Feeling so bad - help

gonzo127

emsywoo123 wrote: »

Disagree all you want, I stand by what I said.

Oh I know you stand by it and that is very admirable,

However until your children are grown up and left you can not say you will not ever do something,

You can plan on not doing it but until that time has passed nothing is 100% guaranteed in human nature and no plan of how you will cope is fool proof (or even close to how you might react in a certain situation)

and the way you do come across to me is someone who has a very big ego and seems to think they are perfect enough that something as normal as a natural human flaw could never effect them - and lashing out is a natural human flaw, or base animal instinct or what ever you want to call it, and it happens when all reason leaves you due to fear, anger or any other intense emotional state. – I am not saying it is right all I am pointing out is that it is a fact of nature which no human is without and no matter how much talk you can say these basic human instincts are part of you and everyone else on the planet

And as to just walking away this sometimes is not possible, for example my step son when he was 14 and about 6 foot was having a massive argument with his mum, due to his lack of reasoning ability and extreme reactions due to hormones he started to get very aggressive with his responses, this led him to start confronting his mum and using his larger height and ‘bulk’ to back his mum into a corner where walking away would not have been an option, ok nothing happened from this as I was there and stopped it but this is just a situation that could have easily gotten out of hand with no option for my wife to walk away

i also have to say i think it is very sad that you have so little or no ability to forgive people and are so disgusted by your grandparents that no longer talk to them, i really do feel for you for that

suited-aces

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I read this thread and was to comment, and then thought I'd best not as my thoughts went against the others, but this is my opinion, and others have posted theirs so I will post mine.........

I'm not going to post exactly what I thought, as you seem very remorseful, and you know what you did was wrong, but I am surprised at the level of support you have had, as I am in complete opposition.

As far as I am concerned, you went too far. He is still a child and IMHO slapping him was an absolute action of bully boy behaviour.

As the adult you should have been able to deal with this differently without resorting to violence.

I will await everyone's criticism, but this is honestly what i think.

Get real. :wall:

emsywoo123

gonzo127 wrote: »

Oh I know you stand by it and that is very admirable,

Are you being sarcastic?



and the way you do come across to me is someone who has a very big ego and seems to think they are perfect

Well, luckily for everyone involved, you can only base your decision on a few posts on an anonymous internet site!

I have never said I was perfect.

Time to agree to disagree I think.

the_cat

Well the constant bickering seems to have purely had the effect of scaring off the OP

Hardly the most helpful of outcomes, surely?

emsywoo - I think we are now extremely clear on what you wouldn't have done. Care to share what the solution is for the future instead?

emsywoo123

the_cat wrote: »

emsywoo - I think we are now extremely clear on what you wouldn't have done. Care to share what the solution is for the future instead?

Why, so you can all pick holes in this as well? :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
No no, you all carry on.

Raini

OP please come back and tell us how you are and how the situation is now ...

(please don't feel judged, no one can do judge you but you, and we really do care how you are)

Raini

emsywoo123 wrote: »

I shall leave the thread now so you can all carry on saying (if not explicitly) that it does not matter.

I thought you were leaving this thread? Please don't let us keep you from doing so.

emsywoo123

Oh, and for all the people that PM'd me to tell me how they had been slapped/slapped their kids with no regrets/would have no hesitation in slapping their kids/how there should be more slapping, thanks, but at least the posters on this thread have done in publicly, rather than privately.
And no, I will not be replying to any PM's.

Caroline73_2

Why is it ok to say that the OP slapping her son was ok given the circumstances and it was an isolated incident? Would you all say the same if the OP's husband had slapped her in the face because she was pushing his buttons?

emsywoo123

Raini wrote: »

I thought you were leaving this thread? Please don't let us keep you from doing so.

You were quite correct, I was going to, but other posters asked questions of me so I responded. Polite you see. Oh, and it's a public forum, so I thought I was allowed to have my say too