Too young to have my baby?

xxvickixx

Good Luck with everything. Nobody can tell you what you should or shouldn't do and it sounds like you are going with whatyou feel is best.
oung
I got morning sickness at around 8-9 weeks and it went at about 12. It wasn't great for me but everyone is different.

Some of my friends at school had mums that were very young and they seemed so with it and easy to talk to and I wished my Mum had ,e younger. I also think that there is a positive side in that you will be still young when your child is grown up and able to enjoy your thirties and fourties without having young children.

Please let us know how you get on. xx

Dumbledore55

Cait

A very wise friend once told me that you can waste far too much time trying to decide whether a decision is right or wrong. They told me to make the decision for myself and then MAKE it right! It sounds to me like you very much want this baby and with supportive parents behind you, you'll make it right for you and the baby.

Congratulations, you sound like you'll make a lovely mum.

newname123

I have set up a new user name to post this as it is not something I share!

I became pregnant when I was 15 (baby would have been born when I was 16)

When I eventually told my parents I was about 15 weeks, they hit the roof & marched me off to sort out an abortion. I went through with their wishes (as I did not feel I was able to go against it) & I have regretted it ever since. Back when it happened I used to think of it every day wondering what the baby would have been like etc, now (22 years later) I do still sometimes wonder what way life would have taken me if I had had the baby. I am sure I would not be with the partner I am with now (as I met him when away & would probably not have been where I was) and as such would not have my 2 wonderful children. I often wonder how my child would have turned out.

That said I think you need to do what is right for YOU. Not your partner (who you may or may not stay with), not for your parents or his Mum.

It won't be easy, but having a baby at any age has its pro's & con's. But most people have a remarkable way of coping with things. If you do have the baby remember it is yours, let other people help but ultimately it is down to you (& your partner if you stay with him).

Good luck with whatever you choose, there is no right or wrong just what is right for you. x

lindseykim13

I just wanted to say that there was a few one sided posts here saying how your bf will leave you and you can't have a life etc. WHAT A LOAD OF BALLS
Did you notice (i know i did) that most of those posters didn't have kids?
I don't wish to start a debate but until you've had kids/or an abortion you can't comment on what a joy/or not they bring to your life however young/old you are. Your life changes forever and you have someone in it that you care about more than anything in the world. No matter how hard it gets sometimes (and it does) there are always the fab moments too.
Life doesn't end you can still travel, have a career and do anything you like. You just get to share it with your little one too.

I got preg with my ds1 when i was 17 my bf at the time was 18 he's now my DH! We have had 2 more children since then and have been together for 10yrs already:eek:
We started off poor, i had a sales assistant job while i was preg and DH was doing an apprentiship. We were lucky and got a council flat, the first few years were tough but we had fun doing cheap things picnics, walks, park etc but now i run my own businesses, DH is a qualified welder and we are pretty comfortable. We travel with the kids, we've been to various countries and at the moment planning a road trip through france and germany.
I wouldn't have chosen any other life and you only have one you never know when what life will throw at you. I nearly lost my chance to have kids when i was 24 as i was rushed to hosp with internal bleeding from one of my ovaries. I almost died too but what scared me the most was what if i had waited to have my kids and i'd lost my chance. I know this isn't usual but i'm a great believer in fate.

Bit of a ramble going there but whatever you do look after yourself x

SingleSue

My mum was 17 when she got married (my dad 19) and she was 4 and a half months pregnant.

Last Friday they celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary.

samandona

lindseykim13 wrote: »

Did you notice (i know i did) that most of those posters didn't have kids?

Who were all the posters you were refering to? Im not sure I know enough about anyone who's posted (other than the regulars on the pregnancy threads) to assertain whether or not they have kids?

Person_one

I don't have kids. I also don't think that makes my opinions invalid.

I've known enough pregnant teenagers over the years to know how hard it is for them.

jamesb1239

Nothing really to add to the thread that hasnt already been covered, other than to say it is completely your choice.

I was 19 when we had my first son and I am 22 now and on friday we welcomed another child into our lives. So whoever tells you that the man will not stick around isnt speaking for all of us!

Good Luck

joanne_d_3

Hi to the original poster.

Hunny , no one can decide what is best for YOU...only YOU can do that....

Just let me tell you some of my own background...

I wasnt too much older than you are now when i fell pregnant with my first child. I remember all too well the fear and panic i felt when i thought about life groing inside me .I had been with my boyfriend for around 3 years (?) at the time i fell pregnant an to be honest , although he was 4 years older than me i felt i was the more "responsible" of the two of us.

My family were just great when i told them the news , first granchild for my parents so the offer of support was always there but i knew at the end of the day the responsibility for the baby was going to be mine.....

I also knew my boyfriend wasnt responsible enough to look after a child.... he was still more interested in going out and about with pals (he was 21).

I knew i had to make a decision and it had to be the right one....

After thinking about things long and hard i sat down with my boyfriend and told him that i already loved my baby and that i had been blessed with a child , something that other people who couldnt have kids would give their right arm for .

I explained to my boyfriend that i was keeping our baby and if he wanted to "grow up" and start acting like a dad then i wanted nothing more than to be a family , but if not then i was more than willing to go it alone with some help from my family.

Something i said that day must have rung true with my boyfriend. That day , he must have saw the determination i had and he must have realised that i meant it when i said i would do this without him if i had to.....

The point of this is to let you know that even at your young age , it is possible to acheive everything you want from life....the only difference is you do it as A MUMMY.

Our "baby" is now 17 years old , i am 35 . My boyfriend is now my husband and i have to say a WONDERFUL husband he is !

over 20 years we have stayed together , raised our family (we went on to have two other kiddies , 12 and 14 now) and we are happy.

I think back now to how things could have been and i know that i made the right decision FOR ME !

I look at my daughter now and even if i do say so myself lol she is a credit to my husband and i . She was worth it all!

What im saying is that with a little help from your parents you can get through this . Your boyfriend sounds as though you can count on him for help .

I know if my daughter (17) came home and told me she was pregnant i would be doing all i can to support her....please just do the right thing x

Mellowyellow_2

joanne_d wrote: »

hi to the original poster.

Hunny , no one can decide what is best for you...only you can do that....

Just let me tell you some of my own background...

I wasnt too much older than you are now when i fell pregnant with my first child. I remember all too well the fear and panic i felt when i thought about life groing inside me .i had been with my boyfriend for around 3 years (?) at the time i fell pregnant an to be honest , although he was 4 years older than me i felt i was the more "responsible" of the two of us.

My family were just great when i told them the news , first granchild for my parents so the offer of support was always there but i knew at the end of the day the responsibility for the baby was going to be mine.....

I also knew my boyfriend wasnt responsible enough to look after a child.... He was still more interested in going out and about with pals (he was 21).

I knew i had to make a decision and it had to be the right one....

After thinking about things long and hard i sat down with my boyfriend and told him that i already loved my baby and that i had been blessed with a child , something that other people who couldnt have kids would give their right arm for .

I explained to my boyfriend that i was keeping our baby and if he wanted to "grow up" and start acting like a dad then i wanted nothing more than to be a family , but if not then i was more than willing to go it alone with some help from my family.

Something i said that day must have rung true with my boyfriend. That day , he must have saw the determination i had and he must have realised that i meant it when i said i would do this without him if i had to.....

The point of this is to let you know that even at your young age , it is possible to acheive everything you want from life....the only difference is you do it as a mummy.

Our "baby" is now 17 years old , i am 35 . My boyfriend is now my husband and i have to say a wonderful husband he is !

Over 20 years we have stayed together , raised our family (we went on to have two other kiddies , 12 and 14 now) and we are happy.

I think back now to how things could have been and i know that i made the right decision for me !

I look at my daughter now and even if i do say so myself lol she is a credit to my husband and i . She was worth it all!

What im saying is that with a little help from your parents you can get through this . Your boyfriend sounds as though you can count on him for help .

I know if my daughter (17) came home and told me she was pregnant i would be doing all i can to support her....please just do the right thing x

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