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Supporting a pregnant partner

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  • elfen
    elfen Posts: 10,213 Forumite
    She wants the phone, she pays for it, even during maternity leave. It's not as if she'd have NO money coming in, and after all, it is HER choice. And as others have said, she might not get pregnant straight away, it could be two years
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  • Googlewhacker
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    pigpen wrote: »

    She would be on leave to provide you with a child.. she has given up her job, her body and her lifestyle.. and you begrduge her what.. £10 a week???? A lifeline to her friends and family!

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  • Googlewhacker
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    I think she is being unreasonable, she could get a cheaper phone on contract for 15 quid a month...it is the fact that is an IPHONE.

    FWIW I would compromise if you feel that you can afford to (ie during maternity leave you pay half of the contract but nothing if she goes over it, if you can't don't.
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  • gill_81uk
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    I agre that she's being unreasonable. If she phones her current provider to cancel they will most like;y offer her a new phone and a cheaper contract. It may not be as fancy as the iphone but will certainly allow her too keep in contact with her family and friends and contact you when she goes into labour!!
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  • How about while she is on maternity leave you both have an agreed, equal amount of spending money that you calculate you can afford. Then what she chooses to spend that amount on is up to her? And you spend yours as you choose.
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  • mountainofdebt
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    I'm just wondering if your OH wanted you to say of course darling you should have the iphone.....and when she's on maternity leave and you complain about the expense of the mobile, she can turn around and say that you said it was ok for her to have.
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  • Gemmy_2
    Gemmy_2 Posts: 383 Forumite
    The MSE in me thinks that an iphone is a complete waste of money. There are several phones on the market atm which can do the same sort of things as the iphone.

    Its all about having 'the' name.

    This is why my younger (in school still) brother has one. Its very fashion conscious.

    Why not talk with one another and see if there is someway of meeting in the middle?
  • thorsoak
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    Hi peeps :)

    My girlfriend and I are talking about starting a family, and obviously I'd have to take on most of the household bills when my OH finally goes on maternity leave.

    Today, she calls me from work because she wants to get this new fandangled iPhone on a 2 year contract, so I asked if she would be able to afford it when on maternity pay.

    To cut a long story short, she got upset as she was expecting me to pay her phone bill, amongst her half of the mortgage, utility bills, council tax etc

    Am I being unreasonable in finding it unfair that she can go and get this new phone, and expect me to pick up the bill when she eventually goes on maternity leave?

    I believe phones are a luxury, she disagrees.


    1. So at the moment you are only TALKING about pregnancy - she is still working full time - am I correct?

    2. She is talking (I hope not asking) to you about getting a sooper-dooper, all-singing, all-dancing phone on a 2 year contract - correct?

    3. You are concerned about paying all the bills when she is eventually pregnant - correct?

    If my premises are correct, I would comment as follows:-

    1. You haven't yet decided that it is the correct time to have a baby - in any case,not everyone falls pregnant at the very first attempt - I have known several people who have taken up to 2 years to achievr pregnancy - which lasts for 9 months - therefore maternity leave could be as far away as 21 months.

    2. Have you contemplated any extravagances pre-pregnancy?

    3. Surely, when you married, you promised "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer"?

    Maybe you should both be discussing whether you are both mature enough to be contemplating bringing a drain on your income into the world?
  • mikey72
    mikey72 Posts: 14,680 Forumite
    thorsoak wrote: »
    1. So at the moment you are only TALKING about pregnancy - she is still working full time - am I correct?

    2. She is talking (I hope not asking) to you about getting a sooper-dooper, all-singing, all-dancing phone on a 2 year contract - correct?

    3. You are concerned about paying all the bills when she is eventually pregnant - correct?

    If my premises are correct, I would comment as follows:-

    1. You haven't yet decided that it is the correct time to have a baby - in any case,not everyone falls pregnant at the very first attempt - I have known several people who have taken up to 2 years to achievr pregnancy - which lasts for 9 months - therefore maternity leave could be as far away as 21 months.

    2. Have you contemplated any extravagances pre-pregnancy?

    3. Surely, when you married, you promised "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer"?

    Maybe you should both be discussing whether you are both mature enough to be contemplating bringing a drain on your income into the world?

    True enough, but why do most of these threads always take the line that men provide the richer part, and women provide the poorer?
  • shellsuit
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    thorsoak wrote: »
    1. So at the moment you are only TALKING about pregnancy - she is still working full time - am I correct?

    2. She is talking (I hope not asking) to you about getting a sooper-dooper, all-singing, all-dancing phone on a 2 year contract - correct?

    3. You are concerned about paying all the bills when she is eventually pregnant - correct?

    If my premises are correct, I would comment as follows:-

    1. You haven't yet decided that it is the correct time to have a baby - in any case,not everyone falls pregnant at the very first attempt - I have known several people who have taken up to 2 years to achievr pregnancy - which lasts for 9 months - therefore maternity leave could be as far away as 21 months.

    2. Have you contemplated any extravagances pre-pregnancy?

    3. Surely, when you married, you promised "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer"?

    Maybe you should both be discussing whether you are both mature enough to be contemplating bringing a drain on your income into the world?

    They're not married ~ the OP calls her his girlfriend.




    I don't see why it has to be an Iphone, what's wrong with a different phone, or does she even need a new phone or contract?

    Seems like the OP has his head screwed on, and his GF isn't ready for a baby yet.
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