Worst Day ever!

mikey72

shellsuit wrote: »

He is 15 for fk sake ~ go and fetch him home!!

Your husband has no right to kick him out, this is your son, your CHILD.

Switch the PC off and get things sorted.

*shakes head*

I half agree, switch off the pc, and stay with your family.
You have two other children that need a stable family unit, think of them.
Get calm professional advice tomorrow, but for tonight your son is safe, he's with friends, and he is being cared for.
Things will look better tomorrow.

Fang_3

muggi wrote: »

Sounds like you know him! lol but he has a good side to, he said he has had enough and cant take anymore and this is making him turn into someone nasty who he does not want to be.

Is it the good side that is forcing you to choose between your children? Which is really just a cover to manipulate you into choosing him over your son. It's nothing more than a power game to control you more and make sure that your son knows that his mum won't protect him.

meritaten

Its not often (in fact never) I agree with Fang. but I do in this case. Hun, what the hell are you thinking of? allowing your OH to kick a 15 year old out of the house over a minor matter? And it IS minor! I could understand your OH if your son was dealing drugs, Trashing the house, having all night parties............but this?
and then to ban him from his grandparents????????? who died and made him God?
I know I am going to sound harsh but,, stop weeping and wailing and stand up for your son. he doesnt deserve to be treated like this (and have you ever thought that his failing standards at school could be down to your partner?) grow a backbone and at least arrange for his grandparents to take him in. poor little boy - I should think he thinks HIS family dont love him at all!

shellsuit

muggi wrote: »

Sounds like you know him! lol but he has a good side to, he said he has had enough and cant take anymore and this is making him turn into someone nasty who he does not want to be.

Then he should have gone through the door instead of sending your son through it!!

He has a good side? Get a grip!!!!!

Alikay

It's nearly ten o'clock - please go and get your son NOW! If your OH is still being a git, you and your lad stay with your parents or friend tonight.

You can start sorting things out tomorrow- tell OH that teenagers turn EVERYONE into someone they don't like! I had 3 teens at the same time and barely recognised the whingeing, uptight, embittered old hag they sometimes turned me into!

swiss69

I think people need to know the full story before advising on this.

How badly is he behaving etc....?

Would the advice of all the woman on here be the same if this kid was on drugs/committing crime/fighting/abusing his mum/stepdad both verbally and physically??

Only the OP knows the full story and she may only be sharing some of this.

I would say let him stay at his friends tonight, make contact with him tomorrow and agree to talk about the issues and find some common ground.

Advising leaving/Divorce etc without knowing the facts is just ridiculous.

Fang_3

swiss69 wrote: »

I think people need to know the full story before advising on this.

How badly is he behaving etc....?

Would the advice of all the woman on here be the same if this kid was on drugs/committing crime/fighting/abusing his mum/stepdad both verbally and physically??

Only the OP knows the full story and she may only be sharing some of this.

I would say let him stay at his friends tonight, make contact with him tomorrow and agree to talk about the issues and find some common ground.

Advising leaving/Divorce etc without knowing the facts is just ridiculous.

No one has advised divorce?

muggi

problems are not trying at school, just general attitude nothing bad at all, in my eyes just general teenage problems.

Fang_3

muggi wrote: »

problems are not trying at school, just general attitude nothing bad at all, in my eyes just general teenage problems.

Why are you still here? Have you been to collect your son yet? Have you even spoken to your son?

Apricot

swiss69 wrote: »

I think people need to know the full story before advising on this.

How badly is he behaving etc....?

Would the advice of all the woman on here be the same if this kid was on drugs/committing crime/fighting/abusing his mum/stepdad both verbally and physically??

Only the OP knows the full story and she may only be sharing some of this.

I would say let him stay at his friends tonight, make contact with him tomorrow and agree to talk about the issues and find some common ground.

Advising leaving/Divorce etc without knowing the facts is just ridiculous.

If he is and abusive, criminal drug addict does that automatically mean that at 15 years old he should be thrust out into the real world to fend for himself? He is not yet an adult and plenty of us have done things that we regret as teenagers but, with the guidance of parents we overcome obstacles and end up as fairly grounded individuals.

Also, lets not forget that the OP - his parent did not want him to be thrown out. The decision was not mutually made after some discussion, it was hastily thrust upon the boy and the OP didn't dare argue - something not right with that!