I was wrong, how do I make it up? He didnt Lie!

richardvc

He must be very sure that he paid it as he has not backed down - he must surely know if he is lying if he is in a huge amount of trouble.

I wish you luck Littlemadam as this kind of thing winds me up too - I smiled at your comment about friends exaggerating stories even though you were there !!

Littlemadam83

richardvc wrote: »

He must be very sure that he paid it as he has not backed down - he must surely know if he is lying if he is in a huge amount of trouble.

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You would think wouldnt you? With the !!!!!! thing which I said I had proof etc etc it went on for hours of him denying it and swearing on my life he hadn't. Not that I had an issue with it! It was only when I showed him there was no way he could deny it. It is so upsetting a human can be like this

Littlemadam83

jinky67 wrote: »

He has?:mad:

Classic abusive/controlling behaviour
Make you worry that it may be the case so stop getting at him, and questioning him:cool:

Agreed, am not going to back down however. Just need help how to get over this if you know xxxx

richardvc

I hate being rude about someone I don't know but why does he do it ??

Life is so much easier telling the truth - the lies always catch up with you.

Maybe it is a 'money' thing.

I used to be rubbish with money - cost myself a fortune by paying things late - perhaps your OH didn't want the rollicking for being a 'late payer' so he said 'Yes I've paid it' to avoid any aggro from you.

Maybe I'm just clutching at straws too !

rainbowfairydust

sorry to hear about your troubles op. I think you are mad for getting married in the first place. Leopards don't change their spots.

Littlemadam83

He does it because he is a gutless wonder sometimes.

I love him dearly, but have always hated liars so why the hell did I marry one? I just thought it would all go away.

Should have gone home by now but am scared of the onslaught that is to come from him when I explicitly stated I did not want to argue.

richardvc

Littlemadam83 wrote: »

Should have gone home by now but am scared of the onslaught that is to come from him when I explicitly stated I did not want to argue.

I'm sorry that you have this ahead of you - good luck.

If he is correct then you must apologise but do you know what you will do if he is proved to be lying ?

Littlemadam83

Thanks Richard. I am praying I am so wrong about this, as then I can go out of my way to rectify the situation.

If he has been lying I really have no idea. We are newly wed and really really dont know what to do. Got a feeling he might leave me first anyway xxxx

richardvc

Littlemadam83 wrote: »

Thanks Richard. I am praying I am so wrong about this, as then I can go out of my way to rectify the situation.

If he has been lying I really have no idea. We are newly wed and really really dont know what to do. Got a feeling he might leave me first anyway xxxx

I'm sorry but I don't have an answer for you.

If he loves you, why does he lie ?

Good luck tonight and in the nicest way I hope you are wrong about him not paying (hope you understand what I mean !)

Littlemadam83

Thanks Richard, I am home and he is late. REALLY dont think he's coming back.

Have a lovely evening, and I really do appreciate all your feedback xxx