please help

bestpud

Definitely a WUM!

Could be two working together, or one who likes the sound of their own voice, but definitely a wind up!

Never mind though, the posts may deter other idiots who are actually in this situation from committing fraud.

carkeyz

kwl327 wrote: »

I dont see it abusing the system, its what we are entitled too. If she lives on her own and she claims IS / HB she will have money for her and the baby.

If i live on my own i get to pay my bills support her and the baby with what i have left and its all perfectly legal. whereas if she lives with me i think we would be screwed. i have tried all money saving things and i am getting there.

This bugs me, Im sorry, I live with my partner and we have a one year old. And we manage fine on a lot less that what your on! If we were bringing in that, I would feel rich!
I think you should man up and be a responsible parent, What kind of example is this setting to your unborn child. I would be ashamed of myself if I had behaved like this when my daughter was born.
We struggle a lot but are trying our best to improve our income, we don't want to survive on benefits and my partner has started his own business to get us off of them, after being employed from the age of 16.
I worked from the age of 16 untill my daughter was born. The only reason I do not work is because child care costs are extortionate.

I dont mean to have a go, but once that baby is born and you look into its eyes you will know you have to do the right thing.

wardende

More trouble than its worth, trying to fiddle it by only stopping there 2-3 nights a week.

Neighbours will shop you / your partner, and you'll end up being investigated for fraud later on down the line.

Best thing is to just look at what sort of outgoings you can cut down or minimize

or

you could reduce your hours down from full time and claim more WFTC!!

missdee85

Ok so under the OP's sort of theory me and my partner should separate for money reasons - i am sorry to sound harsh well no i amn't actually. I Earn £730 per month working 25 hours a week - because i work more than 24 hours a week my partner is entitled to nothing now when you look at my outgoings £500 is rent £100 council tax etc etc etc.

So if me and partner lived separately thats ok even though we have been living together and are clearly with each other.

And out of interest i had my little boy at 19 (not planned but still loved) i got back into work as soon as i possibly could and both mines and my ex husbands income per year was £10k we managed and our little boy never ever went without. I lived on benefits for a while due to not being in a job long enough to get maternity pay and i can say in all honesty i felt guilty for the amount that i got per week on top of my living costs i could not justify having an extra £70 or so a week for a baby they are not that expensive, just be sensible with your approach to money plan where every penny is going.

And dont even risk it with the whole fraud thing they will class you 2 as a couple which i am sure if you are interviewed under caution that you will not deny, they have a set criteria of what is classed as a couple whether your living together or not is irrelevant - in fact i would think it was worse due to you obviously being very aware of what your doing enough to keep 2 households.

Man up and face up to your responsibilities a baby is hard work i know your girlfriend says you will be fantastic parents i dont doubt this but after being in the same situation at the same age even though i have always been very mature for my age it is bloody hard being on your own with a baby my ex may as well had not been there i felt alone and the lowest i have ever felt dont let her do this on her own, an extra person there just to tell you everything is going to be ok when a baby is screaming the house down really has no price tag.