Supporting a pregnant partner

JimmyTheWig

shellsuit wrote: »

Seems like the OP has his head screwed on, and his GF isn't ready for a baby yet.

I don't totally agree with this. The GF had the foresight to discuss the issue without blindly signing up to it.

Gordon_Hose

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

I don't totally agree with this. The GF had the foresight to discuss the issue without blindly signing up to it.

Correct. She could have quite easily got the phone and turned up at home after work beaming about her new phone...but she didn't. So kudos to her

Just so we're all clear, my OH is paying for the contract herself.

JimmyTheWig

xmaslolly76 wrote: »

I'm struggling to see the compromise there. You give up your car reduce your phone tarrif and stop using the AA.

She's giving up half the use of her car. [OP benefits on this one, actually, as he goes from driving an old car all the time to driving a newer car half the time while GF goes from driving a newer car the whole time to a newer car half the time. As long as she doesn't pull rank when there's a conflict and say "it's my car", but there's nor eason to suggest that would happen.]

She's giving up adult social interaction that she gets from going to work.

She's giving up her body, both in terms of what she can and can't eat / drink and in terms of stuggling with the extra weight of a baby.

She's giving up phone calls / texts from him that will now be more limited due to his tarrif.

She's giving up shared time with him / increased time looking after the baby on her own if he has to wait longer for "free" roadside assistance than he would have done with the AA.

mikey72

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

She's giving up half the use of her car. [OP benefits on this one, actually, as he goes from driving an old car all the time to driving a newer car half the time while GF goes from driving a newer car the whole time to a newer car half the time. As long as she doesn't pull rank when there's a conflict and say "it's my car", but there's nor eason to suggest that would happen.]

She's giving up adult social interaction that she gets from going to work.

She's giving up her body, both in terms of what she can and can't eat / drink and in terms of stuggling with the extra weight of a baby.

She's giving up phone calls / texts from him that will now be more limited due to his tarrif.

She's giving up shared time with him / increased time looking after the baby on her own if he has to wait longer for "free" roadside assistance than he would have done with the AA.

She's giving up time with him when she's playing with the baby, and he's sitting in the hall on his own as well.

Gordon_Hose

Sitting in the hall working though...not just sitting there!

mikey72

I must admit, I don't get all this "his and hers".
We have a joint bank account, joint credit cards, and just buy what we need. All the wages , any benefits, other income, whatever, just goes into the joint account, if there is too much in it gets transferred into the savings accounts. If there is too little, we transfer from the savings accounts.
If it's a big purchase we let the other know so it'll be covered at the end of the month. All the car tax, insurance etc is from the joint account, household bills are on direct debits, and we haven't got a clue who spends what each month. His and her cars? Dividing up the remainder as someone suggested, what happened to just trusting the other person?

angelicmary85

I don't understand why some of you think she is 'giving up her body'? She's not giving up anything, she'll be bringing new life into the world!

If you think that carrying a child is a sacrafice...just wait until bubs is here!!

Pepzofio

Gordon_Hose wrote: »

It's not about me letting her get one, I can't control what she does and doesn't get. I just feel I need to point out the financial implication in her getting one

The phone is free, she never pays for phones.

Can I ask where she's getting an iPhone4 for free with a £35/mth contract? As I didn't think anywhere was offering it free on less than £45/mth tariff (and that's only available with three).

I'm looking to get one in September, so would be interested to know!

Gordon_Hose

Pepzofio wrote: »

Can I ask where she's getting an iPhone4 for free with a £35/mth contract? As I didn't think anywhere was offering it free on less than £45/mth tariff (and that's only available with three).

I'm looking to get one in September, so would be interested to know!

I didn't say it was an iPhone 4

She can't afford an iPhone 4, so she's upgrading her Samsung Tocco to and iPhone 3GS.

Be aware that O2 are taking away unlimited Data from October for new/renewed contracts.

Pepzofio

Ahh! You did say the 'newfangled iphone' in your opening post though, so I got confused!