Caring for elderly friend who won't get help.

Abbafan1972

I have been following this thread and I'm glad it's all sorted now.

meg72

tanith wrote: »

Kittyboo actually what you have done has probably helped her even though she says not because now she has to 'help herself', doing jobs around the house although its hard for her is actually good for her, filling in her time, helping her mobility and giving her something to think about , planning how she will manage things and knowing that she either has to do something herself or get help...
Don't feel guilty for one minute you have been more than patient and done your best.. so well done and now take a back step...

I am in a similar situation but its more complicated, but I keep my distance and do as much as I can comfortably manage.. its the reponsibility that worries me most..

Absolutely true, You have helped her help herself and that is the best thing you can do for her.

My Dear Mom (86) was perfectly capable of doing many things for herself but discovered when my father died that people were there offering this and that, she really took advantage of this and came to think of it as a right. Sadly people only intended this for a short
term help and she became very bitter and demanding, playing one off against another. This has caused a great rift in family relationships and she now spends more time on her own than she needed to.

Stick to your guns you have no need to feel quilty at all Best wishes Meg