Worst Day ever!

muggi

aliasojo wrote: »

Why are you scared? Are you worried your husband will leave you if you go against his wishes?

In a way and he said he would take my daughter if he went, he is a lovely man but very stubborn, im just in a mess.

GEEGEE8

mikey72 wrote: »

So, throw out the father of at least one other child then, brilliant advice yet again.

The father is an adult, and he has chosen this.

The children need to come first.

GEEGEE8

muggi wrote: »

In a way and he said he would take my daughter if he went, he is a lovely man but very stubborn, im just in a mess.

Call his bluff..

mikey72

Can we assume the op wants to stay with her husband, and the rest of the family, and try to build on that.
The child hasn't been thrown into the street, but has gone to a friends.
So it's not a knee jerk reaction, it's planned.
It could be for a few days, no-omne knows. It's a break the family need at the moment, for whatever reason..
The op needs to sit down with her husband, and the parents of the friend, in a few days, and get a view as to whether or not her son is a problem, or if it's the husband and the son.
Either way there are at least two other children involved, so lets bring there feelings into it, do they want their brother back, or do they want a break as well?
But quit on the home wrecking response for a bit.

muggi

Fang wrote: »

You're so scared of your husband that you've allowed him to throw your son out and prevent him from going to his grandparents. Do you not see how horrible that is?

Your son NEEDS you to stand up for him. Don't let him down.

If you think you're scared, how scared do you think your son is of being thrown out and prevented from being helped by his own family?

I know I am in the wrong, I feel such a let down to him

nickyhutch

Ok, so go get your son and go to your parents.

Fang_3

muggi wrote: »

In a way and he said he would take my daughter if he went, he is a lovely man but very stubborn, im just in a mess.

So he's trying to make you choose between your children. Phone your parents, tell them what's happened and ask them to collect your son. Then take your other children to them and tell your husband to get the hell out and away from your children. He is not a 'lovely man'. He's pathetic.

Fang_3

muggi wrote: »

I know I am in the wrong, I feel such a let down to him

You are not in the wrong. Your husband is. You will only be in the wrong if you allow this to happen.

mikey72

Fang wrote: »

Get a grip.

Get back to reality, and try some common sense.

affordmylife

i totally understand.

im in the same position.

my son left home at 15 and a half and never came back. its devastating. i only see him occasionally cos he and his step dad clash.

i support him emotionally and financially in the best way i can but i have to accept he has gone. he is now 20 and it still hurts.

i had to consider the rest of the family and accept that this is the way it is. its very very hard. i console myself with thexx fact that ultimately he is happier not living here and he is alive. i have friends with sons who are not.

you have my best wishes xx