Dispatches from the Land of Nargle

3Dogs

Good to hear from you Nargle and glad that you're OK

Reading your latest post, it is a case of deja vu with his previous marriage and now - he has not changed at all

However, at present concentrate on daughter's wedding and your Dad's visit - I doubt he will play up much when your Dad is there, will he?

And I am sure that all the time you will be sizing up your situation and what is to happen - just remember, it is him that has the problem (which he really should be seeking help for but I doubt he would admit to having the problem let alone seek help) and not you, except that you have put up with it for so long and it will be hard to break free, as it would appear to be the way things are going

At least you have your work to escape to and, of course, the gang on MSE to support you

Keep posting and we will keep listening Pet

(((hugs))) lots of 'em

BigMummaF

Wot they all sed

Cold, hard truth..IF you have to start again as a single parent, you will need every ounce of grit & determination to help get you & your son through it all. Although very admirable to want to make your marriage work, you MUST think about what is best for your son & for you; I've heard it said many times that children feel more secure once the battles are over & they no longer have to walk around on tippee-toes. It may be getting very close to keeping some of your fighting spirit in reserve, as opposed to using it all up on a potentially lost cause...

I am seriously thinking about starting a campaign to get a new 'category' of citizenship on the statute books. I am NOT a single parent by choice & I was married to the father long before we had children, so I call myself a 'deserted wife' Now doesn't that sum up the situation [mine was him actually baloggaring orf with some floozie, but yours is equally valid as it is emotional detachment!] & sound less painful--'deserted spouse' is much a more ray-phined description

3Dogs

Just checking in to see how things are going - thinking about you

Nargleblast

All quiet on the Nargle front......had to get Rocky chicken rehomed yesterday as she clearly has been unsettled lately. I think it is because since getting our cat Albert some months ago we have been visited by other cats in the neighbourhood, and it is these other cats that have been winding Rocky up. She squawks loudly, winding OH up and making him threaten her with strangulation - when rational there is no way he would do such a thing, but in his current labile mood who knows! Anyway, Rocky now lives a few streets away from us in a large compound on an allotment with 20 other chickens and a cockerel. She has settled in very quickly and made herself at home - hopefully she will be happier amongst a gang of chickens than she was with just one companion. The remaining chicken, Lou, is quiet as usual. When this mad week is over we will see about getting her another companion, one with a more calm temperament.

OH civil, conversing as usual, not looking forward to having to do the training course next week but it's part of his job so tough cookie! It will keep him out of mischief and hopefully stop brooding about my daughter's forthcoming nuptials.

So, as I said, all calm and quiet on the Nargle front. For now.

Hope everyone else is ok.

solventsoon

Hi Nargle
Just wanted to say hi and check how things are going for you. Hope OH still being OK. Sorry about Rocky chicken, but glad she's settled down well in her new home.

Thinking about you.
spoon

mummum2

Hi sweetie,

Me too thinking of you! sorry to hear about Rocky. Hope to pop back later.

Thinking of you, take care,

MM2 x

Nargleblast

Hello again, nothing new to report at present. Things fairly calm. Am getting a quick update on my usual threads but hope to post again later if work is not too busy. Am now at the start of a very busy week, culminating in daughter's wedding Friday and Dad's visit Thursday to Sunday. Fingers crossed OH behaves himself!

Nargleblast

Quick phone call with daughter earlier, she is getting excited now, things are coming together. Have assured her I, her brother and her grandad will be there Friday morning, she will meet us at station and then we will all go back to her place to prepare for the wedding. OH managed to skive off his course by playing the old back injury card - they have advised him to consult with a doctor who can assess his fitness for the course. Booger! That means instead of having the course to keep him occupied all week he will be at a loose end and more likely to brood on stuff. Things remain calm as ever at present, but I know how quickly things can kick off so will be extra vigilant over the next few days.

solventsoon

Take care Nargle, will be thinking about you over the next few days and hoping OH does behave himself.

(((hugs)))
spoon

beanielou

Not really an ideal way for you to live is it?