I was wrong, how do I make it up? He didnt Lie!

grey_lady

Sorry for being blunt - but i think that your problem isnt with the BT thing - it's the complete lack of trust you guys have. Seriously, you can't trust him to be honest about paying a credit card bill - but.. you gave him the power to potentially make life and death decisions as your next of kin????

If you trust him that little, then maybe it's time to think seriously about if he's truly the husband you want and bear in mind that you can't change him if he isnt.

emsywoo123

OP, have you heard from him yet? What time is he normally home?

Littlemadam83

whichwhydoIturn wrote: »

know what I lived like you for years.it wasn't nice.your head runs a million miles.how are you, does your wedding seem a dot in the distance? big hug

I am bearing up all thanks to the little kitten and you guys.

He has just called after I left him a vm. He is so irate it is unbelievable. Part of me really wants to believe him, but the phone would have come up as dialling the number.

I am going to recreate that call and pray to god it doesnt come up. We are well and truely stale mate. He hung up on me, but I kept calm, and just stated as many facts as I could, and he was just being verbally abusive.

xxx

Littlemadam83

grey_lady wrote: »

Sorry for being blunt - but i think that your problem isnt with the BT thing - it's the complete lack of trust you guys have. Seriously, you can't trust him to be honest about paying a credit card bill - but.. you gave him the power to potentially make life and death decisions as your next of kin????

If you trust him that little, then maybe it's time to think seriously about if he's truly the husband you want and bear in mind that you can't change him if he isnt.

Hi GL - I appreciate honesty! So thank you xxx

Agreed there is lack of trust on my part, but not all the time. There are things sometimes I dont think sound right and pick up on them, I dont think he's cheating, but then you are right, do I trust him to make the right decision if something happened to me etc.

When he is good he is great, but when this happens it is just devastating in the sense this will be ongoing for ever. I know I need to make a decision I do love him. Just want him to be transparent 100%

Littlemadam83

emsywoo123 wrote: »

OP, have you heard from him yet? What time is he normally home?

He's normally home at 6, he just called me as my above post, so atleast he is ok.

xxx

emsywoo123

OP I have some understanding of what you are going through. Ex was a drinker, and he lied to me about it on a couple of occasions (that I know of) and other times I asked him about it, he would deny having drunk anything.........
One day I realised things were wrong when he went to the loo (after he denied having anything to drink) I checked the recycling wheelie bin outside for evidence (cans)..........I thought "what the hell has it come to" :eek:
Your behaviour over the BT thing reminds me of my rummage in the recycling.
Hugs xxxx

Littlemadam83

Omfg

i was wrong

msb5262

Don't take this the wrong way but I'm glad to hear that. Your OH was telling the truth.
Now to deal with the trust issues between you...
all the best
MsB

emsywoo123

Littlemadam83 wrote: »

Omfg

i was wrong

Right, don't panic. There is a reason that you doubted him, do not forget that, there are still issues to be resolved.

Is he coming home?

GEEGEE8

Uh Oh... but, it's a good thing in a way.. you just need to apologise and explain why you doubted him and that part IS his fault.