getting out with daughter... where do i go?! help!

fireflycatcher

I agree, he has the potential to hurt your daughter. I've been in the same situation and you do have to get out as soon as you can. I'm scared for you but you are strong enough to make the decision to go, you CAN do this. xxxx

ailuro2

Act normally, why did he tell you he was coming back, is he really or is it a control thing?

Be very careful this is a dangerous man you're dealing with. Do nothing to arouse his suspicion but get out tonight... and never ever go back.

If necessary go to the nearest police station and ask them for help, who knows, they might be able to give you a lift to the nearest refuge.

UnsureNow

he'd forgot his phone. we have no landline, but a phone each. however, he took both phones with him. when i tried to beg him to leave my phone he pushed me aside and told me i wouldn't be needing it. stay in the house, daughter doesn't need to go to nursery in the morning can go on friday. i'm scared, but i've waited and don't see him coming back now. but if he decided to he can't phone me to tell me he is coming as he has my phone too he is very very controlling of me and i don't know if it was that he left is phone or partly to get my phone. he wants to cut me off completely from everything.

i'm in south ayrshire and there's a refuge in ayr but i can't walk to it. i'm not sure what to do yet, i've repacked and i'm about to leave the house.... i think i've got everything important. my daughter has a backpack with her favourite toys and i have a bag with some clothes, and some special things. a little money (all i could get), and passports.

i just have to decide if i try walk to a police station (which is far to walk) or what i do..... no phone and the nearest refuge would take me ages to walk to.

and all this with a 3yo

UnsureNow

amandaayrshire/xmaslolly that is my worst fear.... i know my daughter hides when he starts shouting and she knows that he pushes me. when i didn't give her what she wanted for dinner tonight, she hit me hard and pushed me. she said i was bad and deserved hit when daddy said so. i can't let her turn into that... i can't let her mirror his actions.

GEEGEE8

Get to a police station is you can't ring for help now.. they will look after you !

UnsureNow

it's very far to try and walk to a police station - but do you think it's my only option?

GEEGEE8

Can you get to a phonebox? call for help? or a taxi if you have the money?

pimento

Knock at a neighbour's and ask if you can use the phone.

He's a nutcase. What would you do if you needed a doctor for your daughter if you don't have a phone?

chocdonuty

Can you go to a neighbours house? or a public phone, maybe even a supermarket/pub/hotel Also if you know his route home, try to avoid that. Have you enough money to stay in a hotel overnight and make your calls from there?
This will be hard and i know how you're feeling, I left my ex in a similar way and was beyond terrified thinking about what would happen if he came back, don't think I stopped shaking for a while! but it is honestly the best thing I did and the best and most important thing you have to do now.
michelle x

LE3

can you get to a pub? local shop? anywhere that has a phone?