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I Don't Have Kids Why Pay For Someone Else's?
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You know what, my children 'physically assault me too', they are kids it is what they do when they are young you teach them not too.
You are certainly not winning any pity here from anyone. You want a safety net then put £100 a month away in an account so when she sees you for what you are then you have some money to leave and go elsewhere.
But yes, her children will always come first, she will never take your side over theirs she will always put her hand in her pocket for them first, you do not sound like you are the kind of person who can deal with that anyway.
And if you were on that mortgage then you'd have no chance of getting them to leave while the kids are under 18 or in full time education and no judge would instruct them to move so you would be 'stuck' paying a mortgage on that property until they can leave and you can make her sell. My dad found that out too!!0 -
OK..I am, an unmarried male,no kids etc..i can see some of the concerns that OP has.
Bottom line though is that if you have these insecurities then dont do it...simples.
If your going to go live with someone with the expectation that it will be/hope to be a LTR, then you have to feel positive above it with minimal niggles. In essence,you need to feel comfortable with it.
Trust your instincts...i think your hedging your bets a little.
If in doubt..dont.Feudal Britain needs land reform. 70% of the land is "owned" by 1 % of the population and at least 50% is unregistered (inherited by landed gentry). Thats why your slave box costs so much..0 -
If you have a good job earning good money you are never going to be skint and homeless....Be who you are, say what you feel, those who mind don't matter, those who matter don't mind.They say that talking to yourself is a sign of mental illness. So I talk to the cats instead.0
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Are you sure that you are not a woman? The phrase drama queen springs to mind.
I know someone who saved for a 4 bedroom house for years. Him and his wife moved in. His wife had an affair. Now he lives in a one bedroom bedsit and he goes around to see his wife (Still in the 4 bedroom house) and see's her lover mowing the front garden. Is that fair?0 -
I know someone who saved for a 4 bedroom house for years. Him and his wife moved in. His wife had an affair. Now he lives in a one bedroom bedsit and he goes around to see his wife (Still in the 4 bedroom house) and see's her lover mowing the front garden. Is that fair?
his stupid fault for giving her the house0 -
I know someone who saved for a 4 bedroom house for years. Him and his wife moved in. His wife had an affair. Now he lives in a one bedroom bedsit and he goes around to see his wife (Still in the 4 bedroom house) and see's her lover mowing the front garden. Is that fair?
Life is not fair, the clue is in the word WIFE. Whatever happened she got the house presuming as she had kids.
You think you are going to fare any better as the boyfriend who is not actively interested in the kids as "dad".
What do you think you would be entitled to exactly. If you are scared your gf is going to cheat again, so you want dibs on the house to screw her over, walk away and think of those kids.0 -
Choosen isnt a real word.Hello all,
I have a quick question which is worrying me because i'm a honest person. My GF has 2 kids and the dad pays maintence.
We have been going out for 2 years and are talking about moving in together. I will pay her rent. My income for 2009/2010 was about 6K as i worked Part Time.
I'm starting a new job near her and my income will be 20K. She just told me her income is 12k, but she gets £135 a week! Tax Credits as a single working mum of 2 kids.
What i want to know is will she lose her £135 a week and if she does why should i have to pay another £600 a month on top of the rent i was going to pay her for living they. It doesn't seem fair if this is true. I've choosen not to have kids.0 -
Women with kids tend to come as part of the package you can't have just her. If you take her on you take on the responsibility of the kids, if you were to marry you'd be there step-father.This is a system account and does not represent a real person. To contact the Forum Team email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0
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I know someone who saved for a 4 bedroom house for years. Him and his wife moved in. His wife had an affair. Now he lives in a one bedroom bedsit and he goes around to see his wife (Still in the 4 bedroom house) and see's her lover mowing the front garden. Is that fair?
Are you going to base your life decisions on what happened to your mate?Gone ... or have I?0
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