Midwife been discussing my son with mums-to-be

babyboysmommy

mumps wrote: »

I would be upset in your position. I had no tests in any of my pregnancies for religious reasons, if I had decided to have tests I might not have wanted other members of my church of members of my family to know. I might not have even wanted my husband to know. If you had been in this position it could have caused alot of personal problems for you to be identified. That is why medical people have to be very careful about what they say, what seems an inoffensive remark to one person can be very serious to another. If I were you I would ask her if she has spoken about you and why and take it from there. Good luck whatever you decide.

I agree. No midwife or other health care professional should ever disclose any information about other clients without their consent, let alone information that makes the person being discussed easily identifiable. It's wrong & the fact there were other problems in the past doesn't change this. You clearly have good cause to complain about more than one thing in relation to your care & confidentiality.

mrcow

Was there any update on this - it would be interesting to know if any action was taken?

angelicmary85

mrcow wrote: »

Was there any update on this - it would be interesting to know if any action was taken?

Sorry it's taken me so long to get back to you!

As far as I know, she was given a slap on the wrist for making it so obvious who she was taking about (It all all spoken about over the phone as no-one 'had the time' to meet with us) but I'm still waiting to hear back from consultant at the hospital.

I have to speak to a consultant as DS was under the 'care' of a consultant until we left the hospital. DS doctor has already spoken to the hospital about my 'issues' so I'm not sure the consultant really feels the need to speak to me!

meritaten

hmmm - mention solicitors and the word sue! I am sure that someone would then meet with you. assure you that this has been given the highest priority and it wont happen again!
you have a legitamate complaint here, its up to you whether you resolve it by forgetting it, complain to the highest level and possibly recieve a letter of a 'sort of' apology, or see a solicitor and by going to court - force the people responsible to face up to what has been done. A blatant breach of confidentiality!
up to you hun.

LondonDiva

Just to add my tuppenorth, OP I don't think the MW was talking specifically about you and I would be amazed if she's been practising for more than a couple of years if you were the only parent with a DS child in that time.

You say you live in a small village, in which case, I can state as a fact that the MW would cover a wide geographical area, of which yours would be a small part. What size population does your local hospital serve? That would tell you the number of people having babies there and the pool of pregnant mums the MW team deal with.

I think your underlying issues are clouding your judgement to be frank - yes, you have a right to get answers about your past care (and I suggest asking pretty soon, given the time that's passed and your obvious resentment), but at the same time need to be careful about going off half c0cked about a he said / she said situation.

Ask whether the MW was talking about you and check the context so that your genuine concerns about the previous care will not be coloured by a perception that you are a 'challenging' (nightmare / difficult / will not listen to reason) patient.

You will have a long, complex relationship with services and you need to get the matter dealt with and done, so that you can move on. If you are still raising these issues about the birth etc in a year's time having not addressed it, when you should be concentrating on new issues, it's your son that'll be the loser.