Any termination threads on here?

ninky_2

Equaliser123 wrote: »

Just read through this thread.

Amazed that some posters (not OP) who have had their child terminated can say that they have "no regret" or "didn't feel bad afterwards".

I'm not offering an opinion in OP's case, but surely this sort of action must provoke some sort of regret?

not necessarily. whatever reaction people have is perfectly natural. i'm not judging and it may well be that they know they would have lived to regret allowing a pregnancy to go full term.

there are many reasons why carrying a pregnancy full term is not right for everyone.

the OP clearly finds it a difficult situation to be faced with and suggesting that they SHOULD feel regret over it isn't very helpful.

Equaliser123

Person_one wrote: »

Ridiculous argument, by that logic, your sperm all have a right to develop into babies, I hope you aren't wasting any!

Right, last post. You should have tried harder at school. Sperm + egg = foetus.

Sperm by itself doesn't.

Some people may have been offended by your last comment. I'm not. I can put anonymous internet comments into context.

tbourner

Equaliser123 wrote: »

Right, last post. You should have tried harder at school. Sperm + egg = foetus.

Sperm by itself doesn't.

Foetus by itself doesn't equal anything either, it needs a womb to survive.
Newborn baby by itself doesn't equal anything, it needs an adult to survive.

Person_one

Equaliser123 wrote: »

Right, last post. You should have tried harder at school. Sperm + egg = foetus.

Sperm by itself doesn't.

Some people may have been offended by your last comment. I'm not. I can put anonymous internet comments into context.

There is actually a school of thought (in the US of course) that all sperm should have the chance to meet an egg and potentially form a life, they believe that any ejaculation where this isn't a possibility is morally wrong. Sounds crazy, but only a natural extension of the ideas some anti-choice people hold.

I got an A in biology but thanks for your concern.

Equaliser123

ninky wrote: »

not necessarily. whatever reaction people have is perfectly natural. i'm not judging and it may well be that they know they would have lived to regret allowing a pregnancy to go full term.

there are many reasons why carrying a pregnancy full term is not right for everyone.

the OP clearly finds it a difficult situation to be faced with and suggesting that they SHOULD feel regret over it isn't very helpful.

where have I said they "SHOULD" feel regret? Just surprised that somebody "DOESN'T" have any regrets of this nature.

Equaliser123

tbourner wrote: »

Foetus by itself doesn't equal anything either, it needs a womb to survive.
Newborn baby by itself doesn't equal anything, it needs an adult to survive.

Not quite sure you've grasped the point.

Newborn baby = human being.

Sublime_2

Equaliser123 wrote: »

Perhaps as the father of an incredibly loved baby, I see things slightly different to someone who doesn't want children at all....

Exactly, you are the father. It will not affect you the same way, whatever you say.

As per my previous post, I hope everything goes well with you OP. This cannot have been an easy choice to make.

tbourner

Equaliser123 wrote: »

Not quite sure you've grasped the point.

Newborn baby = human being.

The point is your argument against sperm being comparable was that on their own they aren't anything other than sperm. I was just saying there's no point in the lifecycle that the 'baby' becomes anything other than what it is at the time. At all stages if it was left alone it would be nothing.

IzzyWizzy

Hi Icey first of all i would like to wish you all the very best, it is really not an easy decision to make and I am thinking of you.

I have been reading this thread since you started it and kept going to post but I didn't feel I could/wanted to under my usual name it is a very emotive subject and I don't want it to interfere with my usual posting.

My experience is that I had a termination 13 years ago and I know not everyone will feel the same but I still live with the guilt. What I done was definately the right thing to do for me at that time and i dont regret that, but I don't think the guilt will ever go fully-but i think that is just me, not everyone thankfully feels like this.

I was pretty naive and was completely unprepared for what was happening, to this day my family don't know and I don't ever want them to find out.

On a practical note take lots of heavy duty sanitary pads with you and a nightie or long t shirt, i walked in in jeans and t shirt and when the nurses asked if i wanted to get changed and I said I didn't have any other clothes they just looked at me (I didn't even have any sanitary towels ) also take some food and water for both you and your bf (sorry I think you said he was going to be there with you?) also some books or magazines etc.

I was given some oral tablets the day or two before and on the day I went in at 8am and was given pessaries, I did need some pethidene (sp?) and gas and air as they had to induce labour. I don't want to go into too much detail as I still find in upsetting but I was sitting on the toilet with a bowl when it passed. The nurses were ok but apart from one were not very sympathetic in my experience (but who can blame them). I got out at 5pm after the doc and a load of students came round to see me and check I was ok.

What I wasn't prepared for was the amount of bleeding afterwards (naivety again?) and mine unfortunately did last a few months as not everything had passed. Sorry I trully hope I am not upsetting you, i just wish I was more informed about what was happening.

Please just remember that although this is right decision for you, it is still a very emotional time so take time to recover both mentally and physically from it. Your bf may also find it very emotional so look after each other.

I wish you all the very best and will be thinking of you. Take care x

jimbms

Person_one wrote: »

Ridiculous argument, by that logic, your sperm all have a right to develop into babies, I hope you aren't wasting any!

I'm sorry but is it only me who is now thinking of the Monty Python song "Every sperm is sacred"
BTW last part very subtle