Partner moving in advise

pinkpig08

Wouldn't it be more beneficial for the baby to have its' father around 24/7?

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

The problem is that you are already commiting benefit fraud in the eyes of the DWP.

We are not being judgemental those are the rules.

The fact is this is not some casual relationship you are in, you are a "couple" in every sense of the word.

I presume your "partner" is the father of your unborn child & therefore society (quite rightly) so expects him to take responsibility for both it & you.

Im sorry that's not want you wanted to hear but that is how it is viewed from a legal & moral point of view.

Tom_G_3

Hi Pink yes it would be ideal, but money is tight as it is, if I was to have him living with me I dont know the complications towards my money, this is why I am asking to see if anyone else has maybe been in a simular situation, he will be around as much as possible if it means he is not here during the nights due to the financial implications I will have to do it alone, not easy with a 3 year old there as well lol but you have to do what you have to do! Im just hopeing someone can shed some light on the subject for me before I jump in at the deep end. xx

tronski

I'm not sure on the benefits side of things, but couldn't your partner move in and look after the baby and your other child, while you did some extra hours at work? Or got a 2nd job?

This might help to make up any shortfall if your benefits are reduced.

alwaysonthego_2

Tom_G wrote: »

Should that be the case I would not bother working at all and claim full housing benefit, full council tax and income support being as the state says I do not need to work till my son is 11.

This changes to 7 in october

It would seem from your posts that you're LTAHAW and should declare your situation to the relevant benefit authorities and let them decide how to proceed otherwise if you are reported you will be investigated.

p.s he doesn't particulary have to stop nights for you not to be classed as a couple for benefit purposes, it is much ore complex then that.

Tom_G_3

Thanks BCS, I know its how it is viewed but some people think they are allowed to look down there nose and judge, not you mind. My partner is looking for work and hopefully will get back into work he has had a job all his working life. I think I will just have to update my status and deal with what comes our way, hopefully I wont loose the house or money I use to keep my son happy. Benefit Fraud is a harsh word, as he is not working anyway, he is not my sons father and has no obligation to take on payments for my son, his money comes via child tax credit. There is the option to opt for a council house but with a 15 year waiting list its a long way off!! xx

Tom_G_3

With all the above in mind I will contact the relevant people and see what happens but does anyone know who I am ment to actually contact is it the Housing benefit or DWP? xx

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Tom_G wrote: »

Thanks BCS, I know its how it is viewed but some people think they are allowed to look down there nose and judge, not you mind. My partner is looking for work and hopefully will get back into work he has had a job all his working life. I think I will just have to update my status and deal with what comes our way, hopefully I wont loose the house or money I use to keep my son happy. Benefit Fraud is a harsh word, as he is not working anyway, he is not my sons father and has no obligation to take on payments for my son, his money comes via child tax credit. There is the option to opt for a council house but with a 15 year waiting list its a long way off!! xx

Im only trying to help.

I was investigated for benefit fraud last year as I had a new boyfriend (i'd only known him for a few months & wasn't pregnant with his baby) who was spending alot of time round my house & occasionly sleeping over.

The DWP didn't care that he wasn't the father of my 3 children & whether I thought he should have to support us financially.

Unlike your situation I was ill & it was proven that he was coming around to help me out with myself & my kids so therefore we were found to not be a couple.

Im just warning you of what might happen if someone reports you & you get investigated.

Breast_Cancer_Survivor

Tom_G wrote: »

With all the above in mind I will contact the relevant people and see what happens but does anyone know who I am ment to actually contact is it the Housing benefit or DWP? xx

If your partner moves in you will need to contact the tax credit helpline who will stop your current claim & send you forms to start a new joint claim.

He will need to inform the DWP & you will need to inform the council regarding your LHA.

Good luck with your new life & your new baby.

CJN4

If money is incredibly tight then perhaps it isnt a good idea to have another child - for the childs sake.

If you do choose to have another then I wish you the very best - my only advice would be that having a mum and dad around full time, all the time would benefit the child far more than a few extra pounds of benefits.

If your boyfriend is old enough to be a father then he should be old enough and mature enough to live away from his mum and stand on his own two feet.

He would be perfect to have around if you are doing some work - save you on childcare etc

He can look for work from your place instead of his mums especially if he is there most of the time anyway.

Best of luck.

Living as a couple / family should take priority over what the state can provide.

Perhaps if he looks for work from your place then you can work full time? When he finds a job you can then drop your hours again - problem solved?