How am i supposed to find this money?

euronorris

Happy_Girl wrote: »

so if he was so clumsy as not to respect my stuff and be careless around drinks etc, he should put it back to the pristine condition it was in, and not with drink damaged parts!

Even if you had been careless enough to leave the drink in a silly place to start with? Or would that not be taken into consideration? (genuinely trying to understand here - not being picky).

loulou123

I'd say he was over reacting to be honest.

My boyfriends cat, tipped a cup of tea over my laptop (another animal that cant hold its drink lol!) and i just accepted it for the accident it was. I got it repaired and end of the matter. Although then 6 weeks after i got it back, she knocked it off the sofa and completely broke it.

I brought a new one (he offered to pay, but that didnt feel right as it was an accident) and this time i have accidental damage insurance on it!

I loved my laptop (the broken one) it was the 1st time i had ever been able to afford a new one so i was very proud of it, and it saw me through some pretty bad times after i had major surgery, but it was just a "thing" and replacable.

Happy_Girl_2

euronorris wrote: »

Even if you had been careless enough to leave the drink in a silly place to start with? Or would that not be taken into consideration? (genuinely trying to understand here - not being picky).

Yes it wouldn't make any difference! I might have had the drink somewhere you think is silly, but the fact is I was using the laptop and didn't spill the drink as I was being careful! You spilt it, your fault!

I don't think the OP said the drink was next to a laptop which wasn't being used, but that wouldn't happen to me anyway. When I've finished with the laptop I'd put it all away where it goes, out of danger and so I'd know where it was when I wanted it. Heaven help the person who moves it from its 'place'!

I know where all my possessions are every minute of the day even if the house is a mess, and they all look as good as the day I bought them, because I am not careless!

And now because you don't respect my property, you were careless enough to damage my laptop and I can't use it. Either I end up with a 'damaged' laptop after it's been repaired, or I have to start over again with loading all the software and moving all the documents over to a new one

And this is hugely inconvenient to me and you've caused this so I am so angry with you right now I can't even look at you!

Oh yes, there has been a few of these incidents here with my lovely clumsy dyspraxic OH :rotfl::rotfl:

Pee

jimbms wrote: »

I do think it is a bit out of order all these people suggesting her OH is doing anything illegal just because he is reluctant to have it repaired, it could be just him sulking about the incident or as person_one said digging his heels in and hoping she will give in and let him get a new one. It is very wrong to speculate on the conduct of someone based on your own suspicians, especially when those speculations could cause a serious rift in anther persons relationship.

But if you are right and he is digging his heels in, the OP should get rid....

Buttonmoons

I have an apple macbook pro, and DD spilled a can of diet coke in mine and it stopped working, my house insurance wouldn't fix it because I didn't have the receipt anymore.

Anyways, it started working about 2 days later, took the battery out, let it dry out, and dabbed any liquid I could see.

That was about 9 months ago and it's still working fine

mariajose

Something similar happened to me a couple of days ago. My boyfriend works in a bar and often, I take my laptop into the bar and use the internet facilities (we currently have no internet at home). Sometimes I leave my laptop, in its bag, and my boyfriend stores it on the floor, in between a large fridge and a bottle bin. A couple of days ago the boss - who knows that I leave my laptop there, and who would have been able to see it - unplugged the fridge to defrost it and the floor surrounding it was flooded. Of course, so was my laptop.

The boss realised what had happened and picked up the laptop and switched it on (it was soaked and dripping with water). It turned on and then back off and then he just replaced it back into the (wet) laptop bag.

This was around 8am and when we arrived there at 5pm, the laptop was still wet, in a wet bag. Of course, it doesn´t work and hasn´t since.

I´m hoping that, firstly, I can save the data, and secondly, that my insurance will cover it, as I´m currently a student on my Year Abroad and have insurance for that. Being a student, I obviously use my laptop a lot, and I work online as well, so a replacement is a must, and I have a lot of data that is quite important - three years´uni work, family photos and those of my travels, as well as some attempts at writing fiction.

However, I´m not quite as devastated as I imagined I would be. In hindsight (and oh, how wonderful that is), I see that leaving the laptop on the floor next to a big fridge is not really the brightest ideas, and this is a huge shame, but isn´t really anyone´s fault. And who doesn´t want a more modern laptop, given the chance.

peachyprice

Happy_Girl wrote: »

Oh yes, there has been a few of these incidents here with my lovely clumsy dyspraxic OH :rotfl::rotfl:

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
What a combination

RadoJo

I think that some people are being a little harsh on the OP's OH - I can understand being upset about something being damaged, and although I might not shed tears, if I had had a long day, was already feeling a little bit down or had just finished something that I hadn't yet had time to back up, I can imagine doing so. I also think that accusing him of having something illegal on the laptop is a little extreme - whether he takes it in to be fixed or has to have it replaced, the process will be frustrating and annoying, and without knowing how much data can be retrieved, it's natural to be concerned at what may be lost. Although the OP has obviously been trying to be helpful by suggesting solutions, until her OH knows the extent of the damage, it will be a source of concern until he knows what can be saved from the data on there, so even if it is covered on the insurance, that doesn't change the fact that he may have lost work/photos/anything else. He may not be dealing with the situation in the best way, but that's no reason to accuse him of anything sinister.
Personally, in his shoes I would probably say to my OH 'I know it was an accident and I know that you fell really guilty, but I'm still really cross, so leave me to it for a while until I've cooled down and we'll sort it all out'. But everyone's different and sometimes people find it hard to let go of the feeling of anger even when they want to. OP - I'm sure you will work it out, although he might not come round fully until he knows exactly what's retrievable and can stop worrying that it's all gone, but it sounds as though you're doing everything you can to help him, so I hope he snaps out of it soon!

pelirocco

paddy's_mum wrote: »

If you were my daughter, I'd be quite worried by this over the top reaction to accidental damage to a mere thing.

What's he going to be like if ever you became accidentally pregnant - "it's your own fault, and I don't want kids yet so get rid of it. It's your problem not mine so don't come running to me with tears ..."

Seriously, cold shouldering someone over an incident that is at least as much their mistake and shortsightedness as yours would have me asking questions about the maturity of the "other half".

Slight case of imagination running away with you there :rotfl:

ali-t

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

The only person I knew of who went nuts when his computer was damaged went ballistic because he had stuff on the drive that he didn't want the repair guys to find out about.
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That was my first thought too - way too much !!!!!! on there.