Please help me im now desperate - and now sacked from my job

nearlyrich

maria932 wrote:

Update
Hubby cancelled his interview today as he believes he does not need to work as I have 2 jobs.

Time to change his beliefs, :mad: he should be ashamed of himself :mad:

How can he call himself a man and watch you working your fingers to the bone whilst he sits on his lazy ****:mad: :mad: If I was you I would tell him he has a week to either find a job or pack his kitbag and ship out.

You deserve better:A

jen30_2

Oh maria,

I really feel for you. You are trying everything you can think of to get out of the mess you are in and your OH is thwarting your every turn. :mad: I would think long and hard about what you need right now both for you and your daughter. I think you are a very strong women and your Oh needs a good kick up the backside.

I'm sending you the biggest hugs I can.
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Keep brave, Keep strong.

maria932

thank you for your support it realy means so much

angeluk69_2

Hello Maria, I am so glad to be able to speak to you at last.

I have just been catching up and am shocked at your last post... does he really believe that you should be working your a$$ off just so he can sit on his doing flip all~!!!!!!!!!

DON'T CRY IN FRONT OF HIM, that will only make him feel stronger and like he can bully you even more.

Perhaps now is the time to think do you really want to be around this nohoper. you tell him that next time he wants to go out, have food in the cupboard he needs to start providing or he will be starving or sitting in the dark.

your husband is a BULLY and a waster, maybe he just doesn't give a carp about HIS daughter and want to be able to provide her with nice things.

Give him 1 week there are plenty of agencies about even if he does temping or whatever it gets him out of the house and takes some of the pressure off you...remember honey we are here for you but might alsdo like to tell him that christmas is ony 15 weeks away, does he want to let his daughter down on xmas day.

Sorry Maria, this really makes me mad, I can't believe what a moron he is being.

Toomuchdebt

hugs and more hugs-I suggest you show him all your posts and tell him that he either starts to help you or you want him to leave.

maria932

I dont know if I have the guts to show him this post, he knows i spend alot of time on here looking for freebies and comps etc. but he would go mad if i showed him telling other people about our life, finances etc, i cant, he would go mad.

jen30_2

I think you need to have a long think about where your marriage is going and if you can continue with things as they are. It's a huge decision whether you stay or go but it's one only you can make. You need to think about it when you are in a calmer frame of mind and weigh up the pros and cons for and against. When you do this you'll come to the right decision for you and your daughter. I wish you the best of luck. You are a stong woman and you will come to the right decision for your family.

I wouldn't show him this post if there is the slightest chance he'd hurt you.

maria932

Jen - that is the reason why i wont show him, he has done it before and yes im scared of him, i know you are all saying i need to get out but i feel like im stuck in a rut and i cant get out.
im scared of being on my own
of not being able to support Cadence
of her being taken from me

jen30_2

I wish I was there to give you the biggest hug I can.

jen30_2

Maria, I've pm'd you.