Im so sad

pelirocco

Morgan_Ree wrote: »

What kind of world do we live in when some people think staying at home bringing up a baby IS pulling their weight!

It's not exactly work is it.

Its not a doddle either , its when you try combining it with outside work that it becomes a tad difficult , try to imagine working at least 18 hours per day , while walking a tight rope and juggling .........and no holidays

Any

Morgan_Ree wrote: »

Who needs days off when you're at home all day anyway???
As for not getting a lunchbreak. It's not hard just to nip into the kitchen to make something.

I'm guessing those who complain about being 'soooooo tired after running around after little Jack all day' (sorry I'm just using an example) have never experienced a hard days work in their life.

Give me DS to look after over a 14 hour shift running around like a blue arsed fly, ANY day.

Interesting, that is what sooo many men who sit all day in front of their computer screen thinks...

I personally don't have a children but my sister does and I tell you what - give me my job any day over running around for little Jack, listening to the cry, letter reading learning, stories when you don't understand a word they are saying, wiping up spilt milk... blah blah blah... It would drive me bonkers. I rather fully sensible conversation with adult while drinking tea.

And before you jump on the band waggon that the children need to be brought up better then that - funnily enough they are not born with fully geared up brain and years of experience. First they have to learn to recognise black from while and bad from good.

Morgan_Ree

Any wrote: »

Well the thing is that some people don't just lock them in the cellar and let them out just for a wee wee.

They don't? Well I'm just shocked!

pelirocco wrote: »

Its not a doddle either , its when you try combining it with outside work that it becomes a tad difficult , try to imagine working at least 18 hours per day , while walking a tight rope and juggling .........and no holidays

But I'm not talking about adding outside work to it.
Oh and if by working 18 hours a day you mean maybe a few hours at work (or maybe long shifts like I do?) then coming home to look after the kids for the rest of the time, then yes I can imagine it.

Any wrote: »

Interesting, that is what sooo many men who sit all day in front of their computer screen thinks...

I personally don't have a children but my sister does and I tell you what - give me my job any day over running around for little Jack, listening to the cry, letter reading learning, stories when you don't understand a word they are saying, wiping up spilt milk... blah blah blah... It would drive me bonkers. I rather fully sensible conversation with adult while drinking tea.

And before you jump on the band waggon that the children need to be brought up better then that - funnily enough they are not born with fully geared up brain and years of experience. First they have to learn to recognise black from while and bad from good.

What have men sitting infront of their computer screeen got to do with it?

Oh wait I get it! Just because I hold the view I do, it simply MUST make me a bloke?

:rotfl:

mikey72

Any wrote: »

Interesting, that is what sooo many men who sit all day in front of their computer screen thinks...

I personally don't have a children but my sister does and I tell you what - give me my job any day over running around for little Jack, listening to the cry, letter reading learning, stories when you don't understand a word they are saying, wiping up spilt milk... blah blah blah... It would drive me bonkers. I rather fully sensible conversation with adult while drinking tea.

And before you jump on the band waggon that the children need to be brought up better then that - funnily enough they are not born with fully geared up brain and years of experience. First they have to learn to recognise black from while and bad from good.

How about one that did it.

Quite good fun actually.
breakfast, hose off the mess, play in the morning, maybe a sleep, unload the washing machine, push into airing cupboard, reload, dinner, mess again, sleep again, hear mum come home, turn on the hoover, look busy. Few nappies here and there. Crack on about how hard it is. Encourage the baby to fall asleep on you at evenings and weekends, so you can't get up, otherwise you'd be helping like a shot.
It's worse when they walk though, but one of the dalek baby walkers means they can load the washing machine, (well they try, but can't reach), and they can push the hoover.

Any

mikey72 wrote: »

How about one that did it.

Quite good fun actually.
breakfast, hose off the mess, play in the morning, maybe a sleep, unload the washing machine, push into airing cupboard, reload, dinner, mess again, sleep again, hear mum come home, turn on the hoover, look busy. Few nappies here and there. Crack on about how hard it is. Encourage the baby to fall asleep on you at evenings and weekends, so you can't get up, otherwise you'd be helping like a shot.
It's worse when they walk though, but one of the dalek baby walkers means they can load the washing machine, (well they try, but can't reach), and they can push the hoover.

Have you not thought about the fact that not everyone can manage every job and that some people don't view their actual job - I mean JOB - being 12hrs a night on their feet - as hard work if it is what they love doing??

It is still a job - just because you can do it better and completely enjoy it doesn't mean you have to belittle another person who cannot do it as well or as happily as you do.

I don't belittle people just because they can't add up and I am certified accountant and cannot imagine anything easier then adding up.

That is also why nurseries take the amount of money they do for their services and the chances are that if OP earns 12.5k in what her husband would call "actual job" might put them at even worse off.

Just a thought...

Any

Morgan_Ree wrote: »

What have men sitting infront of their computer screeen got to do with it?

Oh wait I get it! Just because I hold the view I do, it simply MUST make me a bloke?

:rotfl:

NO actually, but that people who rarely done anything like that (ie men) always say it's easy job if they haven't actually tried it.

Like when you say "it is not that difficult to go and make lunch" (which by the way wasn't what was meant by lunch breaks) is always easy when you are saying it to someone and you are not the one required to get up and do it:D

Morgan_Ree

Any wrote: »

NO actually, but that people who rarely done anything like that (ie men) always say it's easy job if they haven't actually tried it.

But that's like me saying you've never tried it yet here you are, telling me who has done it, how hard it is?

Any wrote: »

Like when you say "it is not that difficult to go and make lunch" (which by the way wasn't what was meant by lunch breaks) is always easy when you are saying it to someone and you are not the one required to get up and do it

But it's really not difficult to do?

I accept the lunch break thing. But I guess I could say the same again, who needs a lunch break (as in a break 30mins/1 hour etc) when you're at home all day?

Being at work all day and not having a break is different to being at home all day and not having a break.

Any

Morgan_Ree wrote: »

But that's like me saying you've never tried it yet here you are, telling me who has done it, how hard it is?




But it's really not difficult to do? Oh no, every job is doable... doesn't mean you have to/want to do it or find it easy... As I said, adding up is easy but it doesn't mean you want my job.

By the way some people think making lunch is hard to do:D

I accept the lunch break thing. But I guess I could say the same again, who needs a lunch break (as in a break 30mins/1 hour etc) when you're at home all day?

Being at work all day and not having a break is different to being at home all day and not having a break.

Well, we will just have to agree to disagree...

I had my nieces for long weekend and if I ever have children I am going back to work within 6 mths myself... will go earlier if they let me!!:rotfl:

brians_daughter

Morgan_Ree wrote: »

Who needs days off when you're at home all day anyway???
As for not getting a lunchbreak. It's not hard just to nip into the kitchen to make something.

I'm guessing those who complain about being 'soooooo tired after running around after little Jack all day' (sorry I'm just using an example) have never experienced a hard days work in their life.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

oh deary me! I have 3 kids and i work..infact i go to work for a rest - compared to being at home with 3 of the devils own work is a complete breeze!!

ETA i still stand by my original reply that the op should look at all the option before being 'forced' by her oh (for want of a better word) back to ft employment if she wishes to be at home with her child

Morgan_Ree

brians_daughter wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

oh deary me! I have 3 kids and i work..infact i go to work for a rest - compared to being at home with 3 of the devils own work is a complete breeze!!

ETA i still stand by my original reply that the op should look at all the option before being 'forced' by her oh (for want of a better word) back to ft employment if she wishes to be at home with her child

Of course the OP should look at all her options and not be forced into doing anything. My original reply wasn't really for the OP anyway. I was just replying to someone who had said something about staying at home is not easy.