Any termination threads on here?

BeenieCat

Broken_hearted wrote: »

Most abortions are done for social reasons which is against the law yet still happen on vague pretend medical issues.

Two doctors have to agree that the patient can go ahead. I thought this was more to do with double checking the patient was sure about it and not being bullied into it against their will? I wasn't aware the doctors had to say there was a medical reason. Of course it's better for the wellbeing of patient if they can terminate an unwanted pregnancy. What would it achieve to decline a patient one? Surely then it's a battle of whose rights are more important, baby or mother.

BeenieCat

Broken_hearted wrote: »

I don't find it uncomfortable I find it shameful and cruel.

I find you shameful and cruel

The OP probably feels confused and guilty and a whole abundance of emotions, but you're using her thread to spout your opinions. Go start another thread if you want to talk about how cruel it is

coco1980

op i wish you all the best and havin experienced both a mc and termination i would say that both my procedures were the exact same as i had surgical d&c oth times, and you really need someone there with you afterwards so its good that you have a supportive partner. i remember my gp advising the hosp not to allow my termination as several years beforehand i had suffered a mc which they worded in their letter as a missed abortion!

zzzLazyDaisy

OP I just wanted to give you a hug. I think what you are doing is very brave. I don't believe in abortion for myself but having experienced an unplanned pregnancy myself I do know how hard it is, and I would never wish an unwanted pregnancy on anyone.

You have to do what is right for yourself, no-one can ever stand in your shoes.

xxx

Triangle

Bufger wrote: »

You are definately not alone in any case but there are some that are too holy and opinionated to allow fellow MSE'ers to support each other through Termination.

How very sad (yet predictable) that this has indeed occured.

OP and all others offended by this, I suggest you place Broken hearted on ignore. Broken hearted- the majority of people who have posted on here have been respectful of one anothers views even those they don't agree with. While I accept and appreciate your pro-life views despite being pro-choice myself, I find it awful that you have resorted to the emotive and judgemental tones that contribute to making this subject such a taboo subject. Shame on you.

pinknfluffy0

Edited to block out nasty quotes

Person_one

BeenieCat wrote: »

Two doctors have to agree that the patient can go ahead. I thought this was more to do with double checking the patient was sure about it and not being bullied into it against their will? I wasn't aware the doctors had to say there was a medical reason. Of course it's better for the wellbeing of patient if they can terminate an unwanted pregnancy. What would it achieve to decline a patient one? Surely then it's a battle of whose rights are more important, baby or mother.

Most terminations are approved on the ground that continuing the pregnancy would be detrimental to the woman's mental health, which of course it would be if the pregnancy was unwanted. I strongly believe every child should be a wanted child.

Children who weren't really wanted by their parents can suffer greatly all their lives, I think its highly hypocritical to claim to care so much about a child before its born while giving so little thought to their wellbeing afterwards. If people like Broken Hearted care so deeply about children I suggest they look into fostering the many already born children who really could use a bit of help.

venus1978

Hi op just wanted to say that I too had one about 6 years ago now I think it was. I was 26ish and married for 4 years. DH and I have never wanted children and it was a failure in contracteption that got me pregnant. I didn't think twice about having an abortion and I had it done at the Marie Stopes clinic by sugical procedure (the suction one) without any anethesia and it was ok, like really really bad period pains. All with full backing and support of DH.

I never had any problems after and never felt bad/guilty or upset about it. For me and DH it was never a difficult decision as the baby/child would have been unwanted by both of us.

OP if you have any question or need to chat about, just PM me.

chewits

I'm afraid I've only browsed through the posts, so sorry if I'm repeating anything. But just wanted to say that I have experienced both a miscarriage and a surgical abortion. The miscarriage was more traumatic - although I was having difficulty adjusting to being pregnant I was getting there, so it still felt like a loss. The abortion was different altogether. I'd always been very anti-abortion (for which I feel very sorry now). Yet the moment I knew I was pregnant on that occasion, I KNEW I would not be having the baby. In my defence, I was in an abusive, violent relationship. Funny thing is, I couldn't say boo to a goose at that time, and did everything he said. But I still knew I couldn't have the baby. Most days I wasn't even allowed out of his sight but the day of the termination I ran a bath and ran out of the house to a waiting taxi. I still consider it to be the bravest thing I've ever done.

I've never regretted it, not for one moment. I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but I'm sure the OP wants honest answers, and 10 years down the line I've never altered my view

LilacPixie

OP - never had an abortion but I have held my best friends hand while she had a second trimester abortion. She had to attend hospital for a pessery to basically induce labour. The staff at the clinic we attended were great at what was understandably an emotive time. Unfortunalty she needed to go for the surgical proceedure as the pesseries did not work. I understand the process to be alot more straight forward the earlier you are.

I'm sure you will be fine. Good luck