Asked to go to a wedding in.......

jonty1970

It's expensive enough attending a wedding here

Gift
new outfit
babysitter - lots of people don't want children at weddings - I think kids are part of a wedding and can break the ice, as long as they don't stay too late and are "too tired" and get grumpy
Travel costs etc

JBD

jonty1970 wrote: »

It's expensive enough attending a wedding here

Gift
new outfit
babysitter - lots of people don't want children at weddings - I think kids are part of a wedding and can break the ice, as long as they don't stay too late and are "too tired" and get grumpy
Travel costs etc

You forgot the hen/stag nights [often weekends].
Really, what can you do? If you can't afford it then you just have to politely decline.

Person_one

Its all part of the increasingly ridiculous wedding industry/obsession that's really growing. I think it either drifted over from America or its the fault of Hello magazine etc for making people think that the extravagant weddings of the rich and famous are actually normal.

A wedding is one day, in which you enter a legal contract. They can be lovely and romantic but they still pretty ordinary everyday occasions. People getting married need to realise that while its a huge deal for them and maybe their closest family, it isn't to everyone else. I'm at the age where I'm starting to get lots of wedding invitations each summer. 5 Saturdays where I sit on uncomfortable chairs, eat mediocre food, dance to the same songs and wear the same incredibly constricting underwear are not my favourite Saturdays of the summer unless I really really really care about either the bride or groom.

I certainly wouldn't pay more than the cost of petrol and a gift for each one. My wedding outfits are expected to last two or three summers.

jonty1970

my family holiday would be a week in Wales in a caravan
Or a few days out doing fun stuff

Fang_3

Christ alive! What is the problem? If you don't want to go, then politely decline. They have been gracious enough to invite you to go so there's no reason for you to be rude. Though I suspect that you would have found something to moan about even if the wedding had been held in something as common and vile as the local Travelodge!

jonty1970

exactly person one

my wedding will be old fashioned, cheap and cheerful and for family and friends to have a good time with us
Honeymoon will be a weekend away here somewhere (seaside hotel probably)

it's getting married that is the most important thing and being with your nearest and dearest, not seeing how much you can show off

PasturesNew

You see some right loony/extravagent stuff in the weddings board on MSE.... I sometimes see them pop up in "New Posts" and I click to read in disbelief. There was one this week who wanted a gold fountain under her cake .... it's like everybody has to invent some new "must have, or it's all spoiled" thing.

I'd not go abroad for a wedding. The trouble when people get married, like when they have kids, is, they think the world is as pleased as they are about everything.... well, we're not. Just shove off and do it quietly ... I'll give you 90 seconds when it's all over to flick through a maximum of 6 photos... bye then.

jonty1970

Fang wrote: »

Christ alive! What is the problem? If you don't want to go, then politely decline. They have been gracious enough to invite you to go so there's no reason for you to be rude. Though I suspect that you would have found something to moan about even if the wedding had been held in something as common and vile as the local Travelodge!

:rotfl:

I have never been rude
I am having a moan on here, to strangers, not to her face or to people who know her, behind her back. it will never gt back to her to upset her.
this is a safe way to let off a bit of steam about something.

I wish her well, i just think she needs to realise, most people can't afford to spend " a few thousand" to watch someone get married

It's not like it's my child!!!!

JBD

I agree with person one. Really the costs to the guests should be kept to the minimum. Of course everyone wants to have a lovely wedding day but it is important to be realistic.

jonty1970

Fang wrote: »

Christ alive! What is the problem? If you don't want to go, then politely decline.

Can you read my posts a little bit better, as you seem to have missed where I did politley decline the kind offer