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Fang wrote: »

Then kick him out.

Edit: Seriously. Look at this from your son's point of view, his mother's husband has thrown him out and is now stopping him from contact with his grandparents. That's not good. I'm getting the impression that your husband is much stricter than you, and is controlling, and you put up with it to the detriment of your son. Unless you act NOW your son will think that you've chosen your husband over him, and if you do choose, then it can't be your husband. Throw him out and tell him that he can come back your son comes back and that they can learn to live together, but make it very clear that your son is your priority.

Absolutely, spot on ^^^^^

You really need to find the root of the problem - methinks there's more than meets the eye.

Apricot

It is not your husbands place to kick your son out whether he owns the house or not. You have a responsibility as a parent to care for your child until he is able to care for himself. I agree with Fang, if you choose your husband over your child he will never forgive you.

You need to sit him down and tell him in no uncertain terms that your son is coming back home - where he belongs. All families have problems but if you don't work through them with your son then how is he going to know what to do? He needs guidance and help - don't give up on him at 15 years old!

aliasojo

I've had the unruly 15 year old and also the non bio Dad, so I empathise. Your son is at a crossroads right now. He can either get past his issues, mature and go on to become a well rounded adult or he could end up a lazy dosser. You need to ride through the rough times with him because if you don't he may end up in places you dont want to think about and with people you dont want to know about. Your husband is putting his foot down, you need to put yours down harder. Parenting is long term, you can't just give up no matter how attractive that option looks sometimes.

As already suggested above, get outside help.

mikey72

pigpen wrote: »

It is VERY normal for dads and lads to clash.. like a pride of lions kicking out the young males once they reach maturity.. there can only be one alpha-male and they are both after this position at the moment.

No offense, but complete rubbish.

Fang wrote: »

Your husband needs a slap. You have a child, he should be your priority, not your seemingly control freak of a husband.

So, domestic violence solves everything does it?

I suggest seeking decent support, obviously your child needs serious help, an internet forum is probably not the best place.

muggi

Thanks for all the advice, I think I am to scared to do anything, we have 2 other children one of which is both of ours.

I just want my boy back!

nickyhutch

You're letting your husband dicatate what happens to your son - that's plain wrong. Go and get your son, and bring him home and tell your husband to chill out or get out. He sounds a dreadful bully.

mikey72

So, throw out the father of at least one other child then, brilliant advice yet again.

aliasojo

muggi wrote: »

Thanks for all the advice, I think I am to scared to do anything, we have 2 other children one of which is both of ours.

I just want my boy back!

Why are you scared? Are you worried your husband will leave you if you go against his wishes?

Fang_3

mikey72 wrote: »

No offense, but complete rubbish.



So, domestic violence solves everything does it?

I suggest seeking decent support, obviously your child needs serious help, an internet forum is probably not the best place.

Get a grip.

Fang_3

muggi wrote: »

Thanks for all the advice, I think I am to scared to do anything, we have 2 other children one of which is both of ours.

I just want my boy back!

You're so scared of your husband that you've allowed him to throw your son out and prevent him from going to his grandparents. Do you not see how horrible that is?

Your son NEEDS you to stand up for him. Don't let him down.

If you think you're scared, how scared do you think your son is of being thrown out and prevented from being helped by his own family?