Buffy gets a life and budget Diary

Buffythedebtslayer

it did cross my mind but my friend (and the other blokes) just think he is a drunk and won't remember anything, he never does so I thought maybe it is best not make a big deal out of it all. very nice fantasy tho!

To be honest I am thinking of a bit of an overhaul of myself..done as cheaply as possible. I have realised that I have kinda gone through a certain amount of grieving and change over the loss of my Dadxx. I have not really been myself in the last few years for many reasons and looking at my friends both at the wedding and today (saw my best friends and their kids) I have shut myself off from a lot- social life, men, a new job, different experiences. It was a bit like seeing a mirror of what my life could be like-not the marriage but the fun? the enjoying life which I don't really do much of? and the travel - wow the palces these people have been too.

Last year I started doing stuff again - meeting my wonderful friends from here (who I am currently missing loads) and other stuff I can't remember now - I made a list somewhere. This year my social has improved, I have got intouch with old friends and I am now part of "stuff" which is lovely. I even applied for a job!!! My second job is picking up and I am learning to drive.

I know everything takes time and I ok with how I have done but I am also aware that there are experiences I want and a lifestyle and job that if I don't get my !!!! together opportunities will pass me by.

Both the Wake up Challenge and the 100 day (memory girl's diary) have made me think - not all on here there are limits! but the need to change is papable and so very real.

I need to find my list and make a plan

xxxx

ziggles50

Happytogetdebtfree wrote: »

OOh it all sounds rom com material, any chance you can track the guy through a friend maybe get a number or an email you could always drop a line ? see what happens

yeah, yeah, yeah:D Facebook him!!!
I would also like to say that once YOU come around to that mindset of 'being available' it becomes apparent to others...soo....get into that positive thinking.
I know some people who you'd think- "he/she's in a relationship...REALLY???" so why can't we??? It aint rocket science:cool:

taxi73

oooh good luck on the man front.I'm sure your idealman will be along soon for you xx

Happytogetdebtfree

i vote facebooking him, see what happens not what other people say hes like all he can say is he dont remeber or he can say great thanks for contacting lets have a date xxx

elantan

a tickle buddy ... nice thing to have me thinks ...

Pippajo

Morning hun, it's funny how certain things trigger thoughts. DH had it recently going back to his old school and then his neices wedding.

Sometimes its enough to give yourself a kick up the bahookie and think I've done OK but I want more so I'm going out to get it

I have never met you, but I know you have greived for your Dad, looked after you mum, put up with your sister, etc etc...... I'm sure your dad would think enough is enough, be who you are and go have some fun :beer::beer:

x

Buffythedebtslayer

No can do on the Facebook front - the bride and groom aren't even linked! However I did find out his full name! I would feel like a bit of a stalker tbh if I did facebook him, I am relatively sure I can engineer a meeting with that group again...there is bound to be something! He he............

Right I haven't been very well the last few days (well maybe a week, had a sore throat last week) and it has finally come out as a summer cold. the weird thing is I keep feeling really sick (and being sick!) and sneezing LOADS. I did wonder if I am allergic to something but maybe it is just the cold, I have been holding it at bay with Lemsip - Blackcurrant flavour tho and headache pills (not at the same time!). I slept all afternoon. it was nice.

I am still not eating chocolate. I don't know how long it will last, I avoided the wedding cake and after dinner mints. Thing is I don't like denying myself very much. However my skin has improved and I didn't get much of a headache with the painters and decorators (iyswim). I don't know.

I had a driving lesson which went well, went shopping and spent 37.97 on books...............three for work use and one for me - on the Law of attraction. Not realy sure I believe it and it would probably be cheaper on Amazon but I like supporting my local book shop. well that and I have been having a big holiday think early!

Must go do my assignment. 5000 words. hmmm. I actually think I can do it.

xx

Buffythedebtslayer

Just reposting my 100 days aims and a bit of an update

My aims

1. Lose weight - between 1 - 2 stone. I know that is a bit vague! but I don't want to get caught up it all, so anything from a pound to 2 pounds per week is good. I am ordering the Fly lady body clutter book......I want to do more walking/running since it helps with my stress levels

not done much with being away at the wedding

2. Declutter the house and sell all I can on e bay. Clearout the loft especially for ebay and charity shop.

I have a box of stuff for e bay and a few bits for charity

3. Pay off 2000 pounds of the debt.
600 pounds will go off the debt this month

4. Get an schedule and stick to it. ie, sleep, eating, working in a balance which means I do my job and don't have these periods of stress that are if I am honest mostly my own fault. (use the control journal)I procastinate loads and this must stop.

with being ill the schedule has gone a little wrong! but I have my alarm set

5. Catch up with my masters, finish the first (by 31st July) and second module by the end of the summer holidays.

I got my dates mixed up and its the 29th - guess what I should be doing now!

6. Follow the Flylady plan, for the house and work

I will start that next week along with the Shred

7. Finish the garden(weeding cleaning), start the fish pond(digging)
I went and had a look today, it is a big job but I really think it can be done - a bit at a time!

8. Paint the bathroom and then get some one in to fit a boiler
Now I have the sander I am sure it will be easier - hopefully this weekend.............. well Sunday I will make a start.
9. Paint the wood work in the house and do small niggley jobs. Ideally I want to put up shelves for some stuff from the loft but not sure Mum will cope. The whole boiler malarky has been going on long enough.
I have come to the conclusion the loft really needs sorting out once and for all. Its so bloody hard when you don't drive and have to rely on cabs/mum to do stuff, especially as she never really wnats anything to change. Frustrating isn't the word. I will have to figure out a way to solve this problem.....

10. Return the conservatory to its former glory - it is clutter ville atm. and I did have it straight before and will do again

Gem- you mentioned a while back it would be good to have my own space - this was meant to be it but Mum keeps putting the recycling out there and I use it as a dumping ground for work and bay stuff.....not great...will have to do the marking!!!!

Not much of an update but I am figuring the 100 days for me starts Saturday, since i must work on my essay NOW and visit my friend who is down from up North on friday.

xxxx

Pippajo

I wouldnt worry about the loft until you have passed your test - then you can do it without bothering your mum. Go with what you can see and get immediate benefit from such as the conservatory and bathroom. Plus that can be your place (the convservatory I mean ) for you and your new man/or the old ex that is still somewhere in the background:cool:

What is actually the problem with the boiler - why the delay? Winter will soon be here and a dodgy/broken boiler is not good.

boredofbeingathome

Good luck with that essay- i hate them and am really not inspired to do the next module of my masters course. The last tutor put me off a bit and felt like we were constantly wasting time, she would give us a pile of reading to do and prep for the tutorial, then she would not do that all and give us more reading to do - while she swanned in and out of tutorial, with work that she had to do. Hmm, don;t think i was her fav person when i pointed out that i and others also had full time jobs and had driven over Lancashire to get there...it needed saying though. She was patronising to say the least oh and if she managed to mention that she had just received her doctorate at least twice a tutorial. Obviously we were the bottom feeders on the education rung then..lol.

Felt good to get that off my chest