My 5yo son may have high-functioning autism & I need help on how to discipline him :D

cleopatra4485

Mics_chick wrote: »

This comes across as a sense of humour to me?
Did you think it was funny when you posted it?

Pastures New seems very similar to my sister, of course we knew from about 2 that my youngest brother had autism (haven't seen any child as severe as him) My mother was quite old when she was pregnant with him so had lots of testing and it turned out at the time that he had an abnormal chromosome.

My younger sister (18) people think is 'strange'. She was a very naughty child, she jumped the school fence a few times in primary school, my mum had to try and pull her out of the car, while she was hanging onto the car door. The other day she was meant to come round to mine to visit me and bubba, I am waiting and waiting for her and I was calling and texting and she just ignored me completely. I of course had a row with her and she didn't understand what she had done wrong :rotfl:Also a bizarre frustration with red lights as they are about to change, quite obsessive. She has just had a blood test to see if she too has these abnormal chromosome, we are waiting to find out. Like pastures New she writes quite openly to friends and people on-line, but closed off face to face

PasturesNew

With taking things literally, I was asked at an interview (1st question, never been asked before) "how did you prepare for this interview?"

Well, it's an interview, you have to answer the questions... I looked at her confused and said, matter of factly, "I got up, showered and came here." I had no idea there was another answer.

Open questions pose the biggest difficulty. Unless I know what sort of answer you want, I don't know how to answer. So I will usually give the wrong answer, but once I know what you really meant I can answer it with the right answer.

The world seems to have more open questions these days ... I really don't like those ones. I even ask people now what sort of answer they want, only it's hard wording that right so they understand that I don't understand the question. Even simple things (trying to think of an example) ... and I can't right now.

In the workplace, open instructions are impossible too. Imagine if the phone rang and your boss just barked "I'm in the meeting room with Tom, can you organise sandwiches" and hangs up ... no. No I can't organise sandwiches. I have no idea what you expect. Go to Tesco and pick up two £1 cheese sandwiches? Meat ones? How many? Just sandwiches? Bit of cake maybe? So interpreting instructions leaves me anxious and unable to complete the task as there are too many unknowns.

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If we can't give advice, or I/we talk about stuff u don't want to know.., hopefully can make u laugh lol

PasturesNew

Mics_chick wrote: »

This comes across as a sense of humour to me?
Did you think it was funny when you posted it?

Yes
But you're either "in tune" with my version of humour, or you're not ... and my next posting can cause immense upset and distress and you could just get really irate with me ... and I would NEVER be able to work out why. Even if I read every post through in its entirety and analysed it for a week, I'd never ever get where I'd upset you.



So, my next course of action would be to run away and never return. And I'd never ever ever know why things went t1ts up. And it's "welcome to my world of never quite getting the hang of making friends".

I've tried everything, been everywhere, wanted to make friends. But the more I tried, the more I failed. And I'd go home and never work out why I was ostracised. And this went on for years, decades. Now I know it's me and why. Doesn't stop it happening, but at least now I know I must have done something hideous

Mics_chick

So you DO have a SOH Pastures

Mics_chick

One occasion I remember clearly when I didn't get it and just couldn't do what was being asked was on a course to train me and colleagues how to put open and closed questioning techniques into practice during appraisals, which involved role play.
EVERY other person on the course (about 6 to 8 people) got it and successfully completed the role play but I was almost catatonic with fear coz I hadn't got a clue what to do - it was like being asked to fly to the moon :huh:

PasturesNew

Mics_chick wrote: »

So you DO have a SOH Pastures

I've always convinced myself that due to my superior intelligence, the reason people don't "get it" is because they're thick

PasturesNew

julie03 wrote: »

for pasturesnew

would parts of aspergers apply to someone who has ASD
as my son is totally disorganised which is part of his dyspraxia but the way he explains things to me is baffling, he goes into details which are so irrelavent that half way through i have i haven't a clue what he is talking about.
and he doesnt like noisy situations can only work at school if its quiet otherwise he will go into his own little world and shut the rest out.
so some of the things you say are true for my son and others are not, he def isnt private, he loves to sing and dance,( not very well i might add) in front of others and wants to be a rock star

I don't know. Certainly some of that is "on the scale".
Personally, I wouldn't want people looking at me singing/dancing, although I'd be fine if I were acting as that's not me, that's the character - and I used to do characters very well.

All I can do is give examples of "my real life" -v- what the lists might call it.

It's a huge spectrum and if you're ASD then you're one big pick n mix of it. Maybe I have all the coconut macaroons ... and no liquorice sticks. Others will be mostly liquorice ...and maybe one of those strange blue bobbly ones.

Everybody's different.

cleopatra4485

Mics_chick wrote: »

One occasion I remember clearly when I didn't get it and just couldn't do what was being asked was on a course to train me and colleagues how to put open and closed questioning techniques into practice during appraisals, which involved role play.
EVERY other person on the course (about 6 to 8 people) got it and successfully completed the role play but I was almost catatonic with fear coz I hadn't got a clue what to do - it was like being asked to fly to the moon :huh:

Do you feel like you have some Aspie like traits? They think it could be genetic. I like to get up and sing in front of lots of people, I even did a wet t-shirt competition in my teens :rotfl:but I feel like if I am walking down the road, or in a pub and walking to the toilet for example and I start to think I am walking funny and dreading if people look at me. I can say things and completely insult someone without meaning to do it. I like spreadsheets organised and colour coded and websites that are colour coded, quite anal about it, but it could just be that I have been around it a very long time I have become paranoid :rotfl:

Mics_chick

cleopatra4485 wrote: »

Do you feel like you have some Aspie like traits? They think it could be genetic. I like to get up and sing in front of lots of people, I even did a wet t-shirt competition in my teens :rotfl:but I feel like if I am walking down the road, or in a pub and walking to the toilet for example and I start to think I am walking funny and dreading if people look at me. I can say things and completely insult someone without meaning to do it. I like spreadsheets organised and colour coded and websites that are colour coded, quite anal about it, but it could just be that I have been around it a very long time I have become paranoid :rotfl:

I have always felt that something "wasn't quite right" with the wiring in my brain and alot of the things people are describing are ringing true with me personally...