operation recovery

elantan

Karmacat wrote: »

Oh El, what an awful situation for you .... it sounds like you're very close to finding it unbearable :grouphug:

Like Hypno tho, I'm concerned for how sustainable it is, if, even when he's in agony, he's swapping superstrength for normal strength. I know that when I was a heavy drinker, I had to stop completely, for about four years - I shocked myself after one binge, by not being able to hold a coffee cup, and I woke up - we'd call it my LBM these days. When I slowly started drinking again, I found that I could only drink maybe two glasses of wine before I felt really bad. But I really needed that complete gap, even tho I wasn't formally an alcoholic. :grouphug:

it truthfully has been a very hard time recently kc ... i dont know what the answer is or will be but what i do know is we no longer can carry on the way we were and things will change for the better either way ... preferably side by side ...

ZTD

elantan wrote: »

its lager that is 9.5% volume ... very strong stuff... i know when hubby drinks it he thinks he has pants on over his trousers ... otherwise he wouldnt have tried to fly down the stairs the other night and do himself an injury lol

Err, hate to tell you this, but I was drinking that stuff when I was 14. After that, it was a progression up to home-brew which (if you do it right) is round about the 12-14% mark (you add enough sugar until the alcohol kills the yeast but too much and it tastes sweet - blergh ).

Did I go stupid with it? No.

The strength is an excuse, not a reason. If he is truly addicted, then he will try any excuse that will fly in order to be allowed to continue drinking. I have to agree 100% with Hypno on this matter.

You could try going on the Cutting out Alcohol thread and ask for advice there. Also, try getting him a diabetes test - there may be a reason why he likes carbohydrate laden drinks.

elantan

have sent you a pm z

elantan

believe me i have heard so many excuses now ... i could write a book about them all

taxi73

Sending hugs to you.I understand how you feel my 1st husband was an alcholic and it is no fun for you.He went cold turkey for so long and then returned to it.After 7 years I had to leave for my own sanity.We had 3 kids together and they were going short.I couldn't have that.
I don't know how it will pan out for you but you deserve to live a happy life...life is too short to be burdened like that xx

elantan

thanks taxi you are very right ... and that is what i am aiming for ...

taxi73

just hoping you can find some peace as the stress is no good for you xx

boredofbeingathome

I do think he has to make the changes for himself El. It is difficult if he has not had his own light bulb moment on this and as KC found, maybe he has to have that before he can make changes..although being superman on the stairs could may well be that moment. You are great for all the support you are giving him and i hope one day that he will appreciate that. x

elantan

do you know what hurts? what really really hurts ...

watching your best friend, the person you love and want to spend the rest of your life with kill themself and knowing there is nothing nothing at all that you can do to stop it.... watching your marriage slowly die but finding yourself unwilling to give up until you can be able to say to yourself well i know i did my best ... i know there was nothing more i could do....

almost finding yourself wishing you believed in god so that you could pray for a miracle cause it looks like nothing else will cut it ... seeing a glimpse of the future for the man you love ... knowing he will loose everything EVERYTHING that means something to him ... to be replaced with drinking buddies and living in squalor till he gets sooooo ill he gets taken into hopsital where he will slowly die an agonising death ....

that really really hurts

elantan

so ... with everything going on i have neglected my excercise ... with hubby having the chest pains i havent been walking or looking after my diet etc .... so this is going to change... i got myself a treadmill (after thinking i shouldnt bother) the girl i go running with has damaged her ankle so we have had to forgo running for a wee while ... and you know what i missed it ... it wasnt worth me going to the place where we ran it takes me nearly 40 mins to drive there theni would run 15 mins on and off and drive 40 mins back .... so ... a friend was selling a treadmill and i bought.... it it isnt a super dooper one... it works thats what i need so i am going to start running on my treadmill till my friend finds oout what is wrong with her...

tomorrow i am going walking again i really missed my walking i have missed it so much and found my legs where itching to get out and get strethced


finacially wise ... well ... this is going to have to be dealt with .... i have some ideas but i am not entirely sure what to do yet .


hope you are all good