Any termination threads on here?

Britwife

You're right, I'm going to pick up on EVENT. I'm vocal about not agreeing with abortion but haven't said anything against op. Sorry but that is horrible "turn of phrase" as you call it.

The only thing I have truly complained about was the comparison. You all want to distort that, then fine. This baby is being terminated, her choice, no problem but don't refer to this as an event for Pete's sake!

Person_one

Britwife wrote: »

You're right, I'm going to pick up on EVENT. I'm vocal about not agreeing with abortion but haven't said anything against op. Sorry but that is horrible "turn of phrase" as you call it.

The only thing I have truly complained about was the comparison. You all want to distort that, then fine. This baby is being terminated, her choice, no problem but don't refer to this as an event for Pete's sake!

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/event

1st definition is "something that happens or is regarded as happening; an occurrence, esp. one of some importance."

Seems to fit.

myothercarisaferrari

Britwife if it an emotive subject then perhaps not look at this thread anymore? Everyone is entitled to an opinion, I appreciate that, but whether we see it as right or wrong (the event) then its the OP's decision.

As I have mentioned previously, I was pregnant and it resulted in a mc. I never knew I was pregnant but if I had, I would have had a termination as we were taking precautions not to get pg. I have also been with a friend who had a termination and I remember at my school a girl who was raped at the age of 12 and fell pregnant. She was taken for an abortion and I remember pro-lifers turning up outside our school, calling her all sorts x

peachyprice

Britwife wrote: »

You're right, I'm going to pick up on EVENT. I'm vocal about not agreeing with abortion but haven't said anything against op. Sorry but that is horrible "turn of phrase" as you call it.

The only thing I have truly complained about was the comparison. You all want to distort that, then fine. This baby is being terminated, her choice, no problem but don't refer to this as an event for Pete's sake!

Look, you don't agree with her choice, so why even bother reading her thread. To read it pick up on the use of a word that you don't like just to justify having a go at her is childish in the extreme.

jimbms

I am sure no woman who ever decides on this action does so lightly, I guess the whole process from first thinking of it through deciding right up to its occurance it can be a very emotional event. As such my feeling go out to anyone going through this. You have made the decission therfore you are right and let nobody tell you otherwise.

Icey77

Britwife wrote: »

Why would you refer to this as an event? Why not use the actual term or a form of the term? This just comes off cold.

How would you like me to refer to it then? In my world this is something that has to be done, I realise it is not going to be pleasant and I know that many people disagree with my choice, some vehemently.

I am being cold about it as that is how I am dealing with it. My sanity requires that I treat this as something that needs to be done and to get on with it.

As for my feelings afterwards, I can't predict what they will be but at the moment my feelings are relief that my situation is in hand and I have professional, kind and helpful people to take me through it. God help me if I had been in this situation before abortion became legalised and I was forced to go to a back street abortionist and a knitting needle!

Abbafan1972

OP - I think you're very brave in coming forward and talking about what's happening to you right now.

I have been in the same situation, I was 21 at the time (I'm 38 now). Mine was the surgical type, it's not something I'd ever want to go through again, but it was the right decision for me at the time.

Obviously for a while I put it to the back of my mind, I got married and then came the time we wanted kids, we did start to have problems conceiving and I did worry that this was gods way of paying me back for what I'd done a few years earlier. It actually turned out to be hubby that had the problem, a small surgical procedure later and we now have 2 girls aged 8 & 6.

In between all that I have had 2 early miscarriages and one slightly later which was a terrible experience. Without too much information, the bathroom carpet had to be thrown out.

Btw I have been with the same partner since I was 19, in case anyone thinks hubby didn't know anything about what happened when I was 21.

I wish you all the best OP and that you get over it quickly (medically and emotionally).

Keep us posted. (((Hugs)))

Broken_hearted

So pleased you kept this thread separate to the miscarriage thread. A lot of women would be upset at a vulnerable time.

Lizzybop

Hi Icey,

I had a termination 2.5 yrs ago now. It's not something I ever thought I would have to consider.

I won't share too many details of why if you don't mind, but in terms of the procedure mine passed without any physical symptoms. I was told I would probably experience bleeding - similar to after giving birth, but there was nothing. And my periods just started again a month later.

Wishing you Lots of love and luck, that all goes ok.

Be good to yourself

L
x

moromir

Icey -

No personal experience to add but know that my thoughts are with you.

I would reiterate the wonderful earlier post by heretolearn, your feelings are your own and don't feel pressurised by anyone to feel a certain way about it. It is your experience and you are entitled to use whatever terminology you feel comfortable with.

I'm so glad you have your partner to support you and if you need to chat we'll all be here for you