please help

kwl327

Thank you very much

sunnyone

kwl327 wrote: »

We are doing it like this as i can not financially support her. im thinking about the baby and her. i would live at my place and stop there 2-3 days a week . only untill i can afford for her to live with me. i maybe being selfish but im trying to think of a way around the situation.

Thats fraud, there is no set amount on days/nights that you can be at her tax payer funded home eating her tax payer funded food and using her tax payer funded utilities, thats an urban myth that has meant criminal records for many people and even the IUC interview ( interview under caution) that you will both have to undergo will be so stressfull you`ll regret it.

You will also never be able to do so many things together because thats what the DWP fraud dept look at, like shopping and socialising.

kwl327

sh1305 wrote: »

But why should tax payers pay for this? You chose to have a baby - time ti face up to your responsibilities!

i am a tax payer

fav77

kwl327 wrote: »

I dont see it abusing the system, its what we are entitled too. If she lives on her own and she claims IS / HB she will have money for her and the baby.

If i live on my own i get to pay my bills support her and the baby with what i have left and its all perfectly legal. whereas if she lives with me i think we would be screwed. i have tried all money saving things and i am getting there.

Its not perfectly legal I'm afraid! You are a couple whether or not you live together and spending 2-3 nights a week together is asking for trouble!

Indie_Kid

kwl327 wrote: »

i am a tax payer

And this makes it ok, how..?

Caz3121

kwl327 wrote: »

I dont see it abusing the system, its what we are entitled too. If she lives on her own and she claims IS / HB she will have money for her and the baby.

If i live on my own i get to pay my bills support her and the baby with what i have left and its all perfectly legal. whereas if she lives with me i think we would be screwed. i have tried all money saving things and i am getting there.

not legal - it is called benefit fraud
...is she intending to go through the CSA to make your little charade look more real?
You obviously think a lot of her and the concept of a family unit that you will be happy with a couple of visits a week and let her deal with all the sleepless nights, teething, missing first steps...all for money...your child will be so proud to have a dad that put money before time with them

divastrop

Being at college does not make you entitled to IS. I am a mature student at college and many single/childless people have had to drop out of the course because they couldn't claim JSA and couldn't fit the college work in around their jobs.
On what grounds is she claiming IS?

NB 25k a year sounds like a pretty decent amount to me!

Metranil_Vavin

sometimes this particular board is really no good for my blood pressure....

Metranil_Vavin

...actually i'm wondering if it's just a wind up....

kwl327

sh1305 wrote: »

And this makes it ok, how..?

well is it your money she is taking or mine or both. you would have to pay tax regardless of whether she claimed or not. making sure our baby has got what he needs before deciding weather to move in is my first concern.

If we move in together and it causes huge amounts of stress because we have no money could equal us splitting up and she being a single parent claiming all the benefits she could of before we moved in.

i would love for her to move in with our son and help out with everything that is needed but at the minute it is not possible.

i just need a little advice as we taking everything into consideration hence the reason i am on here.