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skintdragon

Hello everyone,

I am SO SORRY for being SO RUBBISH at keeping in touch with all of you... I'm not even sure why i have been so slack.

I thought it was about time I stopped by to say hello. Incidentally I was just thinking about getting some info on life insurance etc (yikes, is that old age setting in i wonder) as I have been thinking about a number of things that have been happening in recent weeks. I've come to realise how vulnerable I really am... my back- to- back offshore is on his last offshore trip on the rig I work at (he has only been there 3 times on a trial, but he was very optimistic about keeping the job), so now I am terrified that I will lose my job.... probably a bit irrational on my part, but I can't honestly say that my job is a secure one. Also, I don't get things like sick pay etc like I would've done in the NHS (though I am rarely off sick), so I need to think of a way to get some sort of cover.... no work, no money/ income.

Also, a friend of mine was involved in a fatal road accident a couple of weeks ago... I only found out after my pal texted me; I received the message after landing in aberdeen after my offshore trip. He was knocked off his motorcycle by a car driver; don't want to go into any details, but his wife (whom I studied in Uni with many moons ago) is utterly heartbroken. I was at his funeral the following day, and I don't think i've ever cried so much. I hadn't seen him in years, and never really thought the next time I met up with him would be at his funeral. I just feel bad for my friend and their little one; wished there was more I could do to help.

Besides that, I think my car is going to conk out on me... let's see what the chap at the garage has to say about my car's prognosis.

OK so how is everybody else doing? I hope you are all well and enjoying some of the sunshine. Apologies if this post is a bit gloomy, but I just wondered if any of you out there have these moments of deep reflection??


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BILLIE

Oh Skindragon I am so sorry to hear the news of your friend. It is strange how life has a way of making of things that we wouldn't normally have worried about. Grief is something we all handle in different ways and I am sure the partner and wee one would appreciate a call and a chat, sometimes that is all that is required. Do take care of yourself xx Billie xx

niccatw

Big hugs for you and your friend and her family Skintdragon.


That's so sad. You take care. xxx

I know just what you mean about moments of deep reflection and wondering about insurance and things; I did the same earlier in the year when my uncle was killed in a house fire.

You know there's always somewhere here if you need to speak to people further removed from it than those around you.

MatyMoo

Billie & Nic have said it better than I could, sending hugs.

Sometimes life stinks Try to remember the happy times.

Butti

It's always terrible when someone dies suddenly, you don't get time to prepare for it. I've had it with a friend who was killed between the end of our course and the graduation, my cousin and a friend a few years ago who was hit by an uninsured driver. It's always much easier for them because it's quick and you accept the risk every time you get on the bike. It's terribly difficult for those left behind.

I would say if you would like to let your friend know you are there for her just drop her a nice card, just one with a nice picture / photo on the front offering your help.

Sorry to hear about this Skintdragon.

B x

Happytogetdebtfree

Thinking of you skint dragon big hugs ((hug))

skintdragon

Hi everybody,

Thank you all for being so kind for reading... I'm planning on getting myself to my friend's later today (after I get my car from the garage, if it is in any fit state to be driven!) just to see how she is getting on, before I head back to sea this week.

hope you're all well xxx

Keiss_21

Lots of hugs ((((((Skintdragon)))))), others here have said things much better than me. Take care of yourself xx

MrsMoo2U

Sorry to hear the sad news of your loss Skintdragon. The only thing that I would say is that the hardest time for me when grieving is after the funeral when people seem to stop calling. The fact that you are thinking of your friend still, but more importantly making the effort to visit will mean a lot to her. A card or a text from time to time will mean the world. Take care of yourself.

SouthernBellE*

Hugs from me too Skintdragon. I'm not surprised you've been reflecting on things, when somebody we know dies so suddenly and in tragic circumstances, you realise just how fragile life is and how cruel it can be.

I would echo MrsMoos post. I'm ashamed to admit that I've been guilty of this myself when my friends baby died of cot death. One day, she's sat feeding him his bottle outside in the sunshine, I had my cuddle with the little fella and I know I saw a smile and it wasn't just wind,it was a proper smile. The next day he was gone. It was heartbreaking. Though I went to the funeral, I slipped away without a hug or a word to my friend. I couldn't. Not because I didn't care but because I didn't know how to take her pain away and I knew she was in agony. I realised by the time I got home that nothing I could ever say would make it better but that didn't mean I was useless to her. She still needed me. Even if I just sat and cried with her. (which I did many times). I'm sure your friend is reeling from shock, grief and fear of being left alone and will be trying her hardest to stay strong for the kids sake, letting her know you're there for her to turn to is the kindest and only thing you can do and though it may not seem enough to you, it will mean the world to her. (((hugs)))) to you all. xx :A

BILLIE... I moved here when my Mum passed away but thought the same as you. My Mum was with me most days at my old address and where ever I looked in the house, I remembered her being there. She didn't stay behind, she came with me. The lounge door here blows open whenever there's a draft, I always say 'come in mother', so much so that my son has picked it up and says 'come in nanny' or 'Mum, nanny's here!' They never leave because they're never forgotton. It IS a new chapter for you both, enjoy it and know that everytime you smile, you're making your Dad happy. xx :A

Niccatw.. I never knew, so sorry.
We need a group hug, who cares if it looks dodgy!:grouphug::grouphug::grouphug:

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