MSE Parents Club Part 13

SugarSpun

Normally I can see the discount - sometimes they don't work if you're buying sale items already?

gill_81uk

SugarSpun wrote: »

Normally I can see the discount - sometimes they don't work if you're buying sale items already?

I did have a sale item in my basket so that could be messing it up. I'll try again later with just full price.

Happy Birthday to little Molly :j

kindofagilr

Evansangel wrote: »

Lily has been weighed, she's 15lbs 11ozs now. She dropped half a centile, so we have to get her weighed again in 4 weeks to see if she stays in the middle of 50th & 75th. She was 91st to start with.



I think i was due 2nd, but gave bith first?

Yeah deffo, at the moment we just cant afford it and i feel it would be unfair to take Lily on a train for 3/4 hours I'd also have to take 3/4 bottles and 2 pots of food with me. As well as her pram, change of clothes, nappies and wipes and toys.

That happened to E last time he got weighed, he was inbetween 50th and 75th then he dropped to 50th, but the stupid HV put it on the wrong week and he was still between 50th and 75th, then he got weighed yesterday and he jumped right up to between 75th and 91st (he was 91st when he was born)

Well E was due on the 8th? I thought you were due just before me?

Oh god me either chick, I would have the same problem with needing all the bottles, and the food and everything else lol, we will have to figure something out when they are a bit older?

LUSH pics

Gill what size clothes do you need? I have some going spare that E is too big for that the fairies could send (if its the right size) or ASDA are quite cheap

Thanks chopsticks, I think I am going to give him babyrice mixed with a fruit puree for breakfast.

EA no it doesnt fold down, but it takes 2 mins to put up so u could put it up and take it down all the time?

Angelfairy - I have Sky + HD and we pay 59 quid a month but we have all the channels, but as soon as I get rid of the sports and moveis I think it goes down to 28 quid but if you dont have hd its 19 a month and thats for like all the entertainment ones, the kids ones, the music, the discovery etc, sky one, living etc etc

Skysports is at least £12 a month

EA I feel exactly the same as you, we dont do anything, its the same old same old every day

We put E to bed at 7 or 7.30 in his own room in his cot, and he's smashing, I love it cos it means we get a couple of hours chilling before bed but OH just ends up on the laptop lol or he doesnt want to watch what I want to watch

Happy Birthday Molly,Amelie and Beccles

(((HUGS))) CAFC, OH is like that, he annoyed me last night, he came home from work and E was a little bit whingy and OH was like h god shut up and I was like !!!!!! youve been in the house all of an hour and your getting stressed with him!!! JEEZ and he doesnt have to do ANY night feeds I think I am too good to him lol actually I dont remember the last time he did a feed! (he does the night feeds on a weeked BUT ONLY BECASUE HE IS STILL UP, if I asked him to get up in the night when he was asleep then he would whinge, and I would end up awake anyway)

SOM wrote:

EA - once you've learnt to drive we could meet up somewhere in the middle then we'd only be looking at 30/45 min drive each. Altho if its a lovely day I dont mind driving to you

I wish I lived closer to you two, it would take me 8 hours to drive to you if I could even drive

CAFCGirl

SusanC wrote: »

I've always found OH isn't very good at remembering what we've agreed. I think he especially finds it difficult because what we do changes gradually over time rather than being fixed. He also took a long time to get that when I said, "If you leave Alice to cry for ages when she wakes up crying in the middle of the night she's much less likely to settle back okay" I didn't mean, "If you jump up and deal with her straight away it guarantees that she'll settle back fine." so he used to be annoyed with me if he dealt with her and then she didn't settle straight away. We used to quite regularly have arguments because he thought he could have set response to things which Alice would respond to in a certain way everytime and he didn't adjust what he was doing according to the feedback she was giving but he is much better now.

Its not so much that L doesnt follow "the rules" etc. Its just things like we agreed when he has work the next day if L woke up pre midnight, DH would see to him, and after that it would be me so that DH could sleep.... which I dont have problem with at all.

But then that nights when he doesnt have work, he would do them so that i could catch up on some sleep, and if he needed help etc to wake me.
But I wake up everytime anyway, and have to wake him up to see to L and of course he takes about 15 minutes of stirring around before he finally gets up by which time L is screaming and I've got up to comfort him..... As i dont see the point of just letting L scream and cry when he's got a reason to, like he's hungry.... but DH cant seem to see that and just thinks let him cry he'll calm down in a minute.... which if hes screaming for food, he wont....

I also point out to him that I have L all through the day, as well as an attention seeking pug to entertain, so its not like he's the only person with "a job"....
And then of course when its his days off, he doesnt do stuff round the house to give me a day off from it all. He just does what he used to do with his days before L arrived, so he'll play xbox or sit in front of the tele with ruddy Dave on, or mooch on youtube all day.... dont get me wrong i spend a fair amount of time on the internet.... but me and L dont spend any time with him for 3 days of the week so when his days off come round, i want us all to spend some time together....

got-it-spend-it

kindofagilr wrote: »

EA I feel exactly the same as you, we dont do anything, its the same old same old every day

I meant to respond to EA on this, but I forgot and your post just reminded me!

I would so recommend getting to some mother and baby things near you. Even if you're not particularly looking to make new friends, it is just nice to be out of the house and in a different environment for a bit. WE really like Rhyme Time at the library (free) as there is a focus to it so you don't have to be making conversation the whole time. Also my NCT tea group was a lifeline for me, and you don't even have to an NCT member to join one. We now go to the park together and stuff, and I've met some really lovely people through it. It also means that you get to hear about other 'family' things to do, places to visit etc near you as everyone else is in the same situation as you. Things that we like to do as a family include-

-Go to the zoo- we've bought an annual pass (£50 odd) but it means that we always have somewhere fun to go without spending cash on the day. Loads of local attractions to similar and I think it is one of the best things we have spent out on.

-Take a picnic to the beach or park. We always take something 'fun' rather than just boring sandwiches and H loves it!

-Local Farmers Markets (loads of free things to taste and lots for H to look at)

-Ikea! Not everyone's idea of fun, but the cafe is cheap and massive and it's lots of fun playing in the toy dept with H!

-Car boot sales- again there is loads for H to look at, and you can pick up some amazing bargains

Sorry if those are really obvious suggestions, but I thought it might be useful to share some ideas!

CAFC- no good advice on your OH really, other than to keep telling him what you need/want him to do, and remind him of it during the night rather than get exasperated and end up doing it yourself (which is what I used to do).


Henry is having a marathon nap, which is lovely! Hopefully it means he will be in a good mood for the rest of the day as his teeth are bothering him at the moment.

SusanC_2

CAFCGirl wrote: »

But then that nights when he doesnt have work, he would do them so that i could catch up on some sleep, and if he needed help etc to wake me.
But I wake up everytime anyway, and have to wake him up to see to L and of course he takes about 15 minutes of stirring around before he finally gets up by which time L is screaming and I've got up to comfort him..... As i dont see the point of just letting L scream and cry when he's got a reason to, like he's hungry.... but DH cant seem to see that and just thinks let him cry he'll calm down in a minute.... which if hes screaming for food, he wont....

My OH would think that if he waited she might stop crying too. I found kicking him till he either objected or got out of bed was quite effective.

Mazcabs

Just given up waiting for OH to wake up and normally get on with it myself... as you say I tend to wake up anyway!!

got-it-spend-it

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CAFCGirl

Thanks all

I do keep reminding him of what he agreed to, and i even say if you cant keep up with that we'll come up with a new arrangement. He knows that I can't stand disorder, and I need to have an agreed plan (Im a bit of an ocd freak), I dont respond well to just winging it, and seeing who gets up.... and anyway it'd be me....

Its not as if he's not capable either, he is quite good at the practicals like feeding/changing/clothing and even playing with L.... but he does get really stressed out if L is crying/wont settle.... DH seems to think that he'll have the same pattern that he did as a new born so expects to feed him and then L will just sleep..... and then moans that L is boring (which at times, granted he is) but he can't have it both ways... if L is going to get more entertaining and need playing with me, he needs to be awake more.....

On a completely different note though as I could moan about him till the cows come home right now.... I've boxed up all L's newborn clothes, and he's in 0-3 completely now, but even some of those are a bit "stretched" LOL mainly his body suits, sleepsuits are fine, thankfully!

Krystaltips

BrunoM wrote: »

how long did it take for your boobies to stop leaking?

First time round I leaked for probably 2 months... 2nd time around it was a lot longer... Maybe 8 or 9... This time I dread to think... Although I'll have 2 babies going at it so maybe it will be easier?

hammyhunter wrote: »

Thanks Krystal - may I have your phone number please as I may get confused/lost trying to find you!

I'll PM you with it

jillie1974 wrote: »

i bough this http://www.elc.co.uk/Light-Sound-Funky-Footprints/115994,default,pd.html but from boots. when we put the batteries in its not working and to cap it all. i've lost the receipt!!
do you think boots will exchange it with no receipt?

If mothercare won't then ELC will. I bought Aimee one of their CD players and it broke about 18months later it stopped working. I didn't have a reciept but because it was ELC brand and they still had it in store they were happy to take it back... (Worked well for me too because they didn't have anymore in stock so they gave me a giftcard to the value... I bought Aimee a cheapy CD player elsewhere since I realised she didn't need the ELC one and used the voucher to buy baby stuff while I was pregnant )