Im so sad

Fang_3

LilacLouisa wrote: »

I feel so sorry for Mums who have to return to work full time. I realise there are some women who do important work (e.g medical research) and they hate to be away from it, returning asap.

I also realise that the jobs market these days is difficult, but are there no men left who are happy to support their wife and family while the children are small?

I always admired men who worked hard day in and day out to care for their family. Are all men these days just wanting to be looked after?

My daughter went out with a guy recently who told her he would be happy to stay at home and look after the children while she worked full time!

If I was working while my partner stayed at home, I wouldn`t expect to be cooking and cleaning in the evening, unless the child/children were poorly and needed a lot of tlc.

It seems to be an old fashioned view, but tis mine own.

You'd rather lose equality?

mikey72

I wouldn't.
I used to hate standing up on a bus and holding doors open

LilacLouisa

mikey72 wrote: »

Equality is a wonderful thing.

It would be if women were able to stay at home with their children if they wished to.

LilacLouisa

Fang wrote: »

You'd rather lose equality?

Do we really have equality?

LilacLouisa

mikey72 wrote: »

I wouldn't.
I used to hate standing up on a bus and holding doors open

I don`t see that as equality, I see that as chivalry. A rare quality these days apparently!

Fang_3

LilacLouisa wrote: »

It would be if women were able to stay at home with their children if they wished to.

How is that equality? Why only women? Why not men?

Fang_3

LilacLouisa wrote: »

Do we really have equality?

Yes, but with equality you give up certain privileges that would put you at an advantage in certain situations, and you get rid of the disadvantages of others.

gravitytolls

You're right, he'll only be tiny for such a very short time. Your DH sounds very selfish, if you're expected to sacrafice your two precious baby days, he should be prepared to sacrafice his sky TV etc. Has he not considered a P/T job himself? A couple of evenings behind the bar?

I doubt he'd think it was reasonable if you suggested it, but it's not so much different is it? He's asking you to sacrafice precious, short lived time with your son.

Did you both decide to have a child, or was he an accident? Were you both delighted, anxious, doubtful about the pregnancy?

Is he an only child? Do you have family support around you?

Bigger picture's all well and good, but the little picture i pretty relevent too ~ it#ll be no time at all before he's at nursery, then at school.

Fang_3

gravitytolls wrote: »

You're right, he'll only be tiny for such a very short time. Your DH sounds very selfish, if you're expected to sacrafice your two precious baby days, he should be prepared to sacrafice his sky TV etc. Has he not considered a P/T job himself? A couple of evenings behind the bar?

I doubt he'd think it was reasonable if you suggested it, but it's not so much different is it? He's asking you to sacrafice precious, short lived time with your son.

Did you both decide to have a child, or was he an accident? Were you both delighted, anxious, doubtful about the pregnancy?

Is he an only child? Do you have family support around you?

Bigger picture's all well and good, but the little picture i pretty relevent too ~ it#ll be no time at all before he's at nursery, then at school.

Why does the mother have more of a 'right' to spend time with their baby?

LilacLouisa

Fang wrote: »

How is that equality? Why only women? Why not men?

Been thinking about this while drinking my first coffee of the day.

I will answer your question with a question, sorry. :-)

Do you think that most men have the same attachment to their new baby as most women?