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  • Alchemilla
    Alchemilla Posts: 6,276 Forumite
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    Hugs J ♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥♡♥
  • julliff
    julliff Posts: 625 Forumite
    thankyou for your lovely messagesm..x

    The "not a date, date" seems to be on..

    :eek:
    "Carpe Diem"
    MFW - Starting mortgage April 2010 - 120,000
    MFW - restart Nov 2013 - £70207.88 & £14086.49
    Current balance - £62459.49 & £10380.19

  • gallygirl
    gallygirl Posts: 17,240 Forumite
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    Oh, good luck. Now what are you planning on wearing? Really? Em, fine, if you think that's suitable...........;).
    A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort
    :) Mortgage Balance = £0 :)
    "Do what others won't early in life so you can do what others can't later in life"
  • greent
    greent Posts: 10,833 Forumite
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    Ooooh - keep us posted on the not a date :) x


    As to the other bit - do what you need to - and if counselling will help then give it a go. If you don't like your counsellor, don't write off counselling 'per se' - sometimes it takes a couple (or more) attempts to find one with whom you feel comfortable enough with (with what you're saying and with what they're saying back) - it's hard going if you're not feeling at ease with them - try another one if necessary. But take care and - like GG said - don't go away xx
    I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul
    Repaid mtge early (orig 11/25) 01/09 £124616 01/11 £89873 01/13 £52546 01/15 £12133 07/15 £NIL
    Net sales 2024: £20
  • julliff
    julliff Posts: 625 Forumite
    Morning!

    Well, I went, and I had a lovely relaxed time. The conversation flowed, it was much more relaxed than I anticipated. We drank ginger and peach tea, and went for a walk to feed horses.

    I wore a jumper, trousers and boots (I had been warned that walking would be involved). Very casual, but a bit more flattering than a wetsuit!

    In fact, I did not realise it, but it was 1am when I got home!

    He said "perhaps you will buzz me next time" -- does that mean he wants me to? Or is he telling me he won't? hmm, I am rubbish at this sort of thing.

    Well, however it pans out, it was a nice evening, and I enjoyed living in the moment. And it has made me even more determined to sort out the "other stuff", some of which was waiting for me when I got home, but I am not letting that take away from an enjoyable few hours. :)
    "Carpe Diem"
    MFW - Starting mortgage April 2010 - 120,000
    MFW - restart Nov 2013 - £70207.88 & £14086.49
    Current balance - £62459.49 & £10380.19

  • Alchemilla
    Alchemilla Posts: 6,276 Forumite
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    Take this with a pinch of salt as I am rubbish at this stuff but it sounds like "a thing". Friends just ring each other they dont talk about it like that.
    Perhaps he wants to know if you are interested and is giving you space to come back for another undate or not?
  • gallygirl
    gallygirl Posts: 17,240 Forumite
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    julliff wrote: »
    He said "perhaps you will buzz me next time" -- does that mean he wants me to?
    YES HE DOES WANT YOU TO!!!!!!!
    Glad the non-date went well, I was thinking about you :).
    A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort
    :) Mortgage Balance = £0 :)
    "Do what others won't early in life so you can do what others can't later in life"
  • greent
    greent Posts: 10,833 Forumite
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    Yep..... I think we're all in agreement here that he's interested!! :D


    Glad you had a good time xx
    I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul
    Repaid mtge early (orig 11/25) 01/09 £124616 01/11 £89873 01/13 £52546 01/15 £12133 07/15 £NIL
    Net sales 2024: £20
  • skint_spice
    skint_spice Posts: 13,536 Forumite
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    Sounds like a lovely evening, glad you had fun. Yes, another one who thinks he's interested:D
    Mortgage OP 2025 £7050/7000
    Mortgage OP 2024 £7700/7000

    Mortgage balance: £34,965

    Money making challenge £78/400

    ”Do what others won’t early in life so you can do what others can’t later in life” (stolen from Gally Girl)
  • Goldiegirl
    Goldiegirl Posts: 8,806 Forumite
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    Glad you enjoyed your evening out.

    I reckon you should just enjoy your friendship, and let it develop without analysing too much, just go with the flow.

    You enjoy his company, it sounds like he enjoys your company, he's encouraging you to call him when you feel like it - all sounds good to me.
    Early retired - 18th December 2014
    If your dreams don't scare you, they're not big enough
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