please please help me

daisyboo

another think, I have not saved any of the text Is sent him does this matter? Mine were not nasty just basically asking him to leave me alone and that its not fair what he is doing.

skippie

Having just been through uni, and having just had my 3 year + relationship finish, I can understand how you are feeling.

Last thing you need is all this hassel off of him.

Hope things go well

x

daisyboo

cheers skippie, hope your ok and not having what I have to deal with what Im going through too. Why can't he just accept the end is the end and by doing all this he is just destroying any love, respect I ever had for him as a person. Its unbelievable how people can change. Hope your ok chick

kenshaz

Could you not forgive him ,he made a mistake ,but he clearly loves you,all this financial mess is unimportant in the scheme of things,give him a second chance ,what have you to lose.
21 you have your whole life ahead of you,probably meet and fall in love many times,just treat this guy with respect and kindly and he will eventually go away ,his emotive texts are not important ignore them he is feeling rejected,he is to blame yes but does that matter,if you have feelings well the decision is yours if not then be firm and kind without emotion,the finances,well £2000,was a mistake do not do that again but you are responsible

hobo28

djohn2002uk wrote:

No, you sue him in the small claims court for half the value of the car.

I'd call his bluff. Firstly I would freeze the joint account then take out a small claims court action for half the value of the loan. That may well at the very least scare him into paying the loan himself!

Secondly I would from now on save his text messages and record any calls he makes to you. What you can do is ask the police to caution him under the protection from harassment act (1997). If he persists they can then prosecute him. Its a lot stronger than it used to be and therefore more effective. Would be cheaper than taking an injunction out.

From the sounds of things, he's just a weak bully. Once you stand up to him, he'll back off.

Unfortunately the loan is in joint names so technically you are liable not just for half but if he stops payment, all of it!

gingercordial

Oh you poor thing. Sounds like you are much much better off without him, even though it's hard at the moment!

I don't have any advice on the loan, but with the current account you must phone up the bank as soon as you can and ask for the account to be frozen. It won't take your name off it but it will mean that for the time being neither of you can do anything with the account, so he won't be able to take all the money out of it and leave you liable.

Oh yes, if you are a student then go to your student welfare office (should be nice and quiet at the moment!) and they may be able to give you advice. My uni had free access to lawyers if a student was in trouble.

Good luck! And you WILL find somebody better!

daisyboo

Could I forgive him? maybe if he hadn't just tried to blackmail me and can't even accept that what he did was wrong/ Also by treataning that the next male I even speak to will be put into hospital and texting me last night just to let me know he was in the pub with his mates and he so wished I knew how that felt because I apperently have no mates. or maybe even because I wasted three years of his life that I now have to pay 2 grand towards his car. would you get back with him?

hobo28

kenshaz wrote:

Could you not forgive him ,he made a mistake ,but he clearly loves you,all this financial mess is unimportant in the scheme of things,give him a second chance ,what have you to lose.
21 you have your whole life ahead of you,probably meet and fall in love many times,just treat this guy with respect and kindly and he will eventually go away ,his emotive texts are not important ignore them he is feeling rejected,he is to blame yes but does that matter,if you have feelings well the decision is yours if not then be firm and kind without emotion,the finances,well £2000,was a mistake do not do that again but you are responsible

Rubbish, the guy is a fruit loop! How on earth can he be given a 2nd chance when he's bullying her?

Quite obviously he was after this other girl and even if he didn't actually sleep with her, he more than likely wanted to!

Get rid of him!

gingercordial

daisyboo wrote:

Could I forgive him? maybe if he hadn't just tried to blackmail me and can't even accept that what he did was wrong/ Also by treataning that the next male I even speak to will be put into hospital and texting me last night just to let me know he was in the pub with his mates and he so wished I knew how that felt because I apperently have no mates. or maybe even because I wasted three years of his life that I now have to pay 2 grand towards his car. would you get back with him?

I wouldn't!!!

daisyboo

kenshaz wrote:

,just treat this guy with respect and kindly and he will eventually go away ,

and let him walk all over me? Do you seriously think he deserves respect and kindness. I am in no way being rude but have you read all this thread?