My boy is going soon

*max*

I have been reading your story, and all the lovely comments, and I'm sitting here crying my eyes out for you. I can't being to imagine what it must be like to lose your pet, your best friend really. I will be keeping my little cat Jessie close to me when I go to sleep tonight, and think of you.
You did the right thing, and he is out of pain now, free and happy! Love from us both, Max & Jessie. xxx

beks

My thoughts are with you all debjam, paradigm and sewandsew - and anyone else going through this pain. I too am sat in floods of tears reading this.
Your four legged friends are at piece now and will suffer no more pain.
Keep strong and time will help (although after 14 years, I still cry when I think of my/my parents spaniel who was run over) - her sister was PTS age 15 a few months ago but I found that easier to come to terms with as she was old and we knew it was the right time for her (I had also moved out of home so dont have to deal with the empty space that is left behind each day).
Be safe in the knowledge that the life he had with you was full of joy and he was loved (and the same goes to paradigm and sewandsew). Hugs to you all. xxx

DansMum_2

I have read your thread today and like others am at work with tears running down my face. Its so heartbreaking when our furbabies leave us. I lost a precious cat on 6th October 2003 and my old pony on 13th October 2005 and my heart still aches for the loss.

My heart goes out to you debjam and sewandsew and all of us who love our babies. I hope you may find comfort. It does get better, but they'll always be there in your heart....

Grieve not.
Nor speak of me with tears.
But laugh and talk of me
As if I were beside you there


You were so good to me!
There are so many things
I wanted still to do. . .
So many things I wanted to say
to you. . . Remember that
I did not fear. . . It was
Just leaving you
That was so hard to face.
We cannot see beyond. . .
But this I know:
I loved you so. . .
'twas heaven here with you

sewandsew

Thank you all for the kind words after my lost.
It is now 3 days and six hours since my Ellie died. It is still very painful for me, and for Muffin(her son). Last night he lay in her bed and whined and whined, nothing would console him. I still cry when I tell someone she's gone. One of the dogs in the park was looking for her when he saw me & muff this morning and that set me off again.
I just wish I could have had one more day with her.
I will come back next week and let you know how things are.
I told Muffin he can't die until he is 17! that will give me 5 years! to get over this.
Karen.

debjam

Just a quick update, had a call from the vets this afternoon to say Neelixs ashes were back. So we went and fetched him home, I can't explain the complete feeling of calm that has settled over me, I have found it so hard coming home after going out, knowing that he wasn't here to greet me but tonight I came home with no feeling of dread and didn't even shed a tear when I came in. Did still open door gingerly cause he was always sat behind it and always got clobbered, so thats the next habit to break.

The last week has been really hard and I don't know how I would have coped if I hadn't had you all here to listen to me and help me through, and also having such a supporting family as well. I can't say how grateful I am to you all I want to give you all a big hug.

Hugs
Deb xxx

P.S thanks mum2one for your message. hugs back

DGJsaver

We are still waiting for the Vets to call us about our pups ashes , its been a week , i hope its soon so we can scttaer them and try to move on to the next part or grieving , whatever that is...
I know what you mean about habits debjam , its a tough time trying to realise he isnt coming back

EmptyPockets

debjam wrote: »

Just a quick update, had a call from the vets this afternoon to say Neelixs ashes were back. So we went and fetched him home, I can't explain the complete feeling of calm that has settled over me, I have found it so hard coming home after going out, knowing that he wasn't here to greet me but tonight I came home with no feeling of dread and didn't even shed a tear when I came in. Did still open door gingerly cause he was always sat behind it and always got clobbered, so thats the next habit to break.

The last week has been really hard and I don't know how I would have coped if I hadn't had you all here to listen to me and help me through, and also having such a supporting family as well. I can't say how grateful I am to you all I want to give you all a big hug.

Hugs
Deb xxx

P.S thanks mum2one for your message. hugs back

Thanks for letting us know how you are doing Deb. I know what you mean about trying to break those habits that can be upsetting when you realise what you're doing. Even now, after six weeks, I still find myself looking for our Suki in the garden, expecting/hoping to see her lying in her favourite spots. We have glass panels in our side entry door, and it was so hard getting used to not seeing her through the glass when we got home, wagging her tail, big pink tongue hanging out, bum wiggling with excitement that we were home...

Things definitely got easier for us once we brought Suki's ashes home. We know she is always here with us now, back where she belongs and watching over us all. We've told her to help us keep the new doggy in line haha!

I sometimes 'talk' to her ashes (no I don't think I am mad!) just to say the odd thing like tell her how much I love and miss her, I'll touch the casket last thing at night and say 'night night Suki' like I used to every single night.

Love and hugs to you (((x)))

Sagaris

I can really identify with the carefully opening the front door bit, and the horrible stillness and quietness of going indoors - that was what really bought it home to me that Clio had gone. Even towards the end, when she'd stopped doing most things (she had dementia) she would always wait behind the door for us.

We've got her ashes home too and it does help - as does our rescue dog, who is anything but subtle, a totally different kettle of fish, who has helped us considerably - it does get better with time.

DGJsaver

I hope so !