I was wrong, how do I make it up? He didnt Lie!

Littlemadam83

jamespir wrote: »

and your insecurities will ruin your marriage you need to work throught it

Yep totally agreed Even if it isnt all the time xxx

jamespir

Littlemadam83 wrote: »

Yep totally agreed Even if it isnt all the time xxx

sorry if that came a cross as a little to harsh i didnt mean it to but

you both have problems you need to work through

i hope that you cna both get it sorted

Littlemadam83

Seriously, I needed a reality check, which is why I have not been offended from anyones posts on here as they have all been a perspective I can understand.

So thank you for posting that, I appreciate it and unfortunately I know these issues need sorting as I am pushing him away with every time I hurt him

mikey72

Your oh/ oh's mum aren't roman catholic are they?

churchrat

have just read thro (most) of this and wish you both the best of luck. I think it can be really hard after the run up to a long planned for wedding/honeymoon. You come down to earth with a bit of a bang and then start to realise that this is the rest of your life you are looking at and all of the little niggles that you have pushed to one side because of the wedding come to the front.

I am sure that you both have a lot of adjusting to do,about money, sex, family life--everything really, because if you really meant what you said when you got married, then you will be with this man for the rest of your life, hopefully a very long time!!

Perhaps next time you fall out over something--may I suggest you don't post on a forum? Everybody on here (me included) is well meaning, but we only have your story and most will support you and you will not get a balanced opinion. A bit like asking 20 of your best friends. Perhaps you could post from HIS point of view and see what advice you get on dealing with you.

Anyway, goodluck, and remember this is just one (although a bit long) row. you will probably have lots more!

Littlemadam83

He went to a catholic school with nuns so yes, why?!?!?!

peachyprice

Blackpool_Saver wrote: »

He needs to accept his part in it too, it's not ALL you, if he hadn't lied in the past this wouldn't have happened

Sorry, I don't agree he has anything to accept blame for, he cannot be expected to spend the rest of his married life paying for past mistakes. Comments like this aren't helping, making her think it's OK to keep dragging it up again. A line needs to be drawn and OP needs to move on.

Their marriage doesn't stand a chance in hell if OP is going to keep harping back to the past.

mikey72

Littlemadam83 wrote: »

He went to a catholic school with nuns so yes, why?!?!?!

Wild guess.
Seriously, you are surprised he said no when you confronted him?
Then backed him into a corner and proved he lied.
You married him, you're supposed to understand him.
Some things you should let go.

Littlemadam83

Thank you for taking the time to read through this Churchrat.

I agree it is very hard when there is only one persons opinion on view, I was so blind by the last number dialled thing that I could only see one point of view which I have learnt is so wrong. He had no reason to lie to me!

Agreed, the end of the wedding has hopefully temporarily changed me, but it did hit me and I feel/felt down as we had been planning for 3 years!

I meant what i said with my vows, and hope he did too, I want to work through this and make things better and us stronger.

Thank you again xxx

mikey72

Which vows, the "love honour and obey", or the "take you with faults and strengths"?