace for more than a year now? Thought that's when you could claim for U/D. Could be totally wrong tho. Even if I couldn't claim U/D I would make sure I complained about that tw4t to the very top!!! As for counselling with u and ure OH? Are we talking marriage guidance couselling type of thing? Try and do what's right for you hon, sometimes it's not always easy to see what's right but lists are a great thing at this kind of time.

Yes can claim U/D one year and 10 days I have been there so from the bosses point of view have now become a nightmare as I have more rights that last week, ACAS were brilliant on the phone this morning and could not have been kinder, they say yes to CAB, call back if needs be, write to the personnel department, we don't have a trade union and all the steps I need to take but ultimately I loose my job because no one would want to work with me as a trouble maker I would be marked and the atmosphere would be poison so I loose loose and they win win by getting rid of me.

No, OH refuses to go he says it is mumbo jumbo leftie rubbish, he listens to what I have been told etc but will not attend it is now called relate, they give me tasks, 1st assesment was level of mental state as the lady is associated with the hospital for suicide patients, once that is done and the level is not high as mine is not, then tasks, 1st lot was all writing, positives, negs, the good the bad what the future could be what the past was, my character, his , the kids abilities just chitter chatter delving into the family workings.

The next one is 3- 3 positives, 3 negs turn them into pos, 3 fears confront, 3 past things ideas etc that made me happy repeat, bring them back into the relationship, looking at things from a different angle, not all the time as we do about money, kids, life, paying the mortgage just coming to it from a different way.

Works, hard, intense, trying but the absolute strangest thing that has come out of all this, the most bizzare thing to happen is that even though I said I want out as the feelings are not there I feel bereft that I have lost the one thing of value- my best friend and that was always my husband.

Eric_Pisch

vixarooni wrote: »

Eric: What do you mean with this condition you wont be able to eat like a normal person without becoming obese again?

two parts to it, once you have been a blimp you have a huge number of fat cells, they never go away they just become empty so the body wants to fill them

and then there's the emotional eating disorder, its like being an addict, you will always be an ex addict with the demon sitting on your shoulder