I'm heartbroken

pennypusher

Hi Minniemavis, I'm sorry to hear your news. You sound like a lovely lady who didn't deserve their disloyalty. I hope you find the strength to tell your bf where to go, you will find someone who is worth so much more and treat you with respect. Make an appointment to see someone in CAB re the house and child support from bf and you will also be able to see a solicitor for half an hour I believe free of charge. Sort out the practicalities, your emotions will take some time to heal. I wish you all the best and hope you get some help. You will be well rid of the bf - what a scumbag!

ailuro2

btw, if you find out it was a one-off then feel entitled to ask your ex what he's going to do about the genital herpes he probably caught off your Mum?;) That'll give him something to think about...:rotfl:

ailuro2

Well you got through another night. That is how it will happen, one day and one night at a time until one day you'll wake up and not think " I had the most dreadful nightmare last night" as soon as you wake.

viktory

Googlewhacker wrote: »

Maybe it is just me, I just think that if something like that happened to me I would be devestated but I would like to think that over time I would remember the good things that that person had done throughout my life and outweigh this indiscretion.

We will have to agree to disagree on this point because for me, an act of such gross betrayal could not be forgiven.

RadoJo

viktory wrote: »

We will have to agree to disagree on this point because for me, an act of such gross betrayal could not be forgiven.

I agree, and more importantly I think it's a little early to be thinking about forgiving her mother - that may come in time, but it's not worth worrying about at the moment when there are far bigger issues to be concerned about.

OP - It sounds as though you need to do whatever you can to get through the next few weeks, and I have to say that I cannot imagine anyone would laugh at you if you confided in them. You will probably need a good friend, so don't isolate yourself by worrying that people will not be sympathetic - I can't imagine anyone finding this situation funny, and I'm sure your friends will be more supportive than you think.

Stephb1986_2

Mutter how can you say that your kids don't see you as a friend as well as their mother?? Me and my mum are very close and I consider my mum as my best friend.

OP I hope your ok love and you can pull through this. Thinking of you

Steph xx

clearing_out_my_pockets

OP - just wondering how you are today...? I couldn't imagine how I'd react if I were in your shoes.

Minniemavis

Hiya all, thanks for all your thoughts and kind words!! I am not doing too bad at the moment. They are both coming for a chat tomorrow which im not looking forward to!
She has told her partner and he has made the decision to stick by her. I have no idea what to say tomorrow! Wish me luck.
Thanks again to you all, sorry for reply being so late xxx

RAS

Hi

What you need to think about now is what you want from tomorrow?

And what you want to say to them. Write it down so that you have a clear understanding of how you feel.

Do you want to meet them?

And do you have a good friend who could be there with you?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Minniemavis wrote: »

Hiya all, thanks for all your thoughts and kind words!! I am not doing too bad at the moment. They are both coming for a chat tomorrow which im not looking forward to!
She has told her partner and he has made the decision to stick by her. I have no idea what to say tomorrow! Wish me luck.
Thanks again to you all, sorry for reply being so late xxx

Assuming she has told him the truth, of course, I would possibly make a start by saying

1. Get the %*$( out of my house.
2. Don't ever darken my %*$(ing door again.
3. If you ever cross the road whilst I am driving down it, you had probably better get out of the road pretty sharpish.
4. Oh, and my ex tells me (to the OH) that they've been having an affair for the last 2 years and your wages pay for their sex toys and the video camera they use to make the DVDs that they sell to your workmates.
5. In case you have forgotten what I said first, get the %*$( out of my house.