MSE Parents Club Part 13

ladybirdintheuk

Oh Som. I think everyone goes through that at some stage. They don't realise how tiring it is being a mum, or how much time you spend awake in the night while they are zzzzzz! When he gets up, get Tahlie packed into her buggy, with changing bag and tell him he is going for a walk with her for an hour or two so you can go back to bed.

I got the luxury of a lie in this morning - I didn't have to get up until 7:04! That counts as a lie in around here

BrunoM

Ugh Som

I hope I can say this without offending anyone which is not my intention, but I honestly do not understand how various people's OHs, who obviously have various other redeeming and valuable qualities, and I am sure love their partners and want to respect them etc etc... how these OHs are happy for the sleep and the child caring stuff to be so very one-sided. Surely nowadays no-one believes that being a SAHM isn't equivalent to a "job", etc? If I see my OH looking exhausted or stressed after a day caring for our child, I step in... if I come home from work exhausted and stressed after an unusually hard day, she steps in. It seems really obvious to me? No-one is perfect and there will always be 'hiccups' that people will feel are unfair one dir or the other but surely not all the time??

Sorry this has been bothering me for a bit and is not directed at anyone in particular! Just, !!!!!!

SugarSpun

I think you're right Bruno. Husband is variable in the way he responds when I'm tired, but since he has a long term illness to contend with I don't usually see it as him being a butthead - he does what he can when he's able and when he isn't I get on with things.

I do get annoyed on behalf of other people who seem to spend most of their time wishing their OHs would do more - but then I often come in here to vent and the reality is a lot more balanced than one migh think, so perhaps it's the same for them. And if it isn't then their OHs need a sharp reality check and they themselves need a night in a hotel and a 10am room service breakfast.

Somnium

Thanks Bruno and no its not offensive. He is good with helping with other stuff, he is just very selfish when it comes to sleep as he loves it so much and can do it so easily no matter the time or place or noise going on!

Ladybird - I would but its quite cold here atm and T is full of cold.

update... he's up and has taken the dog out and think he's wondering why I have the hump!

kindofagilr

Somnium wrote: »

AArrgghhh!!! All I want is some sleep, just a little lie in Im so fed up OH has had 3 days in a row off and not once has he offered to get up with T and let me have even just an hour in bed to catch up on some sleep. Despite me constantly dropping massive hints and constantly saying how tired I am. Not only that but I just cant stop yawning and even his mum commented on it yesterday and I replied 'yes Im shattered a lie in would be nice!'. Hes worked a 6 day week for the last 6 weeks so have let him lie on his one day off, but I cant remember the last time I got a lie in, am so up set we're supposed to be going out today and I just cba now and feel like he only wants to be a Dad when its convienient for him. I could go on but I wont sorry to start the day off on a bad note.

Aww hugs chick, he needs a kick up the bum, I always get annoyed when OH wakes up in the mornings when he is at work, and goes on and on about how tired he is, even though he's slept from.10 till 7.30am, drives me crazy, BUT when he is off the next day he is good, although I still get up with E in the morning OH does the night feeds so I get to sleep from like 10 till 7 ish xxxxxx

Bruno you sound like a great man, but your right i just don't get it, I am not even a SAHM i am back to wOrk soon, and vie warned OH that if E is still waking in the night which I really hope he isn't then he is gonna have tonstart getting up in the night too.

Everything falls to me wih regards to E which drove me crazy in the beginning, I do all his bottles, I make all his food, I do most of the nappy changes i do most of the feeding, but in the end i would just end up getting annoyed, nag him to do it, then he would do it while whinging so i just gave up and thought it was a lot easier to do it all myself!!!!!

It's annoying, cos OH can't wait to play army guys with E but I am milk well yes but there is lots of stuff u need to do with him first, u can't just fastforward him to playing age

got-it-spend-it

Somnium wrote: »

AArrgghhh!!! All I want is some sleep, just a little lie in Im so fed up OH has had 3 days in a row off and not once has he offered to get up with T and let me have even just an hour in bed to catch up on some sleep. Despite me constantly dropping massive hints and constantly saying how tired I am. Not only that but I just cant stop yawning and even his mum commented on it yesterday and I replied 'yes Im shattered a lie in would be nice!'. Hes worked a 6 day week for the last 6 weeks so have let him lie on his one day off, but I cant remember the last time I got a lie in, am so up set we're supposed to be going out today and I just cba now and feel like he only wants to be a Dad when its convienient for him. I could go on but I wont sorry to start the day off on a bad note.

Have you tried asking outright if he will get up with Tahlie on his next day off? That's what we do here so we're both clear on who is getting up as it saves the half asleep arguing in the morning. I'm afraid hints fall on deaf ears .

I totally agree with you Bruno and there are plenty of OH's I would like to shake, given what is written on here. Like SS I probably give my OH a bit of a hard time on here but he is great at sharing the responsibilities and I realise how lucky I am. In the early days when I was up a lot in the night OH used to do all the early mornings when he wasn't working and it made a huge difference.

:j A day at home with my bubba today. We need to go for a walk and post some NCT newsletters through doors, then I think my Mum is coming over.

got-it-spend-it

I meant to also comment on the BLW theme. I wouldn't say I 'ccok' BLW foods as such, it tends to just be a few things that we are having that Henry can eat. So for lunch that is usually some kind of sandwich, roll, wrap etc, some raw veggie sticks and some sticks of cheese. Evening meal things might be big pasta shapes (rigatoni is good) covered in pesto or some sauce, potato wedges, sweet potato wedges, roasted carrots, HM pizza, quiche, omlette, etc. If we are having something 'wet' like sheherd's pie then we will feed it to Henry. He also then has chunks of fruit and a yogurt for pud. HTH.

CAFCGirl

MORNING!

L slept from 7pm till half 6 this morning..... I should have gone to bed earlier! I woke up at 2 and at 4 expecting him to be awake!!!

Got a large cup of tea on the go whilst i decided what to do with our day

aless02

EA, you don't need recipes for BLW - that's the appeal! I just give Finn lots of whatever and not a whole lot of 'cooked' things.

For instance, yesterday he had:
Breakfast: 1 fried egg (torn into strips), 1 banana, 1/2 piece of toast with cream cheese spread (this is a very common breakfast as his daddy gives his brekkie and isn't the most imaginative person )
Lunch: batons of courgette sauteed in butter (I made up a batch yesterday so this was cold from the fridge), oatcakes with butter, hunk of cheese
Dinner: handful of cooked fusilli pasta (tossed in a bit of butter just so it's not plain as he won't eat plain pasta - but other babies prolly do!), 1/2 peach and most of a SJ-style cheese & courgette muffin.

So really I rarely make anything exclusively for him except for steaming/cooking batches of veg. Sometimes I give him bits of leftover meals if it works out that way, but otherwise it's lots of bits and bobs. Some days are more nutrionally balanced that others .

ManOnTheMoon

HBC number 6 on my google search too (taking out the video). A few thanks on vent board from unknown posters. Their must also be some holiday review sites out there to post that on?

I had the opposite problem. I went out to work, had 2 lazy OH's and had to do all the housework (and i'm not kidding, neither as much as hoovered or washed up - ever) The only thing they were useful for were being at home with the kids so they weren't alone, but I felt so much better when they were in my care. Then of course, a few years of single fatherhood to 7 girls was tough, but you know, you get on with what hand you are dealt with and it is still strange now that I have Lucy to help me out as it's all foreign to me, but it's....nice? Now she's pregnant, i'll do my best to treat her like a princess even more to the point where it's not treating her like an invalid, but if I do, I expect her to say something as we're not living somewhere repressed where she doesn't get any choice. sometimes you just have to nag someone and having an arguement or three is good.....i've not had the pleasure with Lucy yet. I've even stayed up with Lucy all night when she's had morning sickness, it must be love :rotfl: Luckily the good few months financially means I can stay at home without working for 2-3 years before starting the business and enjoy all the nappies, getting up at night etc etc. You're missing the experience by not doing so

Big day tomorrow with the scan etc. Lucy is calm today. Calm before the storm I would guess. Only 3 days until youngest 5 go back to school. I think I may take everyone out for the day just to help the relaxed mood ahead of tomorrow.

Ladybird - How's the website going?

EA - I hate it when people christen children for the sake of it. I am not remotely religious and will not be having mine christened. People do many things for the sake of it and for many reasons.

:rotfl: @ 3's SureStart location.

Button - How long have you known internet friend? I would err on the side of caution, but that's my fatherly instinct kicking in and i'm guessing you aren't 17 or younger For all I know, all you ladies are all called Frank from Grimsby :eek:

I know Harley came back recently to say hi, but where are other absentees such as feelinggood, and has Mazcabs posted since her holidays? Not checked back the past couple of days.