I was wrong, how do I make it up? He didnt Lie!

peachyprice

You have written some pretty hurtful things sweetie . I would be devastated if I though my OH was posting these things about me on the internet, especially if I hadn't done anything.

Littlemadam83 wrote: »

. It is so upsetting a human can be like this

Littlemadam83 wrote: »

He does it because he is a gutless wonder sometimes.

I love him dearly, but have always hated liars so why the hell did I marry one? I just thought it would all go away.

Littlemadam83 wrote: »

do I trust him to make the right decision if something happened to me etc.

mackemdave

GEEGEE8 wrote: »

She has said that he has lied before, so obviously doubted him, which to be honest, if he has lied before then he has caused a mistrust in the relationship has he not?

The OP did get it wrong, hence why I said she needs to apologise. But I stand by my comment that he has somewhat brought this upon himself in a way.

She has gone over the top in the accusations, but I think they need to approach the issue together and work out where to go from here.

And what did he lie about...watching !!!!!!....Could the OP hand on heart say that she has never told a lie to try and protect her feelings.....No way is the OP's partner responsible for any of the happenings today...He did what he said he did.....Id say the OP is the one with the problem she has gone over board trying to prove that he is a liar....even involving strangers and she now has to back track removing history etc...is that any different to telling a lie...I DONT THINK so!!!!!!!...She has come across as a bit of a control freak ...and throughout this thread was determined that her partner was telling lies....The trust is gone on both sides now I just cant see how this can survive...

GEEGEE8

mackemdave wrote: »

And what did he lie about...watching !!!!!!....Could the OP hand on heart say that she has never told a lie to try and protect her feelings.....No way is the OP's partner responsible for any of the happenings today...He did what he said he did.....Id say the OP is the one with the problem she has gone over board trying to prove that he is a liar....even involving strangers and she now has to back track removing history etc...is that any different to telling a lie...I DONT THINK so!!!!!!!...She has come across as a bit of a control freak ...and throughout this thread was determined that her partner was telling lies....The trust is gone on both sides now I just cant see how this can survive...

I can see your point yes. I didn't realise the lie was about !!!!!!.

I don't see why the relationship can't survive though.

Zazen999

I nearly posted earlier 'what if the phone is wrong' but everyone seemed intent on joining in with the husband bashing......and to be honest, if he had just lied to get the wife to let it go, as long as the money was paid; then what's the harm?

OP - I think you both need to sort some basics out to be honest.

spender

I have read this thread tonight for the first time and will add my pennyworth.

The guy made a lie previously and according to the OP has not lied since, yet instantly she is checking the phone repeatedly, trying to make "fake" payments and instead of letting it lie until he gets home emails him as well. Quite frankly I would be running from a relationship like that, the guy made one mistake previously and because the OP could not prove the phone call had been made, belittles him and been abusive about him all day. I started wondering exactly what crime the man had committed, murder, wife beating. And then this is all aired on a forum almost immediately after the "sin" has been committed, or not been committed. I can not understand why most posters had sided with the OP against him, what had he done exactly wrong to receive such a bashing, have I missed the point?

poet123

Some of us told her to be sure before she made accusations she couldn't retract.

leanneq

I know someone who has lied to a partner for an easy life...not anything major but its due to her being possessive so he does it for an easy life!

Littlemadam83

Hi guys just quickly as am getting ready for work.

To the person that said about everyone jumped on the band wagon, they were only trying to help, and I was so sure, they took from the posts and what I said and helped on the information given.

Peachy - ok, agreed xxxx

And as for the lies, it hasnt just been the once but hasnt been all the time, the !!!!!! thing was so bad because he swore on my life even after he'd seen evidence. Little white lies also have not helped matters but most of them I have left.

I am TOTALLY in the wrong here, and have learnt a strong lesson from this. He understandably is not talking to me, and I am going to have to pray he comes round. There are problems that me and him are going to have to deal with.

xxxx

busiscoming2

Littlemadam83 wrote: »

And as for the lies, it hasnt just been the once but hasnt been all the time, the !!!!!! thing was so bad because he swore on my life even after he'd seen evidence. Little white lies also have not helped matters but most of them I have left.

I am TOTALLY in the wrong here, and have learnt a strong lesson from this. He understandably is not talking to me, and I am going to have to pray he comes round. There are problems that me and him are going to have to deal with.

xxxx

I am glad you are on the way to sorting your problems, but although you say you are totally wrong about this incident, experience has made you very wary of his ability to be truthful. This is his doing so dont be so hard on yourself. It is understandable you have reacted in this way, the thing is you are either going to have to believe every thing he says (even when you doubt him) which is probably impossible or know that he fibs and learn not to react to it.
Good luck.

pulliptears

I feel sorry for the bloke, there is nothing in this world worse than knowing you have/havent done something but having a partner with issues who refuses to believe that.

Tread carefully OP. Its little things like this, blown out of all proportion that came very close to destroying my marriage.