Any termination threads on here?

myothercarisaferrari

speedy recovery Icey x

Britwife

Person_one wrote: »

The OP has not compared her situation with a miscarriage, she started this thread to avoid upsetting people on the miscarriage support thread, even though she clearly feels sadness about her situation.

The poster you are referring to was just using a technical term, because the biological process is very similar, just that one is accidental and one is induced. A lot of the physical effects the OP will go through will be the same.

I don't think trying to make the OP feel bad for feeling bad is very supportive.

She responded with a direct quote above comparing it to a miscarriage. The quote wasn't from original poster. I'm sorry but I agree, an abortion should never be compared to a miscarriage. I lost a baby at 12 weeks and had to go through the process of a d and c to have the baby removed. It took us 18 long months to finally get pregnant again. It took me a long time to heal. This baby was planned and it was devastating to go to the doctors only to be told your baby has no heartbeat.

You have to do what you feel is right but I don't believe in abortion, however, I don't feel that it is murder. I hope you can come to terms with this decision in time. I don't know why you feel you have to have one and it's not my duty to change your mind. Abortion breaks my heart, I look at my 3 children and they are the light of my life.

Torry_Quine

hannahjex wrote: »

http://www.careconfidential.com/Stories/587.aspx

My heart goes out to you a this is a difficult decision. Would agree that this is a good site to get support.

Look after yourself

looby75

Hi Icey, couldn't read and run, just wanted to say I know this decision can't have been easy for you and my own personal belief is that it's better and kinder to everyone to have an abortion than have an unwanted child that you may end up resenting.

I hope everything goes as smoothly as possible and isn't too tough for you.

spaghetti_monster

Hi there,
My experience is also from a miscarriage, so I can maybe tell you about the physical side.

I had a missed miscarriage (pregnancy stopped, but the foetus etc didn't come out by itself). I opted for the medication and the doctors said I had quite a strong reaction. About 3 hours after I put the pessaries in (I live in Holland, very much hands-off medical service!), I was in quite a lot of pain- basically had to throw up and then lie in bed unable to do thing. This was over after half an hour. Then 2 hours later everything started to come out. Quite heavy bleeding for about a week and then spotting for another few weeks.
After a scan there was still stuff to come out (like a previous poster) and I had to wait yet another cycle for everything to be clear (I wanted to start trying again).
If I had to make the same decision again I would probably go for the D&C operation - not really because of the pain, but because everything seemed to drag on and one feeling I had was that I wanted it to be over as soon as possible (maybe you do to for different reasons).
Like other posters, I fully support your right to choose and wish you all the best

summerday

Britwife wrote: »

She responded with a direct quote above comparing it to a miscarriage. I'm sorry but I agree, an abortion should never be compared to a miscarriage. I lost a baby at 12 weeks and had to go through the process of a d and c to have the baby removed. It took us 18 long months to finally get pregnant again. It took me a long time to heal. This baby was planned and it was devastating to go to the doctors only to be told your baby has no heartbeat.

You have to do what you feel is right but I don't believe in abortion, however, I don't feel that it is murder. I hope you can come to terms with this decision in time. I don't know why you feel you have to have one and it's not my duty to change your mind. Abortion breaks my heart, I look at my 3 children and they are the light of my life.

Britwife, so sorry to hear of your experience. I completely understand the pain as I found out at my 12 week scan last week that I had a mmc, this was a planned and much wanted baby so it has been quite traumatic, especially as I had no idea that anything was wrong.

However, I try hard not to judge others, unless you've walked in someone else's shoes you never know how they feel and think. As abortion is legal in this country, I feel it is every woman's right to choose. Unplanned pregnancies happen for lots of reasons, it sounds like the OP was using contaception, but sometimes it fails, and if a couple don't wish for a child at that time they shouldn't, in my opinion, be forced to have it. Abortion is a taboo subject, and provokes strong emotions in some people (and I fullly appreciate why), but women who make the decision to have one have their reasons, are not breaking the law and deserve support -especially if they have openly asked for it. The OP has clearly made her mind up, so please can we not make any more 'I don't agree with abortion' type comments, they will only make the OP feel worse. Please let's just give her the support she has asked for and possibly isn't getting in real life.

Sorry if anyone thinks I'm having a go, I'm not trying to.

Sarahx

honeybear_2

Utterly no experience in this field but couldn't read & run - wishing lots of love & support

xx

QQuaver

(((Hugs))) to OP. (I had missed miscarriage & D&C last year).

sephrenia

Just wanted to add my own (((HUGS)) for you Icey. I hope you get through the recovery process okay.

Britwife

saraht wrote: »

Britwife, so sorry to hear of your experience. I completely understand the pain as I found out at my 12 week scan last week that I had a mmc, this was a planned and much wanted baby so it has been quite traumatic, especially as I had no idea that anything was wrong.

However, I try hard not to judge others, unless you've walked in someone else's shoes you never know how they feel and think. As abortion is legal in this country, I feel it is every woman's right to choose. Unplanned pregnancies happen for lots of reasons, it sounds like the OP was using contaception, but sometimes it fails, and if a couple don't wish for a child at that time they shouldn't, in my opinion, be forced to have it. Abortion is a taboo subject, and provokes strong emotions in some people (and I fullly appreciate why), but women who make the decision to have one have their reasons, are not breaking the law and deserve support -especially if they have openly asked for it. The OP has clearly made her mind up, so please can we not make any more 'I don't agree with abortion' type comments, they will only make the OP feel worse. Please let's just give her the support she has asked for and possibly isn't getting in real life.

Sorry if anyone thinks I'm having a go, I'm not trying to.

Sarahx

I am very sorry for your loss.

I clearly stated it wasn't my duty to change her mind and that I hope she heals in time. That even though I don't believe in abortion, I don't feel it's murder. I don't need to be told what to say and what not to say. I'm sorry for getting defensive but I'm not going to be told off for stating my feelings on public forum. My main goal was to make it clear that you can't compare abortion to a miscarriage...they are 2 completely different things.