How am i supposed to find this money?

samandona

Just read the entire thread, and from what you've said OP it really does seem like he is trying anything to avoid getting the laptop repaired. Im not suggesting anything, that just seems to be the general gist....

Also, if the mac is more than 12 months old it would only be worth a fraction of the price now. Hence repair costs would also be significantly lower. Unless he has experience building/taking apart/repairing laptops and computers in general I would go and ask a specialist to first look at it, then about about the costs of repair. And I dont mean someone from PC world.

euronorris

KME91 wrote: »

I very much doubt there's anything on there he wouldn't want me to see. I don't have a problem with !!!!!!, I know he's faithful, he shares pretty much everything with me anyway. I have no reason not to trust him. like i said i think it's an over reaction but that's him, he can be sensitive, and take things to heart. he's going to find out about repairing it, so we'll see what happens after that.

I understand, and I would be upset at first too (as would OH). But....I wouldn't place all the blame on him, and after the initial shock, I'd be looking for solutions myself, as would OH.

It's a material possession, and he still seems to be putting all the blame on you, which isn't fair. And, he should be looking this stuff up himself!

Also - OH can be very sensitive, but not about material possessions. Perhaps you should remind your OH that YOU are more important than any laptop!

Person_one

When my mum did it to mine, I tried really hard to hide that I was annoyed and upset because I could see how guilty she felt. It was an accident and she didn't need me making her feel any worse! Once I realised I could save my data AND get a brand new macbook pro to replace a 3 year old one at no extra cost, funnily enough I wasn't upset anymore!

I certainly didn't start putting up barriers to getting things sorted. Do you think he is resistant to the idea of repair because secretly he'd quite like a shiny brand new one that he doesn't have to pay for?

jimbms

I do think it is a bit out of order all these people suggesting her OH is doing anything illegal just because he is reluctant to have it repaired, it could be just him sulking about the incident or as person_one said digging his heels in and hoping she will give in and let him get a new one. It is very wrong to speculate on the conduct of someone based on your own suspicians, especially when those speculations could cause a serious rift in anther persons relationship.

bestpud

Well, FWIW I'd be wondering what he doesn't want seen as well!

I wouldn't think it is anything he doesn't want his partner to see as she wouldn't anyway if he was careful and arranged the repairs himself.

I'm thinking he doesn't want someone rooting around in there.

It could just be !!!!!! and he feels embarrassed? Not worried about his partner but a stranger knowing what he looks at?

I'd be devastated if it were my computer but I definitely wouldn't make the other person feel bad about it - he is definitely being OTT.

Hope you get it sorted

Happy_Girl_2

Does your OH have Aspergers Syndrome?

I only ask due to the way he reacted. I'm an Aspie and I would have reacted exactly the same way. I can remember having a hysterical session when my OH broke one of my mugs, and another total meltdown when i spilt a drink over some paperwork

To 'normal' people the reaction seem OTT, but an aspie feel the pain of their possessions being broken or damaged as a physical pain and can get REALLY upset about it

If my OH spilt drink over my laptop, I too would want him to replace it as I wouldn't want a 'damaged' laptop. In my Aspie thinking, I would be feeling that my laptop was pristine before as I had looked after it, so if he was so clumsy as not to respect my stuff and be careless around drinks etc, he should put it back to the pristine condition it was in, and not with drink damaged parts!

It doesn't mean that is morally the correct way to treat you, I'm just trying to explain there may be a reason for his behaviour and it isn't due to him being bad or selfish

jimbms

Well said Happy Girl, mind you some on here would call that showing guilt of every serious crime going and request you be incarcerated without trial.

peachyprice

Happy_Girl wrote: »

If my OH spilt drink over my laptop, I too would want him to replace it as I wouldn't want a 'damaged' laptop. In my Aspie thinking, I would be feeling that my laptop was pristine before as I had looked after it, so if he was so clumsy as not to respect my stuff and be careless around drinks etc, he should put it back to the pristine condition it was in, and not with drink damaged parts!

But that's the point, OP suggested claiming on their household insurance, which would give him a nice new shiny one, but he was being very obstructive, suggesting it wouldn't be covered, wouldn't be worth it because they'd push up his premiums astronomically next year, increase his car insurance (!!!!!!). So he really is just having a hissy about it and being a bit of a brat.

bestpud

jimbms wrote: »

Well said Happy Girl, mind you some on here would call that showing guilt of every serious crime going and request you be incarcerated without trial.

And others will try and label any person who seems a bit over the top!

I'm not saying either is right - how could we know, but neither is an impossible explanation so they are both valid response to the original question

Any

jimbms wrote: »

Well said Happy Girl, mind you some on here would call that showing guilt of every serious crime going and request you be incarcerated without trial.

Yeah, because putting the OP on the trial for 2 days for being sooo clumsy to spill your beer that you put next to the lapto over your laptop is different matter;)