Too young to have my baby?

neneromanova

Cait2 wrote: »

When will morning sickness start?

You might not actually have Morning sickness at all. I never did with my first. But with my second one I wasn't actually pysically sick, but I felt really rough all the time from about 12 weeks onwards.

Now you have decided to keep the baby, Congratulations. What you will need to do now is plan to have this baby alone. If he stays then that's great, But if he does decide this isn't what he wants and does leave then you won't be too finacially or emotionally ruined.

clearingout

I have not read through the whole thread but wanted to give my thoughts.

I just short of 40. I met my now ex-husband at 27 after having travelled widely and had a university education. I was independent and happy in myself. Met the ex - fell madly in love, built a life together, a business and two children....fast forward a few years and he leaves me for another woman when I am in the early stages of pregnancy with no.3. I am now on my own - coping fine, but very sad it all turned out like this...

I did everything 'right', in the right order, enjoyed myself, saw the world and then settled down. I am very resentful that at 40, I am left with 3 small children to cope with emotionally and financially whilst my ex is out living it up - how is that different to having married a 17 year old?! I envy other divorced friends with grown up children who are able to party at the weekends, meet other people and have fun. I'm in limbo, really. Or at least that's how it feels.

I guess what I'm saying is that it might be considered 'wrong' to have a baby at 16 but it didn't make my life any better by leaving it later (had my first at 33). I love my children, don't get me wrong, but if I'd had them earlier would I have been in any better a sitution now? I am struggling to provide for them and I don't think if I'd had them earlier, it would have been any different - I'm not financially secure now because of my ex's behaviour (running up debts, refusign to pay the mortgages (prefers going on holiday) and ruining my credit rating) and I'm reliant on tax credit and a low paid job to get by. Life deals out the cards and you have to manage them. You can be a great mum at any age and things will work out if you want them to and you work hard. I am doing just that - working hard at life - to put the pieces back together and work it all out. Good luck whatever you decide - it will be whatever you make it!

Cait2

Thankyou!

pigpen

I'm positively ancient by comparison and I didn't plan mine either.. you just do what you have to and so long as it is you best noone can ask for more!

Glad you have reached a decision you are happy with..

It isn't easy.. it isn't always fun but if it was that bad the human race would have long since died out!

JaneRN

I didn't have morning sickness at all - I was very lucky and felt really well throughout my pregnancy. The heartburn was probably the worst thing I experienced - I ate polos and rennies like they were going out of fashion - and no I didn't have a "hairy baby" as I kept being told that was the reason!

Cait2

clearingout wrote: »

I have not read through the whole thread but wanted to give my thoughts.

I just short of 40. I met my now ex-husband at 27 after having travelled widely and had a university education. I was independent and happy in myself. Met the ex - fell madly in love, built a life together, a business and two children....fast forward a few years and he leaves me for another woman when I am in the early stages of pregnancy with no.3. I am now on my own - coping fine, but very sad it all turned out like this...

I did everything 'right', in the right order, enjoyed myself, saw the world and then settled down. I am very resentful that at 40, I am left with 3 small children to cope with emotionally and financially whilst my ex is out living it up - how is that different to having married a 17 year old?! I envy other divorced friends with grown up children who are able to party at the weekends, meet other people and have fun. I'm in limbo, really. Or at least that's how it feels.

I guess what I'm saying is that it might be considered 'wrong' to have a baby at 16 but it didn't make my life any better by leaving it later (had my first at 33). I love my children, don't get me wrong, but if I'd had them earlier would I have been in any better a sitution now? I am struggling to provide for them and I don't think if I'd had them earlier, it would have been any different - I'm not financially secure now because of my ex's behaviour (running up debts, refusign to pay the mortgages (prefers going on holiday) and ruining my credit rating) and I'm reliant on tax credit and a low paid job to get by. Life deals out the cards and you have to manage them. You can be a great mum at any age and things will work out if you want them to and you work hard. I am doing just that - working hard at life - to put the pieces back together and work it all out. Good luck whatever you decide - it will be whatever you make it!

Thank you xxx

Cait2

pigpen wrote: »

I'm positively ancient by comparison and I didn't plan mine either.. you just do what you have to and so long as it is you best noone can ask for more!

Glad you have reached a decision you are happy with..

It isn't easy.. it isn't always fun but if it was that bad the human race would have long since died out!

Heheheh too right!

Mellowyellow_2

WhiteHorse wrote: »

Cait2 ...

It will require skills you don't even possess yet.

Neither do most 1st time mothers, age is irrelevant

Cait2

Mellowyellow wrote: »

Neither do most 1st time mothers, age is irrelevant

Thanks, that's what I was going to say.... bit unfair to think just because somebody is younger they can't be a mum... it's obvious from posters here that you can be an amazing mum no matter what age you are:o

Cait2

Well I'm off for a walk.