My boy is going soon

Paradigm

Hey deb...how's things?

I was thinking of you most of the night, couldn't sleep as I picked up Darcys ashes yesterday. Hope you're ok

debjam

Hi Paradigm, how's it going with you, I'm coping better than I thought I would, sleep is definitely a stranger at the moment as is eating. It was strange getting up this morning and he wasn't there to greet me, and also having to come home this afternoon from work and he wasn't here bouncing around like a looney. Did shed a bucket load of tears on both occasions, but am back to just feeling sad and knowing that something is missing.

How are you all doing? I did tell Neelix to look out for Darcy when he got over there. We should get his ashes back in a week the vet has said, just need to decide what to do with him. I think OH wants to put him in the garden, but I'm not sure. It's just what to do with all his things, my mom has had some of his toys for his brother and mom, and my sister is having all the cloth beds for her two, just need to find someone to have his plastic beds. May just put them on freecycle.

sewandsew

My lovely old girl had to be put to sleep yesterday, I am devastated. Ellie was 15 and not ill or on any pills. She took ill on Monday morning and the vet thought it was an enlarged heart. I was told she was responding well and I might get her home last night. Sadly that never happened and she started taking fits and the vet said she needed to be put to sleep. It was so hard, I was there the while they did it but it was awful. I have never put a dog to sleep before, she was crying and all curled up to the left(like a cat) and her mouth was swollen on the left side too and she was panting. She cried out when they injected her and moved and gasped several times after she had died. The vet cant be sure but thinks it might have been a brain tumour. I miss her so much already. I still have her son Muffin with me who is 12 but he is missing her too, they were always together.

lorsy

I lost my darling Tasha on my birthday in May, she was 12, she was like my 4th child, we are still heartbroken..... I hope you get comfort from these words...I did xx

If it should be that I grow frail and weak
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then will you do what must be done,
For this -- the last battle -- can't be won.

You will be sad I understand,
But don't let grief then stay your hand,
For on this day, more than the rest,
Your love and friendship must stand the test.
We have had so many happy years,
You wouldn't want me to suffer so.
When the time comes, please, let me go.

Take me to where to my needs they'll tend,
Only, stay with me till the end
And hold me firm and speak to me
Until my eyes no longer see.
I know in time you will agree
It is a kindness you do to me.

Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I have been saved.
Don't grieve that it must be you
Who has to decide this thing to do;

We've been so close all these years,
Don't let your heart hold any tears.

Paradigm

debjam wrote: »

Hi Paradigm, how's it going with you, I'm coping better than I thought I would, sleep is definitely a stranger at the moment as is eating. It was strange getting up this morning and he wasn't there to greet me, and also having to come home this afternoon from work and he wasn't here bouncing around like a looney. Did shed a bucket load of tears on both occasions, but am back to just feeling sad and knowing that something is missing.

How are you all doing? I did tell Neelix to look out for Darcy when he got over there. We should get his ashes back in a week the vet has said, just need to decide what to do with him. I think OH wants to put him in the garden, but I'm not sure. It's just what to do with all his things, my mom has had some of his toys for his brother and mom, and my sister is having all the cloth beds for her two, just need to find someone to have his plastic beds. May just put them on freecycle.

It's good to hear you are coping(ish) & I know exactly what you mean about "something missing".

I suppose I'm lucky in that I have 2 others & it kind of gives me something else to think about. Even so, especially at feeding/walk times, she's missing...

I would be tempted to keep a reminder of him...maybe a favourite toy? I've got Darcys collar & lead & they're mine!

I wouldn't get rid of everything, you will have another...

Best wishes,

Para

debjam

sewandsew wrote: »

My lovely old girl had to be put to sleep yesterday, I am devastated. Ellie was 15 and not ill or on any pills.

Oh sewandsew, how devastating for you, I can't tell you how sorry I am for you and your other little one. I had a couple of months with my boy as he was diagnosed early April with problems, so I knew I would have to make the decision one day, but was hoping I would have more time though.

Please don't think that this is how it is when they go. I have never had to put an animal to sleep either and was dreading it, but it was so quick, he was lying down when he was injected and we just lay his head down as he went, I just couldn't get over how quick it was, the vet did say that he may twitch a little but that was just his muscles relaxing, but he did none of those things (well that's a lie he farted!!!!! that did make us laugh a bit), he was just lying down on his side like he usually did once we settled down for the evening.

Paradigm, OH did make me laugh when I said about clearing out Neelixs bits and pieces, he said we'll put the beds in the garage roof, now he is the one who has always insisted that we would never have another dog once Neelix had gone. Yes I think I may keep dino and santa as he did love those toys.

sewandsew

Thank you for your lovely reply, you made me laugh about the "fart"!
I am feeling a little bit better today, I have cried so much, more than when my gran died!
I am going back to work today to try and keep me occupied. Its my daughters 21st on Sunday and I need to try and pull it together for her sake.

Love to you and yours. x

EmptyPockets

Hi Deb,

I think it's nice to keep hold of a few favourite things that Neelix loved. I'll tell you honestly, we haven't gotten rid of a single thing of Suki's. We just can't. All of her toys and teddy bears were put into a box and put in a cupboard. Her food bowls and lead, harness and collar are all in one of the kitchen cupboards where we used to keep her food. Sometimes I take out her collar or harness and have a good sniff because I think I can still smell her on them . I know we will never use them for another dog, and who knows if we'll ever get rid of them? I doubt it right now, but what does it matter?

It brings us comfort to know these things are still around, as is Suki in her own way.

EP x

nimpoppy

So sorry to hear of your loss. I went through this recently and the sense of calm is a strange feeling. hugs x

MyRubyRed

I had the vet come to our home on the two occasions Ive had to have my pets put to sleep. It was the best way to me. Hugs to anyone facing the same situation xxx