getting out with daughter... where do i go?! help!

UnsureNow

hello, i had an account in 2007 and at the time was my current fiance. we have been together for 8 years now, my daughter is 3 years old. recently he has become abusive. it started that we'd argue and he might scratch me or shove me to a wall and shout in my face. then he told me i wasn't allowed in his house, i had to sleep on the couch or in a sleeping bag on the floor or to leave the house. he told me i wasn't allowed to use the car, even though it was actually my car (we got it with shared money, for me). over the past 2/3 weeks things have got worse, he pushed me to the floor, and i slapped him across the face. i thought that was a good idea, at the time i just did it, thought i'd not take it any more, but that's obviously made things worse. he's made me stay in the house. he takes my daughter to nursery and then goes to work, she has to be picked up by him after school and i just stay in the house. i phoned my job and stood down from it because i couldn't get in because i couldn't leave the house. i knew i had to leave because although he is lovely to my daughter, cuddling and kissing her and buying her treats, he is screaming constantly at me, he has punched me in the ribs/side once (yesterday) as well as smacking the back of his hand off of my mouth, which did bleed. so i'm covered in bruises and he is away tonight, to stay with a friend (it's not a girl, i know the friend, who is also his workmate, not that i'd care if it was a girl) and comes back 2pm tomorrow. i've packed my daughter a bag and myself too, but i have nowhere to go. if anybody has any advice..... i really want to go, it is the right thing isn't it?

DVardysShadow

You NEED to go. Find a friend you can trust with your plans who can keep a few things for you - get important things out, such as documents and some money. Others here have very relevant experience, so more help should be along soon.

Sagz_2

Change the locks and stay where you are and call the police!

UnsureNow

am i allowed to change locks?

i don't have any friends to go to

Steel_2

Yes. Go. Now.

Women's Aid and Refuge are both charities that run hostels that will give you a place to stay. My computer is playing me up at the moment and I can't download pages to find the details quickly for you.

Someone will be along shortly with some more numbers and help.

Grab some of your financial paperwork and passport too. Is your daughter on yours or his passport?

Have you got any cash for a taxi?

UnsureNow

my passport yes.

i don't think at this point changing the locks is what i'd want to do... leave the house, get locks somehow, rush back, and change them, leave. rather be here then go and never turn back...

xmaslolly76

Oh God chick you have to leave no matter what Phone womens aid now 0808 2000 247 dont wait tell them you have to go and you have to go now. I know there are women on here who are clued up on such things and will be able to advise you further.

Please please please dont stay there a minute longer than you have to even if you have to go and walk into the local police station which from what you are describing it doesnt sound like a bad idea to contact them anyway. This man has been abusing you and holding you against your will Do not let him continue.

Yes you are doing the right thing dont for a second think your not.

UnsureNow

do you think there will be places near me..? i can't drive, he has *my* car. sorry i'm panicky right now.

UnsureNow

thank you xmas lolly i'm trying to get the phone numbers now...

pandora205

http://refuge.org.uk/

UnsureNow

waht if there's nowhere near me?