I'm heartbroken

Minniemavis

Thanks ever so much Elsie for your kind words and for taking the time to share that and to bring back the nightmare memory! I think this will haunt me till the end of my days!! How on earth am I ever meant to trust anyone again? How did u bring yourself to terms with speaking to her again because at this moment in time I can't see any way forward with either of them. Things would be easier if I didn't have to see either of them again but unfortunately it's not that easy! Xx

Minniemavis

Thanks for your advice also xmaslolly. I would thank you but the button seems to of disappeared. Strange. The kids are asking for daddy because they are used to seeing him everyday. I'm not sure that she has told him she doesn't want anything to do with him as he firmly believes she is the one he will be with. Now if that ever happens I will emigrate as far away as possible. My kids are getting me through this xx

Elsie_H

Minniemavis wrote: »

Thanks ever so much Elsie for your kind words and for taking the time to share that and to bring back the nightmare memory! I think this will haunt me till the end of my days!! How on earth am I ever meant to trust anyone again? How did u bring yourself to terms with speaking to her again because at this moment in time I can't see any way forward with either of them. Things would be easier if I didn't have to see either of them again but unfortunately it's not that easy! Xx

It haunts me a lot of the time, I'll see something that reminds me of him and I just feel sick. I've never mentioned his name in front of my mum, it's like he's been erased from our lives.

I'm married now, I'd known my now husband whilst I was with my ex and it was after the event that we eventually got together. I had no children so it seemed easy to cut all ties. Since being married we've also had a baby, he was the main reason for getting back in touch with my mum, what happened in the past between us, has nothing to do with DS.
I'm not sure I'll ever forgive her, she still admits to this day that they did no wrong as me and ex were on a break. We speak maybe once every week/2 weeks and she always ends the conversation with "I Love You" I've never said it back.

My husband gets along with her when we visit, but he's sad she's let me down - as it's not what mums do and has promised never to jump in bed with her :T

viktory

Googlewhacker wrote: »

at the end of the day your mum is your mum, she did wrong but in time I would not hold a grudge with her, think of all the good things she has done for you and counter them up against the bad thing.

You are right to be angry but if as you say you were like best friends then don't cut her out

:eek::eek::eek:

She shagged her boyfriend!!!! It really doesn't get much worse than that! Don't bear a grudge!!! Oh I so would. That is totally and utterly unforgivable, this woman has children that are going to be devastated - her own grandchildren!! How could she?

Minniemavis

viktory wrote: »

:eek::eek::eek:

She shagged her boyfriend!!!! It really doesn't get much worse than that! Don't bear a grudge!!! Oh I so would. That is totally and utterly unforgivable, this woman has children that are going to be devastated - her own grandchildren!! How could she?

Thanks for your comments. I also see it as unforgivable. I received a txt from her saying she is sorry for what happened but they didn't have sex!! My a!se they didn't what the hell was she doing on top of him then!? My stomach turns to even think about it. I could commit bloody murder at this moment in time

Deep_In_Debt

gravitytolls wrote: »

Of course you still love him, you can't just switch it off, even after this. At the moment, and for some time to come, you'll 'forget', and find yourself thinkning of him as you used to, you'll wonder if it really happened, then you'll remember.

If you ever feel yourself weakening, recall his words 'you can't satisfy me, you're always tired.' How dare he try to shift the blame to you. It's classic behaviour, I expect he grew up and has spent his entire life blaming others for his sins.

I can't see how you could ever forgive either of them, it's the ultimate nono, your mum and fella....makes you wonder.

Normally you's turn to your mum for solace, but in this case you may require c ounselling.

|Good luck pet.
x

Agree with this.

You can't just switch your feelings off especially if you have children together.

I couldn't forgive either...the 2 people that you trust and love most in your life have betrayed you.

Please do see a counsellor and look after yourself.

welshmoneylover

Minniemavis wrote: »

Hi all,
Been a lurker for a while. I came home last night to find my mum in bed with my boyfriend. I'm so upset I can't believe it. We have 2 young boys and I was so happy. He or she never showed any signs that they liked each other ie never saw any flirting signs. I was so oblivious to it all how stupid and gullable am I...he has told me that he loves her and he wants to spend his life with her. To add she is not with my dad they split when I was younger but she does have a boyfriend. She has said that she was silly and had too many to drink and loves her boyfriend and has tried to beg me to not tell him, but why shouldn't I? She has wrecked my life. I loved him so much I just don't know what to do. I have no idea what I'm expecting from you guys but I just have nowhere to turn to.

Thanks
Xx

Thats !!!!!!! awful, , I don't know what to say.

Kay_Peel

Does your mother live with you?

If not, how come she visited your house while you were out? How come she was drunk?

Was this the first time that you've been out of the way? If not, how long do you suspect that their meetings have been going on?

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Yuk.

I'd go to her house when her BF was there and say in front of her 'Mum's got something to tell you....' and when she refused to say anything, I'd tell him myself to be sure that she didn't try the 'but didn't do anything' defence.

Nanny and stepmummy at once? Erggghhhhhhhhhhh.

tabskitten

Neither of these people care about you enough for you to want them in your life anymore. Your BF has forfitted his right as a father to your children Move on, move away and never feel guilty as you do not want a person like that influencing your children.
Protect your children and yourself form the pair of them.