please help

kwl327

nannytone wrote: »

it amazes me sometimes. if people put as much effort into working as they did into finding ways to claim from the taxpayer, we;d all be a lot better off

i work 12 hour days and work hard. what else can i do

healy

kwl327 wrote: »

well is it your money she is taking or mine or both. you would have to pay tax regardless of whether she claimed or not. making sure our baby has got what he needs before deciding weather to move in is my first concern.

If we move in together and it causes huge amounts of stress because we have no money could equal us splitting up and she being a single parent claiming all the benefits she could of before we moved in.

i would love for her to move in with our son and help out with everything that is needed but at the minute it is not possible.

i just need a little advice as we taking everything into consideration hence the reason i am on here.

You have had advice and had the facts but you do not like them.

If you are looking for someone to agree with you here there is no chance of it happening.

You must have a large amount of debt if you are not prepared to support your family.

I am assuming you are not a troll but it is half term in some parts of the Country!

kwl327

so can i get this clear. if we go legal. she can claim child benefit 20.30 a week. child tax credit 14.00. what about working tax credits.

kingfisherblue

You earn too much for working tax credits - the cut off is about £17,000

kingfisherblue

healy wrote: »

You have had advice and had the facts but you do not like them.

If you are looking for someone to agree with you here there is no chance of it happening.

You must have a large amount of debt if you are not prepared to support your family.

I am assuming you are not a troll but it is half term in some parts of the Country!

Half term in the North West!

kwl327

AnxiousMum wrote: »

I think that the stress of being investigated for fraud, and being imprisoned for it would, or the threat of that hanging over you, would be alot more stressful as it would involve the separation from your baby. Easy for you to say Kwl.....it would be your girlfriend who would be investigated, charged and imprisoned for fraud.

Many posters on here actually work for various departments, and come on here to offer their help because they actually care and want to ensure people have the right information.

kwl's girlfriend - would you file for child maintenance if living apart? Would kwl be prepared to have his name on the birth certificate? You have CHOSEN to have a child together, does your child not have the RIGHT to have both parents around to care for him, to provide for him, and love him unconditionally regardless of whether the parents are using him as a little benefits catcher or not? Honestly - if your boyfriend cannot handle the thought now, he's hardly going to improve once the teething starts, or when the baby has colic.......sounds like a man, sorry boy, that wants it all, no matter the cost to you and your child.

if i paid her every month , would she need to claim CSA.
Why is name on birth certificate relevant.
we have a child together and that does not make me any more of a man or boy , i will be there no matter what through all the tough times with the child.

dmg24

kwl327 wrote: »

i work 12 hour days and work hard. what else can i do

Use contraception?

Indie_Kid

Babies are as expensive as you want them to be. I'm sure there are many parents on here who earn less than £25k per year and get by.

Maybe you need to budget properly? Like it has been said - it's cheaper for 2 people to live together than one person.

Metranil_Vavin

Trolltastic.

AnxiousMum

kwl327 wrote: »

so can i get this clear. if we go legal. she can claim child benefit 20.30 a week. child tax credit 14.00. what about working tax credits.

Working tax credits is cut off around £16K of earnings or something per year.

Don't forget - your electricity would be less - lighting/heating/entertainment systems for two homes is more than one. One telephone bill rather than 2
One tv licence rather than 2
One sky/broadband charge rather than 2
furniture - could raise a few pounds together selling off at a boot fair all the duplicate items that you might have - as you would only need one of alot of things

Quality of life - spending time together, having support, companionship etc. without having to watch out the window to see if anybody sees you arriving/leaving her place - all stuff to be taken into account as well, not just 'what will she lose'.

I'll bet if you put a post on here, 'what will I gain by having my girlfriend and son move in with me'........You'd be overwhelmed with all the positives